Is it bad manners to touch the opposite sex in this situation.?
2006-12-02 13:43:45 · 15 answers · asked by rentsdew 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Not at all. Don't take your friend's reaction personally. There are no "right" or "wrong" ways to grieve just as there are no wrong ways to show you care for those who are grieving, especially if you had good intentions. I'm sure she appreciated that you cared, and that many care about her.
2006-12-02 13:48:40 · answer #1 · answered by jordan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. Different people have different levels of comfort with being touched. Touching someone on the shoulder is not usually considered too forward.
2006-12-03 00:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't inappropriate of you to initiate contact, but she is/was probably tired of people telling her that they're sorry, as, with any death, you hear it from almost everyone. I'd suspect simply talking about other things would make her feel better, or watching funny movies or doing something else might make things a bit easier.
2006-12-02 23:18:46 · answer #3 · answered by Mimsical 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it isn't, when you lose someone you love, it's hard to not be angry and take it out on the world. when my mother died, i hated it when people would try to tell me how sorry they were, or say anything about her death. i think it is just a way to keep it from being real. if no one said anything about it then it would be like she wasn't dead. it sounds weird but that is how i felt.
2006-12-02 21:50:35 · answer #4 · answered by cvgm702 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it is. It shows you care, and have sympathy for her. She was probably just upset and when girls get upset, they often like to be alone and not be touched. Just give her time. After a while, she will eventually come to you next time.
2006-12-02 22:05:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she displayed bad manners, but let it go because she is emotional and probably did that because she has to deal with the reality of his death.
2006-12-02 21:47:19 · answer #6 · answered by lakecity21 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad, you tried to help. You may have startled her, or she is just one of those people who do not like to be touched.
It isn't bad manners.
2006-12-03 02:41:30 · answer #7 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she was just grief-stricken. Perhaps she was feeling angry at the world, or perhaps she feared that if she allowed herself to have human contact, she would break down in tears. It was impossible for you to predict exactly what she wanted; perhaps at another moment, the contact would have been welcome. Don't worry. Just continue your friendship as usual.
2006-12-02 21:49:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess she was just very emotional - being sad, angry, worried and feeling so alone and grieving all at the same time. Do not put too much into it. I am sure she appreciated your gesture but, just like what I said - she wasn't herself because of her deep deep grief!
2006-12-02 21:48:58 · answer #9 · answered by Kellybelle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO SHES JUST STILL UPSET AND PROBLEY DOSEN'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT.YOUR A OK YOU ARE A GOOD PERSON YOU TRIED TO HELP HER. SHES THE BAD PERSON SHE DIDN'T CRY ON YOUR SHOULDER WHEN YOU GAVE HER A CHANCE SHE DIDN'T LET YOU HELP HER SO IF YOU WANT TO KNOW I THINK YOUR THE GOOD PERSON.
2006-12-02 21:49:53 · answer #10 · answered by A.C. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋