2006-12-02 13:14:25 · 13 answers · asked by alkalinetrio1103 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow, that sux.
umm i guess its not fair to you to wait if u really dont want to be with them.
But you HAVE to be nice about it, and you have to have a good reason. You cant break up with someone and leave them confused about the reasons why. Good luck
2006-12-02 13:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by Faby'07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it honestly and compassionately. It will be hard but don't drag it out. If you put it off you will end up resenting the person for having to stay with them longer and they may resent you for leading them on.
It is a horrible time to break up with someone but so is anytime when you have dated so long.
If you want to break up then probably there has been something not right for a while, maybe the other person has noticed. Try being up front and straightforward. Call the person up and arrange to meet somewhere. (make sure it doesn't sound like a date) Do not do it over the phone or through email.
Don't get into many details, or explanations.--it's kind of a trap---because you end up having to defend why you want to break up and you may end up hurting the person even more by listing all the traits you dislike--they may feel that if only they changed you would stay--that's not fair. Do be clear and firm so the point is made. Do not attempt to contact the person afterward-- it will lead them on and could lead to a misunderstanding.
Don't use cliches or make up silly excuses, just be short and to the point. After five years the person deserves respect.
2006-12-02 21:19:47 · answer #2 · answered by artimis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, of course. You should have broken up last month and tried not to ruin the Christmas season. But next best, is to do it right away so the person doesn't go spending lots of money on you for Christmas gifts. Five years is a long time. And suddenly you want to call it quits. Pretty harsh. No easy way. Just tell her you found someone else and your relationship is off. Be ready to take the heat. She's probably been waiting for a ring, and you give her the boot instead.
2006-12-02 21:19:33 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up is hard to do. Don't let the holidays deter your decision; just because it's Christmas, it wouldn't matter she'll be hurt either way. Life is too short, move on; after 5 years; there's a reason why you didn't marry her, keep that in mind... Stop wasting your time and hers. Start your New Year now!
2006-12-02 21:24:12 · answer #4 · answered by motherkc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest without being mean. Talk about the things you enjoyed about the last five years but don't lead the other person on. Expect that the other person will be hurt, but don't wait another moment being unhappy if the relationship is not going anywhere. Good luck. Remember to be gentle with his/her heart.
2006-12-02 21:19:13 · answer #5 · answered by jordan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make her a little gift basket with stuff like Comet Cleanser, 409, Carpet Fresh and maybe her favorite dish soap.
Elaborately wrap a broom and a mop and place them proudly under her tree.
Oh, make sure you are at least 100 miles away.
You won't even have to break up with her!
2006-12-02 21:24:41 · answer #6 · answered by keenedge_2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's cold. But if you guys have been together for 5 years then you have to be pretty close. So, all you can do is be honest with her. Maybe she feels the relationship has been falling apart too. Just do it sooner than later. So she can move on too.
2006-12-02 21:18:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either wait a little longer, few days after christmas, or get it over with before Christmas, but be nice about it. Something along the lines of "These years we have been together have been great, but i think it is time for both of us to move on." (Be sure to say it in a direct clear voice, no studdering, but be positively sure to show sincerety in your eyes!!!!!!)
2006-12-02 21:17:47 · answer #8 · answered by Love Help Here For You! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their will always be a holiday or special event that can be used as an excuse not to break up, do what is going to be best for both of you.
2006-12-02 21:26:07 · answer #9 · answered by entropy1976 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you feel that she seems less interested in you and that maybe you would be better off someone who can fulfill her needs. give her the opportunity to back out.
Because if you feel that things are not right , she probably feekls the same thing. so rather tahn you hurt her feelings let her hurt your feelings
2006-12-02 21:23:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋