Help! Thoughts of suicide. Too many things going on in life!?

Question

I need help. My mind is running wild with thoughts of suicide but i am afraid to go seek the proper help. i am scared alone and confused. my life has just been a chaotic mess right now. i dont know what to do. im afraid to go to my parents for help because they wouldn't expect this out of me. no one i know would. i had a normal childhood. i was happy and was living life. now i have really changed for the worse.

please give only serious answers please!

Answer 1

hey gurl, I know where ur coming from since I have tried to commit suicide since i was 14. I didnt seek help, but someone thought i was depressed so they contacted my doctor and i landed in the hospital where they said i had severe depression and high anxiety which sucks cause Im on anti depressants for the rest of my life, but they do help a lot. Life is so crazy most times but what u have to think about is if you died, how ur parents will be so heartbroken, ur friends will go crazy, everone in ur community will be so empty, you dont believe it but its true how suicide affects people, please talk to your rents, they care and will help you, trust me, its the best thing i did, i didnt want to tall anyone but once i did everyone helped me get through it and they wont think bad of you, if you have more questions e mail me, youll get through this, just trust me and dont do anything hurtful to yourself, please

Answer 2

There isn't anything to joke around about depression or suicide. I've been in the boat you are in and I know how it feels to start crying for no reason, to only think that the bad things will never end. But they will. Praying has helped me. So has my family. You must know someone you trust that you can seek counsel from. You can open up a little at a time to see if they are trust worthy. Funny thing for me was that I was the one everyone else confided in. But I've found things to kind of go two steps forward, one step back. Try and read, do things that are positive like helping others. You don't dwell on your own problems when you are helping others. God be with you.

Answer 3

I've heard that people choose suicide because they see no way out of their problems. You say your parents wouldn't expect your suicide thoughts out of you? The time when you were happy and living life,did you expect those thoughts out of you then?
There is such a thing as depression which can be a serious sickness. And like a sickness it can be cured. I would highly suggest that you let your parents know what's going on so you can get started on the road to recovery. Have you considered what your death would do to your parents? Especially your death by your own hand? Some mothers never get over the death of her child. Best wishes to you.

Answer 4

Well, first you need to know your not alone... many people think about how they can excape life... the thing is ...you can't life happens... hearts break, people lie and the world can just be a mean place.. the most important thing is.. you should find someone to confide in... if you don't want to go to your parents and or a profressional... try go to a chat room .. they have self help ones and talk about it.. most importantly don't harm yourself.. I know at times I feel like I can't and don't want to go on.. but I have to.. I have people who love and count on me and so do you.. Also, YOu should look into to GOD. HE is always there for you but if thats not your kind of thing.. then do as I said and go to a self help chat room and just talk.. remember it rains before it pours.. means it gets worse than it gets better... another thing is .. if life was always great and going well, how would we have the highs in life if we were always doing good... and when things start to turn around you will appreciate the good much more than you did before... why do you think movie stars create such drama.. they get bored of everything always going there way and the good starts to look dull.. so .. it will turn around.. I promise. plus think next time you find a friend or someone whom is having the same thoughts you are now , you can help them and you will realy know what there going through.. so hold on..

Answer 5

you are not alone! You say there are so many things going on... I'm no therapist, but although I've never been as depressed as you, when my life's a chaotic mess I make a list of all the things making it messy. If it helps, you can try writing it down but otherwise your own mind should do just fine. Once you're sure you've made a complete list of all these things, take them one at a time, by order of seriousness, and ask yourself... "why do I have this problem?" "is it my fault?" "what will happen if this continues?" It can make you feel worse to consider what will happen if your life continues in this way, so take that possibility and consider... is it REALLY that bad? Is the problem terrible awful or am I so frightened I won't analyze it? You'll probably find it's not so bad. After you've calmed down a bit to this (it could take several weeks, you have to be patient.) you think of an alternative. If you imagine a better life before you've decided it wouldn't be as bad as you thought it was, you'll depress yourself more so decide that life wouldn't be all THAT bad if this happened! Upgrade your future... "so if I keep getting Fs I'll have a crappy job and a tiny house." say, "If I can improve on just ONE grade, everything else will get a little easier." so choose the most important class and work on it. (this is just an example.) what can you do to improve? Just DO it! and you have to follow through with it or the depression will return. FORCE yourself to do better. once you have gotten rid of that one problem, all the others will be SO much easier. If the problem isn't your fault, you have to realize that and say, "it's not so bad, and there's really nothing I can do about it." If your life is so miserable you're considering suicide... then it can't get any worse, it can only get better! Improve it! I'm gonna tell you my own mini story... last year, even though I'm pretty bright, my grades suddenly dropped. not just low... rock bottom. Fs and Ds and like one B. I failed math and english... but those used to be my easiest subjects. Then other things started falling... I needed more sleep, I was arguing with my mom and I was unhappy. I was so depressed I wanted to dig a hole in the ground and bury myself in it so I wouldn't have to face the world. Finally I decided to try to fix it. I thought about it... I had gone to a new school, and after years of straight A's, combined with the fear of not fitting in, I was mentally exhausted. To fix that, I started going to bed earlier. (you have to start simple to fix the problem) I started feeling better at school and I argued less with my parents. Then I decided, Math is most important... I'll work on that. Unfortunately I skipped that and worked on all classes at once, and I hardly improved. This year, I'm focusing on turning in assignments and working very very hard on keeping a good schedule. the class I'm trying to focus on most is Math now, and I'm not trying to be perfect... if I try too hard I'll do the same thing as I did last year. My grades are slowly, slowly improving, and my relationship with my parents is great now. I feel better and more relaxed and I am so much less depressed. And all my other problems are going away too. Life for me is still chaotic and I have a long way to go but I already feel SO much better. I'm fixing my life before it's too late, and I have accepted that my future won't be as great as I'd like it to be, but I can still get it to be very close. This acceptance has given me strength and a better life. Don't give up, you can do it!

Answer 6

Life can be very confusing, regardless of age. I would definitely recommend telling your parents or friend(s) who really love you, or whom you love. At the very least, your doctor or pastor/priest. I have been through depression and know what it's like. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. You may simply be suffering from a chemical depression, which may need medications. It is never as bad as it feels, and you generally find that by being honest with someone who cares, starts the ball rolling to better health.

Answer 7

Don't be afraid to talk to your parents. They love you and want you to be happy. Let them in on how you're feeling, please. Together you will figure what to do and how to do it. If you are open with your parents, it will at least help you get past the feelings of loneliness.

Part of growing up is realizing that you are an individual and separate from others in our thoughts and emotions unless we chose to share them. The down side is that you can feel so alone sometimes, but it's just a feeling. You have people who love you and want everything good for you.

Answer 8

Sarah, suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. That being said, I, too, feel suicidal from time to time, especially during the holiday season. One of the best resources someone gave me (on Yahoo! Answers, check my "Miss_Ursie_La's Questions" section) was to volunteer to help someone else. It's true, it will take you out of your mood, and make you feel like you are doing something worthwhile. I need to feel needed and useful sometimes so volunteering is a win-win situation.

Regardless of what resources you use to prevent suicide, don't forget the counseling thing. I'm not hip on counseling, but I'm not a doctor either. Sometimes depression is biochemical so don't pass up the professional help either.

Answer 9

Go to the doctor and seek advice. I went to the ER when I had a severe anxiety attack and high blood pressure. After all of the tests were done, I was given some anti anxiety medicine, which helped me sleep for about 12 hours, and referred back to my own doctor. My doctor put me on a medicine called Buspar. It has helped control my anxiety very effectively and has lowered my blood pressure considerably. Please go to the doctor and get some help. Suicide is not the answer.

Answer 10

Call the National Suicide prevention Hotline immediately:

1.800.SUICIDE (784-2433),

Other than that take a deep breath...exhale slowly...and try to relax and calm down...theres no one who's going to hurt you...just try to organize your thoughts and relax...people are here to help you...I understand what it's like to be deep down in the grip of despair..hell some of the things I've been through might be too graphic or unbelievable to be posted to this forum...but what you gotta realize is there are people who want to help...it's up to you to find them....granted not everyone has an open ear...but you can find those who do listen...they aren't hard to find either...but it's up to you to take the first step and ask for help...now go ahead and make the call...no one's stopping you..1.800.SUICIDE (784-2433), ...peace g/f..