I come from a poor family. Out of the 4 of us kids that are working, I'm the only one that helps the family out financially. I didn't mind at first but although I work 50+ hours a week at an ok job, which is about an hour and a half drive away. I never have money nor time for myself. I'm starting to have debts that I can't pay and my family keeps asking for more. Is it wrong to just want to walk away from all of this even though I know it would end up destroying the lives of my younger brothers and sister if I did?
2006-12-02 14:16:44 · 5 answers · asked by bosco6159 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's not wrong to feel that way. I was in a similar situation and I felt the same way. However, in reality, you know you can't walk away. Just do the best you can and be satisfied in knowing that you are helping your family. It can be stressful, but you're doing the right thing.
2006-12-02 14:23:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are family. Don't leave them, but do try to inspire them to help out.
Consider it an honor to be "chosen" to carry this burden. I would say that in fact, it is your honor at stake. "Do the right thing."
Debts may be important to reduce and eliminate, as they may affect your credit rating (if they're that kind of debt). Try to avoid increasing those debts, too. In light of this, you should inform you family that you'd like to avoid the problems associated with debt. The more so, your siblings should contribute money for family needs.
Of course, you may deserve to treat yourself, as you may feel. Save a bit of money for something you want, like a luxury item (a game console? a bookshelf stereo?) or a weekend away. If this is too much to consider, at least think about it sometime down the line.
Life is short. Do it right, by doing the right thing, for your family and for yourself --- both.
Good luck, friend.
2006-12-02 22:30:40 · answer #2 · answered by RolloverResistance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a way, you have to find a balance. its okay and normall to think about turning your back. but theyre family, you need to try. get them to help, and find a job closer to where you live, even if its a little less pay, balance it, take a weekend off, im sure it couldnt hurt that much. tell them you cant do it by your self,
theyre going to need to learn to stand on theyre own 2 feet a little.
2006-12-02 22:25:56 · answer #3 · answered by Leesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to walk away and make your family stand on their own two feet. how do you expect to have a life of your own if you continue doing this? you wont destroy your brother and sister.besides there is nothing saying that from time to time you can do things for them. but you don't need to do for everyone.
2006-12-02 22:24:18 · answer #4 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What are the parents doing in all this?
2006-12-02 22:30:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋