He's very shy and wont let us touch him and he wont come to the toilet when we tell him too. He's 3, he's one of our daycare kids and we have not had to train one so shy. Any suggestions?
2006-12-02 14:14:10 · 13 answers · asked by Baby Julie due 5/12 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
We are trying to potty train him at home and at the daycare at the same time. He's is not used to other people because he just started being in a daycare, before he stayed at home with his parents or with his grandmother.
2006-12-02 14:29:14 · update #1
I don't understand why the parent doesn't potty train him. I t should n't be your problem. My advice is speak with the parents.
2006-12-02 14:22:36 · answer #1 · answered by Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ummm...did you not have to get a degree before having a daycare operation? There was no law requirements on who can look after children?..How scary is that!!!
Short of it is..he is not ready to be trained..it is quite normal for a child of his age to be not want to go to a different potty than one at his own home(if he has started using a potty at all)..Give him time to be more ready..do not tell him to go potty..but ask him after a few weeks if he would like to try to go..if he says. no..smile and say maybe another time. Potty training is something a child leads..not an adult. The child will give real signs he is ready to use a potty. What you are doing now is making him scared.
2006-12-03 00:16:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First to start off get him trained at home. Worry about public places after he has it down. Second, find out why he is so shy, or try to. If you can't you have to build up his trust and his being comfortable with you. Also having other's that are same age or reasonably older to be an example like an older sibling can also be very helpful.
2006-12-02 23:19:00 · answer #3 · answered by gistog2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the child doesn't want to be touched, they may have some intimacy issues and require a psychologist's assistance. To answer your question, I would use visual and verbal methods to potty train the child. Possibly movies and tapes. Also, encourage the parents to use the same methods for consistency.
2006-12-02 22:25:36 · answer #4 · answered by Tangerine 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i trained one of my daughters when she was 18mths and yesterday my almost 3yr old daughter finally pooped in the toilet. as for being in a daycare setting thats hard. first thing is he has to be comfortable with you. someone has to take the time and reach out to him and give some special attention. read to him, ask him questions about pics, family questions about ,"do you have any brothers or sisters. Make him feel important. Eventually he will relax and start talking to you little by little. find out what things spark up his eyes. My 8yr old daughter has a book buddy at school. When she met her the kindergartener cried and cried and cried during this friday gathering. no one else did it to thier buddy. my daughter was so excited and looking forward to the day that she would be able to read to a kindergartener. I felt so bad for her because my child is so sooo super sweet and for something like this to be happening to her killed me. so i decided to take a favorite book from our home and volunteer that day. when the little girl saw us walk in...she started to cry. we sat down. i gave my child facial expressions to just ignore it and to just follow my lead. as i was reading i sounded excited, alarmed or surprised. As i was reading i asked questions, she answered and then some. and she did stop crying. after reading the book i told her to go find some other books that she wanted me to read to her. she just loved it. i told my daughter that it was her day to pick her favorite books and not to talk to her other friends while they were having book buddy time. my daughter was so suprised with how i got this little girl to smile, talk and laugh. she said"mom that was the first time i heard that little voice of hers". before we left, her book buddy gave my daughter a biggg hug. the teachers were surprised and to this day everything is wonderful. so get to know the kid before trying the potty training.
2006-12-02 22:44:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send the child home to the parents to train. You do not want to end up in court.
2006-12-06 15:57:33 · answer #6 · answered by ace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definately speak with the parents. At three it is very common for him not to want other people to see his "private" areas. I am afraid you could accidently do more harm than good
2006-12-02 22:24:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where I live it`s up to the parents to toliet train their kid.Not sure what you can do with this kid because he is at the age where he dont want others to see his privates.
2006-12-02 22:17:45 · answer #8 · answered by darlene100568 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't potty train a child who isn't ready to be potty trained. Obviously he isn't ready.
2006-12-02 22:35:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out wat kind of candy (or something like that) he likes and tell him when ever he goes to the potty (like he's post 2) in the big potty he will get a treat.make if sound really good.
and if that don't work, when u tell him 2 go 2 the potty and he don't, whip him. BUT GET PERMISSION FROM PARENTS BE 4 WHIP'n HIM.
2006-12-02 22:24:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋