What should I do? Apologize? Let it go?

Question

I got rid of my facebook (myspace) a week ago without telling my friends at school, who were really excited and happy that I decided to get one. Now they seem po'ed at me. Should I have said something? I thought about it but I onestly thought it would be arrogant of me to think they cared that much. I don;t know though they seemed po'ed before this, I wonder if they thought I was arrogant because I added a lot of friends. I guess I could either apologize, put it back up, act like nothing happen, let it fade away. I honestly thought they would figure out that I got rid of it and they never asked me. The screwy thing is I'm trying to get to become better friends with these people and I don't know if this screws it up. I also have incredibly low self esteem and social anxiety disorder so I guess I could be misinterpreting anger, like I do a lot, but now they have reason to be pis sed

Answer 1

these girls sound like they have nothing better to do than get mad at you about something like that, it might not seem like it now, but they aren't worth it...

Answer 2

A sure way to be miserable is trying to please everyone all the time. Some people look for, or better yet, invent reasons to get upset. Before worring about it, ask yourself, "Is this person over reacting?". And if you think so, don't worry about it. Don't feel a need to justify yourself either. Who are they to make such demands? Often for people demanding explanations, they do so in an attempt to put you on the defensive and to control you. Don't let that happen.

That said, for those few who you honestly believe there might have been a misunderstanding of your actions (and with whom you want to remain friends), talk to them about it. But, certainly do not feel a need to justify it to everyone. I wouldn't worry about having a lot of friends, but rather trying to have a few good or great friends.

Relax. You could easily be ascribing sentiments to them that these people might not be feeling. Not everyone is out to persecute you. In fact, the vast majority of people are not out to do so. Some people might no longer want to maintain a friendship with you for reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with you. Some people can only manage a few friends or have things going on in the life that prevent them from continuing developing a friendship. For most of them, it is unreasonable to expect an explanation. Friends come and go. But great friends will remain. If you can manage obtaining a few great friends, consider youself fortunate.

Answer 3

Frankly, I don't think getting rid of your facebook is something that should make people angry. It's your choice not theirs. If you are worried that your friends are angry at you over something why don't you pick the person in the group that you trust the most and ask them if you've done something to upset them. Stress that it was never your intention to anger anyone. I think that whatever it is that has your friends upset will pass in no time, as soon as the next "incident" happens with someone else. In fact, they may not be angry at you at all, you are probably just projecting your insecurities on them.

Answer 4

Now Hun you are just placing to much power in these peoples hands. Take some of your power back you are giving these people. It is possible to do this with help from others.

Answer 5

Perhaps they were happy you got a webpage so they could understand you better. Understanding is a key to good relationships, but I doubt that they are angry. You didn't say why you took it off, could you perhaps email me with the details?

Answer 6

fB connects you to people you don't/do normally speak to/; see. I honestly, I think you fcuked yourself up. Fb has gotten me close to to there people that I know I wouldn't be close to had I not had their info. and vice versa. It's for fun, your friends can see whats new etc. and you can even customize it so not all can show. Hiding away and wanting to cure social anxiety isn't going to help darling.....

Answer 7

Get some new friends. Try to find people who respect you.

Answer 8

perhaps you should assert sorry to the persons who were harm in man or woman. Or, you may want to message all of them in my view. they are going to reply to it extra efficient if you're making it own, in stead of lumping all of them jointly.

Answer 9

That's a really stupid reason to get mad at someone. Don't apologized because you didn't do anything wrong. Let them be mad if they want, they need to grow up.

Answer 10

It's your life, it's your facebook, not theirs. If you want to delete it, you delete and do what you want not your friends. Tell your friends you deleted it and if they get mad, too bad for them, they lost a friend for no reason.