I think my boyfriend might be hinting we should move in together. We've been together for five months and are even taking a trip together to Thailand in a couple months. I'm 24 and he's 28. He's been saying he wants to move into a house, has suggested I should move into a house, and has said many times how we practically live together (which we do, we spend every night either at his place or mine). This morning he said he should just buy a place and I could stay over and pay rent. I laughed it off because we've had serious discussions about where we want to be in the future, and neither of us is ready to buy property yet. Should I just bring up living together directly or wait for him to do so?
Also... a couple times when he's thought I was asleep, he's asked me to marry him. Is he just checking to see if I'm awake? I'm both slightly amused and a little confused. I love him to bits, but he also knows I think people should date at least a year before getting engaged.
2006-12-02 13:18:20 · 6 answers · asked by Ehlena 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for all the answers so far! I just wanted to note that we knew one another for a while before dating. We don't just spend the night at one another's places - we do all the same extracurricular activities, so we tend to do those together - writing, painting, reading, movie watching, etc. We also work in the same building and have taken a few weekend trips together. We've had a few fights, all of which have been resolved to both of our satisfactions. Of course, you never know how well you know someone, right? But so far, I feel like we're very compatible. He's got all my "must haves", none of my "must not haves", and a several traits I consider bonuses.
2006-12-02 13:51:01 · update #1
Why not talk to him about moving in together...sounds like you practially do...might as well same some money on rent..use it for your future_
2006-12-02 13:22:01 · answer #1 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to agree to the "pay rent" deal, then go for it. Just cover your backside and get an legal lease written up just in case things go sour.
Make it state what priveledges you have (i.e. kitchen, free use of the house, etc...) and that you have your own bedroom which is not to be accessed by him except upon 24 hour request by him just as any other landlord would do.
He changed his position on buying, renting and moving in together so much it sounds like hes playing twister!!!
Sounds like his intentions are good, but he doesnt know what he wants. You need to set down at a table and really REALLY discuss where this is leading. Take notes and make an outline of what you both want out of this and how you are going to go about it.It will be best for you both. If you move in together you will both see a different side of the other, and other than temporarily staying at a friend or relatives house you WILL have to go back sometime if things go bad.
Be careful and I hope it works out!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-02 21:37:20 · answer #2 · answered by billydeer_2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but u will be welcoming a certain death to your relationship by incorporating so many new circumstances to ur current relationship. Neither of u has had time to see if u r even capable of handling the relationship beyond the sexual aspect. U need to let the "newness" wear off before u find out if u r capable of getting along w/o all the bells and whistles!!! What I mean is...will there still be common ground when the sex gets old? Sometimes that is the only thing holding a relationship together. Think b4 u jump!!!!!
2006-12-02 21:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by des 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To travel to Thailand will not make it better at all. As running a tourist agency in Thailand I have making trips for so many couples, only to see that the men is returning to Thailand the year after alone. Thailand change many men, not all of curse, but the Thai girls way of living, acting is something many men not forget, so try travel another country.
2006-12-04 03:03:42 · answer #4 · answered by try.myanmar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, do not move in with him. Most marriages that end are those where partners cohabited. You guys have only been together for 5 mos. That's Nothing! Get to know him a little more. From what you have sent in, he seems like he's moving a little too fast. Maybe it has something to do with him almost being thirty.
2006-12-02 21:22:58 · answer #5 · answered by tonja20770 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's testing the waters, trying to get a feel for where you are while protecting his ego by not risking outright rejection. Give him a hint of what you feel so he can stop dancing around the subject.
2006-12-02 21:22:59 · answer #6 · answered by a heart so big 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋