i need advise!!!! help!!!?

Question

i have been having anxiety and it is running my dad up the wall... one day it got to the point when we had a slight arguement he snapped and almost hit me with an whisky bottel... so i ran away.. now knowing im only 16 i went to only of my closest relatives house and i am there now.. im just scared that my dad would kill himself by the way he was acting that night.. he didnt hurt me but scared me to death... i was wandering if it was the right thing to do.... i mean now he thinks that his whole family is back stabbers
and he isnt answering the phone for anyone. he un pluggs the phone and isnt answering his cell phone everytime my family tries to call... what should i do.. i have to go back to school!!!

well he also did some stuff to my friend that she told me about the day before we ran away about my dad touching her..well my firned has bee calling my dad, dad for a long time now and all of a sudden my dad tells her to stop calling him dad because he looks at her boobs. if i go back i will feel very unconfortible because she is younger then i am... soo i dont want anything happening to me... and i cant call him... he unpluggs the phone for no one to call him..

my anxiety has been really bad and i dont know how to think about the positive..

the bad thing is that he had a loaded gun in his room and that is the first place he went.... im worried

i live 2 1/2 hours away from my school... how would i go back???

HAS ANYONE GONE THROUGH SOMETHING LIKE THIS... WHAT DID U DO????

Answer 1

take you butt back now

Answer 2

You did the right thing to run to a close relatives home. Your dad is the adult - he should be in better control of his emotions. It sounds like the family needs therapy big time.

You need to have another adult intervene here. You should not just go back home. There is a big problem and it needs careful and immediate attention.

If there is a counselor at school you can talk to, please do that. If the relative you are staying with can talk to your dad, that might work.

The fact that he has unplugged the phone and isn't answering his cell phone is a red flag that this man is out of control - he is acting more like a child than you are.

Stay with the family you are currently with - until you can get someone in authority to ensure that you will be safe in your home.

If your dad decides to kill himself, that is his decision. Again, this man is an adult and should be capable of making adult decisions. You (especially at 16 years of age) should not have to be worrying about whether or not he will commit suicide.

You have to understand that you can not control your Dad. If he is going to harm himself, he's making that decision. He is using you as an excuse - not a reason. Do not be duped by his unstable emotional condition - it is his problem not yours.

Do not return home until an outside authority figure tells you it is safe and okay to return home.

God bless you - you have a good head on your shoulders and are making some good choices.

Answer 3

You just need to get away for a while, you was in a very dangerous sitution at you farthers house, you should look out for your saftey first. But you should still try to talk it out with your dad, because is thicker than water, Even if he doesn't listen tell him what you have to say and leave it to him to think about it, you haven't done anything wrong, good to school and continue with you education, don't put to much pressure on yourself cause things will work out just have to take it day by day, go luck!!!!

Answer 4

Don't go back until your Dad gets help. Talk to a school nurse or counselor about your anxiety. Pray your Dad realizes what is happening to him and you and gets help. God always hears.

Answer 5

i dont no? dont quote me on this but i think u should mail him a letter and tell him your sorry for this problem and then at the bottom righting but you have to pickup the phone and find out where i am and only then u must pik me up and take me home

so how do u like that idea well good luck
Mandy

Answer 6

if you feel safer where you are you should stay there and call your dad let him know you love him, youre safe and you think that he needs help. maybe your encouragement will get him help. try talking to a counselor at school or someone who can help you as for school maybe the relative you are staying with can take you to school

Answer 7

I'm sorry sweetheart but no one should tell u what to do with this...You should go to your relatives your staying with. They know your dad the best and can tell u the best thing to do.I do wish u all the luck.

Answer 8

Call the police and tell them you need the number for Child Protective Services. Call them and tell them what's happening.

Answer 9

ask one of your family members to call the police where your dad is and explain to them that know one has heard from him and that he is not picking up the phone. ask the police to go and check on him, if they tell the police that this is not normal for him. they will check on him.

Answer 10

oh God same problem here with my dad except it was kinda worst.i remember crying and praying to God every night to let things go right.go see him.let him know you love him.give a a hug.he has depression problems.he feels lonely and dissapointed but his mind doesnt recognize that andhe needs you to help him understand.let him know you love him.

Answer 11

well my first advice to you will be. how well do you know your dad do you think he was going to kill you. i think you need to think about your dad he nees you now more than you need your self. to make thinks right for your self i advise don't go the easy way go the right way help your solf the puzzle to your dad attudite than your mind will be clear. right now if you go back to school i think your mind wouldn't be at rest right now it's not.