On the first date, he wanted sex. He lied to me about his age. When I became pregnant shortly after, he tried to persuade me to abort. He never went w/ me to the doctor. Sometimes, he didn't call me or come to see me for days or weeks b/c I was "mad at him". I had to call him the day of my C section to remind him to come pick me up. When we got to the hospital, he dropped me off and said he had to take care of a parking ticket. I had to call him several times to ask him to come to the hospital. After surgery, he went to work. I had to basically force him to sign the Acknowledgement of Paternity. The day I was discharged he was mad that the nurses told him to sign the form so he picked a fight with me. He dropped me and the baby at my apartment and drove off! Before I took him to court for child support, he called me all the time saying "he wanted to see his son". He doesn'tanymore!
I'm not saying I'm an angel or he wasn't kind sometimes but did he have to behave that way towards me?
2006-12-02 13:31:13 · 15 answers · asked by ang_jewel 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
you were more than right to give him the boot. i know your child is precious,and it is a shame you didn't ship him out earlier.
2006-12-02 13:36:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, hes an imnature baby. You made the decision to have sex and to have a child, deal with the consequences. They may not always be what you want, but grow up enough to give your child a chance in the world. I would not let him see his son until you go to court and establish some sort of arrangements and support for your son. Seems to me he doesnt care about you in any way and got what he wanted, sex. It just happened to be while you were fertile enough to get pregnant. So you never thought of using protection??? Werent you worried about disaeses or aids or anything, you are not safe unless you use protection.
The best thing you did was kick him to the curb and move on with your new life as a mom.
Good luck.
2006-12-02 21:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by tdakpj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next chapter....he meets and marries some busybody broad who says he should see his son. If he says he doesn't want to he will look like an uncaring man. So to preserve his current piece of *** he will want visitation with YOUR son. She will decide she could be MOMMY and then the crap starts to hit the fan. They will drag you in court and you will have to turn you little one over (while he is kicking and screaming Mommy No Mommy No). and you cannot do a thing about it because he signed a piece of paper.. As he gets older they will try to get him to turn on you and it goes on and on and on. I would never have had him sign papers that that is his son. Now he has rights and just wait he'll be back for "HIS" son. You will regret you every even told him you were PG and if he wanted you to abort Why in the world would want this bum scum to be your babies daddy. I would disappear as soon as possible.
Doesn't matter if you are /were an angel...now you have a little ANGEL to protect.
Believe me I'm old and I've seen this over and over. He will be back and you will not like it honey....good luck....If you need a place to hide. ....email me....
PS and I'll bet he stops paying support and also I'll bet he doesn't pay much...low lifes don't usually make good money.
2006-12-02 22:12:38 · answer #3 · answered by onedot.darling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he had a hard time dealing with he was going to have a baby as well as you of done when you found you were pregnant. Us women tend to come to terms with these type of thing because it is happening to our body we have to say ok it is happening there is nothing i can do about it got to get planning. Men have a hell of a hard time dealing with things like this, but it gives him no excuse to treat you the way he did. After all you needed help and support too. He may wake up to himself one day and go what have i done, why didn't i help, why did i choose not to be apart of my sons life?? But until then he will not relieve what he has done and is till doing.
2006-12-02 21:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by regie811 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your situation. But I think that this guy sounds like a jerk. Even though he is your babys "father" you don't have to be with or even associate with him. There are MANY good guys out there who will treat you way better then that and even care for you and be with you even though you have a child. I hope everything works out for you! Good luck and congrats on the baby!!
2006-12-02 21:54:33 · answer #5 · answered by ragdoll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were definitely right to do what you did. Your son doesnt need that kind of uncaring attitude; and it would be a poor example for him on how to treat people. Single parenthood is tough, I know (I am one) but you can do this! Do what is best for your son and you and keep fighting the S.O.B. for child support! Good luck!
2006-12-02 21:41:22 · answer #6 · answered by Hollie F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The story is so similar to the story of my life, you did the right thing, it is harmful that a child sees someone come in and out of their life, especially when it's a father, who should be the one person that they can trust in their life.
I'm proud of what you did, and remember now you have a child, and should always move forwards not backwards (meaning as getting yourself involved in loser relationships)
2006-12-02 21:47:00 · answer #7 · answered by antz1230 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you right to kick him out of your lives? Wow, after him being that much of a b*astard I'm surprised you really need to ask. What a jerk. You are better fof without him, just take the money and raise your child to be a better person then he ever will be.
2006-12-02 23:05:12 · answer #8 · answered by Rae T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time we had some new laws. You get to kick him totally out of your life and he doesn't have to pay child support. You could have kicked him out of your life when he started to pressure you for sex. You could have taken precautions. You could have given the child up for adoption. Fulfilling your own sexual urge to have a child and expecting him to pay support for a couple of decades while kicking him out of the child's life is worse than anything he did to you. Stop begging for sympathy, you got what you wanted--sperm donor with paycheck.
2006-12-02 21:54:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just let him go. He will only let your child down just as he has you. Hopefully you will meet someone later who can help you parent, but in the meantime, take it one day at a time and know that you child needs you.....consider him a sperm-donor.
2006-12-02 21:41:32 · answer #10 · answered by muscgrad2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't seem interested in you or the child, go ahead get child support and write him off.
2006-12-02 21:39:53 · answer #11 · answered by littleevilzombiegirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋