I'm dating a black guy and I really like him. I'm only 13 so I don't know what true love is. But, William (my b/f) is such a good boyfriend, the real gentlemen like. This is our second time going out together. The first time I had to break-up w/ him b/c my mother did not approve. Now we are dating behind her back and it makes me very uncomfortable about it. I want to tell her but I don't want to break up w/ William again, I simply couldn't bare it. William is the best b/f I've ever had and I would hate to give up a guy that I can talk to on the phone for hours just about stupid stuff and still laugh about it and be serious when I ask him to. He's 15 and we're in the same grade but the fact of breaking up with him is just to tragic for me. Trust me, I may be 13 but I know what a tragic event is. What should I do?
2006-12-02 13:27:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
awww well i think that, that is sweet, but i kinda kno what ur going through about wanting to tell your mom but dont want to break up with him. It seems that you have a really good bf, I mean for him to know whats going on with your mom not accepting him, but him still waiting, on you and still being by your side, he sounds like a keeper, but I thing that you should tell ur mom about him and just talk to her about it, sit down and really talk, because if he really makes you happy and you feel safe, and its no other boy that you want to be with,I know that ur kinda young but if he really makes you happy, and yall both want to be together than you need to have a talk with your mom and just tell her how you really feel about him and like i said b4 if he really makes you happy then your mom should just get over the fact that yall are together and jus get mast that, and see that her daughter (you) is happy........good luck
2006-12-02 13:38:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether the boy is black or white, you're so right - you don't know what true love is -- and at 13 years old you shouldn't. Girl, you've got a lot of growing up to do.
Your mother doesn't want you dating William because he is 15 and you are 13. The very fact that you believe breaking up with him would be "just to tragic for me" indicates that you are extremely immature - and that's right where you should be at 13!
Go find a girlfriend to chat with on the phone. Tell William that if he really cares about you, he will wait until you are 15 and he is 17. Two years will make a tremendous difference in your level of maturity and in his.
You need to trust an adult's judgment on this matter - if you don't it could cost you big time.
2006-12-02 21:34:18 · answer #2 · answered by LABL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say... Parents know a lot of things. They can just "tell" when something is going on.
I would say to alert your mother to the fact. Why not ask her why she is against it? A good old fashioned conversation might cool things down. And besides, if you act mature about the situation, she may treat you that way and allow it.
One personal word of advice though, I had a bf [or two] at 13 and it was not such a good thing... Make sure you know and define what your "limits" in a relationship are right now. That is all.
2006-12-02 21:31:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
One thing is u r thirteen, u will have more choices in life. Guys come and go! U will find a boyfriend later on in life that will wanna be wit u for the rest of u r life. Breaking up is not a tragic event, but gettin pregnant will not help the situation since u r sneaking behind u r mama's back. She loves u and thinks u r not ready for dating.
2006-12-02 21:33:17 · answer #4 · answered by Boo21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he is 15 and your "both" in the same grade, then he has trouble in school and is going to be a loser for a husband!!!
I would drop him, even though he is the "best" bf you ever had.
Your Mother is right, (and this doesnt have anything to do about racial issues either), this is about the boys intelligence... He has failed two grades already!!! That denotes that he is either a trouble maker, or not able to be educated or is slow... Not a good prospect for a Son in law from anyones point of view!
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-12-02 21:36:16 · answer #5 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm a mother, and if my daughter went behind my back 'sneaking
around' she'd be in BIG trouble.
You should have more respect and concern for your mother,
instead you are behaving very unfairly to her, being dishonest
by betraying her trust..
You may be intelligent for a 13 yr old, but you are very immature
by what you are doing at your age, and to your mother..
2006-12-02 21:36:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sure you are 13. Cause I don't think you are but any
ways your just 13 there's not much you can do until you are at least 17 don't tell your mom if you really like him.
But eventually she'll find out. Don't know what to really tell u.
2006-12-02 21:39:36 · answer #7 · answered by hclover21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember those days --good memories. What you need to do is show your mom that you are responsible; like, clean-up around the house, do good in school and have respect yourself.
Also, it might help that you not spend too much time with him because he is young and isn't planning on getting married. Be careful to not get hurt, you are too young to deal with it.
2006-12-02 21:35:49 · answer #8 · answered by sendwad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋