I'm 22 and there's this really lovely girl who's 19 and has a 2 year old son. She's brilliant and just wondered what people think about dating single parents. I'm reasonably mature for a 22 year old and I love kids but I'm not sure if I'm ready to date someone with children. Apart from that she's great, wonderful personality and very beautiful. And I know having kids is not a disease!
2006-12-02 13:31:53 · 24 answers · asked by Keplaz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to experience it for yourself, not by others opinions. Don't worry about what "other people think! If it works out, then fine, if not then move on! Treat her good and treat her child good. Her child should be her first priority, so don't feel bad if she lets you know that. I would be concerned if in fact she didn't let you know that! If your relationship becomes long term, and you start to bond with the child, then you will have answered your own question! Good courting!
2006-12-02 13:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by macfifty06 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes! This girl has been through a lot and altho getting knocked up early is not a good thing, it developed some great mental traits to her that you will not find with other girls. I would say YES! Give her a chance or you will forever regret it.
And see the video for Let Me Go by Three Doors Down. It's an awesome video about a guy ALMOST in your situation. Might help- best of luck :-)
2006-12-02 13:39:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The very fact that you are asking this question means that this is an extremely important issue for you - it does bother you to be dating a woman with a child.
It takes a special person to accept another man's child in their life. If this woman is the right one for you, then you need to have a loving parental feeling for the child. If you don't, this whole relationship is on shaky ground.
For a mom, her child is primary in her life - there is room for others but only if they realize the importance of a two year old in the life of his/her mom.
Take some time off from the relationship - a week or two. Take time to understand your feelings about her and about her having a child. If you believe you love her or could be falling in love with her, examine your feelings in terms of raising her child.
Many men who marry single mom's have wonderful relationships with their step-children. It is a privilege to raise a child and you need to know if you are up to that task.
2006-12-02 13:39:39 · answer #3 · answered by LABL 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Big question,
Few things come into play here, wheres the dad? Does he still see the kid? Is she self sufficent, or does she live on welfare?
If she is a self motivated woman, the dads not an issues, ie: they have a working relationship which revolves around the kid, then go ahead, But by the sounds of it, it was an unwanted kid, the dad took off and she is on single mothers then you run the very real risk of becoming a meal ticket, and she will be a nice as pie, till she finds a better one. Not speaking from experiance, but I have watched mates go sounth fast.... My suggestion, your 22, go live, find someone you can start your own family with. RUN!!!
2006-12-02 13:40:25 · answer #4 · answered by hotdigger1980 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First check out what the "Momma, Daddy, Baby Drama" is like. Is the father overly involved in the mother's life to a point where YOU would find it a problem. Do they get along or argue a lot?
Because you asked, it is a problem. Nothing wrong with seeing a hot girl and liking what you see then walking away. You don't have to "hit" everything you like.
Best of luck.
2006-12-02 13:48:17 · answer #5 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow 22 years old is a pretty young age to be dating a woman with a kid ! However, I dont think this matters much if you truly love that girl ! Go for it man if your heart really feels that way ! nothing can stop a true love !
2006-12-02 13:36:20 · answer #6 · answered by Crazy Boy 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends on how you feel. Do you feel up to hanging around a kid sometimes? Get to know him and see how you bond. Her son is a part of her, I'm sure you will like him if you really like her. If you feel you are ready for a relationship with a woman who has some adult commitments of her own, then go for it. Good Luck.
2006-12-02 13:42:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's only a date. youre not getting married. take it one date at a time. see how it is with just her and if there are issues about leaving the kid. then go out with both of them and see if you like it. nobody said you have to get serious. chances are though that you will get attached to the kid and if you break it off with the girl then it will hurt more cause you have to break away from the kid. thank god he's still young and won't miss you much.
2006-12-02 13:41:32 · answer #8 · answered by Me2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should go for it. If you really like her or even love her then what is holding you back.
Single parents need love like that. She is single obviously whoever her children belong to didn't want her or the children anymore so she is hurt. There is a hole in her heart SOMEWHERE and you sound like a very nice man. You could be the one to fill that hole. And when a woman sees that you a good with children, they like you even more!
:)
2006-12-02 13:36:20 · answer #9 · answered by ~*!!*~Chocolatte Latte~*!!*~ 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong wit dating someone who has a kid.
But I know wat u mean my friend Jaime went through that wit her b/f because he has a kid. They broke up for like a week because she was like I am not ready to commit to take care of his daughter Coral but then she realized she was ready to take that responsibilty and now they are back together and she loves watching 5 year old Coral
2006-12-02 13:35:51 · answer #10 · answered by Boo21 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋