Girlfriend pregnant.... break up with her?

Question

I found this out last night. She took me out to dinner and was being all sweet, and she paid for it. Then she said she wanted to go for a walk with me in the park. We sit down on a bench and she says I have somehitng to tell you. The she says "Im pregnant, I know this for sure".

I look at her in disgust and she can tell Im mad. She gets choked up and says "say somehting" and starts to cry. I said Im not in this for the long run and dont try to pin me down whit unwanted responsibility. I said "it would be better for you both not to have me around as a father.......Im not father material". She goes on about nonsense I get up to leave and tell her not to call. She's been calling ever since I even took the phone off the hook last night.

How do I get rid of her?

Answer 1

You should Not "get rid of her" you Chose to have sex with her without thinking about covering your Willy. STAND UP BE A MAN!!

Answer 2

You may think you're not father material and you may not be either way just because you're not father material doesn't mean you're not a father now. You as the father of that baby should own up to the responsibilty and atleast speak to the lady.
You may not want this responsibility but the fact is you have the responsibility now of being a father. She might be able to do this alone but still you should be there with her and the baby. It was in the act of your own pleasures in which this baby was created... If you really aren't going to be apart of this baby's life well atleast pay child support.

Answer 3

You don't!

If you are the one responsible for her being pregnant then you are stuck with her for the long haul. You don't necessarily have to have a relationship with her, but you do have to have one with the child. You are responsible for its conception and therefore are responsible for it. It would also be the responsible thing to at least be supportive of this girl even if you do not want a long term relationship.
This is the risk you take when you sleep with someone. If you do have doubts as to whether you are the father, demand a paternity test at the earliest opportunity.
But it is up to you to make the best of a bad situation as the child is not the one at fault.

Answer 4

wow, what the hell is the matter with you? What's done is done. When that kid is born, or at a certain point in his or her life you may realize how shitty you are and want to be in their life. You should have thought of not wanting the responsibility or being good father material before you decided to be totally irresponsible by not using a condom. If you didn't want thatttt responsibility, then it's yourrrrrrr responsibility to wear a freggin condom!!!!!!!! Deal with, be a man, you should have thought of all of this before hand, but then again you must have for the simple fact you said you were not in it for the long run and didn't want responsibility like that, so blame yourself not her. If anything it's both of your faults, but by no means is it just hers. She needs to go file for child support the day that kid is born and pay for your unwanted responsibility jerk. Tell me now..... was it worth not using a condom?????????? I doubt it! Don't you dare blame your own freggin flesh and blood child for your f*** up, they didn't ask to be born, but they deserve love. You don't want to be there then pay the freggin child support every week and leave them both the hell alone so they can get a descent guy in there life that knows what it is to be a man and a good enough one that is gonna end up raising someone elses child because they are too selfish to do it themselves. I have no doubt she would be better off without you, soon enough she will see that. How do you get rid of her?! Grow up and get a life. I don't understand where all that hostility comes from, did someone treat you like that? and if they did I'm sure that felt pretty shitty, You would want to treat and put your own child through that??? And if you didn't get treated that way then where the hell did your crap come from? Were did you learn you can treat people that way??? Want to blame someone? Blame yourself, you wear the condom so when it comes down to it, it's your choice to use it whether the other person wants to or not. Just because you have a kid does not mean your life is over. Maybe you should look at it in another way.... you think you're a bad person? You said that basically.... maybe thats a greater power at work trying to save you from yourself and get you on a better track. Like I said, you don't have the right to blame others, especially not a child that didn't ask to be born, again, you are the one that didn't insist or chose to wear a condom so deal with it. You can think I'm a b**** all you want, but everything I said is the truth and I'm sure it will piss you off, but that's gonna be why it pisses you off, because it's the truth, she didn't do this on her own or to you. If anything you did it to yourself if you didn't wear a condom. If you want to act like an *** and try to deny being the father because you don't want to take responsibility that's fine, the court will order a paternity test, and if the kid is yours you will still have to pay child support and pay for the test as well. Maybe you should get a test, hopefully it's not yours' by your response to it, that poor kid. But yes, as someone else stated get her to take a test right in front of you, you buy it, and don't freggin be mean to her. For the fact that she was crying, I really doubt that she is lying, otherwise I think she would have just been pissed off, but yes their are some misguided females out there that do stupid stuff like that to try to get guys to stay with them. Too bad they don't realize at the time that if the guy doesn't want to be with them then good ridence, because they are better off without them. Don't leave her alone with it because you never know, but don't F***ing be a jerk anymore!!!!!!!! You have done enough of that and have no right! It's your own fault!

Answer 5

Is this girl the virgin Mary? Did you or did you not have sex with her.
You looked at her in disgust??!! Listen, you idiot, you are the father of this child. Whether or not you wanted to be a father the inescapable fact is you are going to be one. Grow up! Be a man and show some responsibility for your actions.
Talk to the poor girl and help her through the next nine months. You are right about one thing; she and her child would be better without you around but you're going to have to support this baby for the next eighteen years. Get used to it, dipwad.
"How do I get rid of her?" You should be ashamed.
D

Answer 6

Well if you feel that strongly about it then talk it over with her and make your point strongly clear. Then tell her why you do not want to have a relationship with her anymore and make that point clear. Once you get your point across everything should be good in the long run. Maybe you two could be friends afterwards. But this is what I'm wondering. Did you get her pregnant or did she have sex with some other dude? If she got pregnant of some other dude then yes break up with her ASAP.

Answer 7

Its not your right to "get rid of her." She put herself on the line by telling you at all! You need to take equal responsibility for what was an EQUAL mistake on your part. It doesn't matter if you don't think you're "father material" because SHE doesn't have a choice in the situation! Be a man and take care of your kid, jerk.

Answer 8

Huh you need to stand up and be a man!! If your not gonna stick around then child support is NOT cheap!!Would you want your dad to leave your mom when she found out she was pregnent with YOU????I know your freaked and it might help to talk to a trusted friend.I know your might be young to be a dad but you did the deed now do the right thing!!

Answer 9

Hi “DAD”!!

It don’t matter if your “father material” or not!! She’s going to take you to court and get $$$$$ out of you anyway !! Many years of paying child support !!

Did you completely Miss out or just sleep thru sex ed????

YOU KNOTHEAD!!

Know it’s tough but Stand up and at least act like a Man !!

Answer 10

You are so cold. You should take responsibility for your actions! You shouldn't have sex without thinking of the consequences. Well, you better grow up and take care of this baby. Don't get mad at your girlfriend. She didn't do this by herself. You helped. Next time, keep it in your pants. You childish loser.