Most of the time I either feel anxious, angry, or depressed. It seems like I think about suicide a thousand times a day. I am 17, will graduate in May, and I have no idea what I want to do with the rest of my life. The thought of going to college and having to take tests and write essays makes me want to jump off of a cliff (I am being serious.) I quit my part time job of 8 months because it was driving me crazy, but I don't feel any better.
I have a hard time maintaining interpersonal relationships because I idolize people and then get bored with them and "toss them aside." My grades are okay but they are dropping because some days I just don't want to wake up and haul myself off to my god-forsaken high school.
I have also been feeling like I am "not real" about once a week for the past month or so. I feel like I am living in a dream or part of me is existing in some unknown realm. It is frightening because I can't connect with anything or anyone around me. What's my problem?
2006-12-02 14:55:32 · 15 answers · asked by Jane D 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I don't think it can be dismissed as "adolescence" like some of you are insinuating.
2006-12-02 15:38:53 · update #1
I think yo are suffering from anxiety over the vagueness as to what you want to do with the rest of your life
2006-12-02 14:58:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can not believe how many goofy answers you have gotten before mine. I used to work as a R.N. on psychiatric units for 22 years and also have had many of the symptoms you describe. You have severe Major Depression and need to see your doctor right away!
You need to be on an antidepressant medication and also see a good counselor to help you sort out your problems in life and help you find new ways of doing things (for an example, not idolizing people)
If ever you feel unsafe, and think that you might actually kill yourself, you need to go to the nearest hospital emergency room immediately! This is serious stuff you are dealing with.
The good news is that you can be helped. There are effective antidepressant medications and some good counselors. You don't have to continue to feel this bad!
By the way, when I was 17 y/o I didn't know what I wanted to do with the rest of my life either. I wanted to go to college but it was 1961, my family had no money, and there were no scholarships available to me. I could have gone to college if I lived at home but I couldn't stand living with my mother any longer.
What I found is that I had to try different jobs to actually see what they were like in order to have any idea of whether I would like doing that or if I had skills in that area.
I also had the idea that to go to college when I didn't know what I wanted to do would be useless. What if I took the wrong courses? I enlisted in the Air Force to leave home and get some job experience but I wouldn't encourage that. I found that being in the military was much worse than living with my mother :-)
After the Air Force, I did go to college and liked it much better than high school. You are young enough to try several different jobs until you have a bettter idea about what you want to do. After working a year or 2 after you graduate from high school, you might no longer be so fed up with writing papers and the like.
2006-12-02 23:46:18 · answer #2 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was recently having the same problem, but I am 36 years old. I have had severe anxiety, but I went to my doctor and went through several medications until finally finding a medicine without serious side effects. This medicine is called Buspar. My blood pressure has gone down and my feelings of anxiety have gone down a lot. I would suggest you do the same thing.
2006-12-02 23:03:02 · answer #3 · answered by ironchain15 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are losing who you think you are and that at times you're trying to be every were but you can't do that. It also sounds like you need to talk with someone about the other feeling you are having because their could be more going on then even you know right now. The feeling you are having are okay and it is okay to talk to someone about them. Alot of people at your age have so much going on and so many feeling and they just don't know what to do. But most do talk because they think no one else feels this way so please get help and you will feel so much better
2006-12-02 23:08:18 · answer #4 · answered by lostsoul 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it may be the point you r at in your life. Many people freak out when they think about leaving highschool to go to college and act like a so called "adult". But you'll be o.k. I really think you are over reactting and you should probably consult a psychologist , there's nothing wrong with that you're not crazy its just reality. College is not that hard b.c u pick the amount of work you can handle by limiting the # of classes you take. ............................calm down.
2006-12-02 23:03:25 · answer #5 · answered by phillygirl513 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You just need to rest and relax, when I was your age i went through the same things. And why is it that suicide has to be a household word amongst us females. You have alot to live for, you just don't realize it yet. Just take things one day at a time and try some meditation techniques, it is really helpful. Trust me just work on being a good influential person and you shall be that and even more.
2006-12-02 23:02:37 · answer #6 · answered by Kimmie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I understand.
Ego always tells us something is wrong, and always has some sort of evidence. Well... who is ever guilty?
Your reactions to life are entirely natural. How could it be otherwise? However... you must work on life to make life work.
There are answers, if you look...
2006-12-02 23:56:30 · answer #7 · answered by unseen_force_22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask yourself whats wrong.Right it down. Put down
things you like to do. find subjects you enjoy. Write those.What you would feel you want from adulthood,marriage,kids,career,
hobbies.Find out what is missing that you need.Your smart,pretty,
young, no need to be this way.Go out and grab what life has to offer.make friends,get love from family and friends.
YOU CAN DO THIS! HUGS TO YOU!
2006-12-02 23:16:29 · answer #8 · answered by thresher 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dude...i feel for you...I am around your age, and I am dealing with the same ****, losing jobs, college apps piling up, not certain of the future. You are not alone, just be confident that good stuff will come...
peace
2006-12-02 23:03:37 · answer #9 · answered by laxer16 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would start with your regular doctor. Talk to him or her and be open as you can be. They will get you going in the right direction.
2006-12-02 23:05:51 · answer #10 · answered by Allan M 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋