I'm a mother of 3 boys, 4, 8, and 13. All three of my kids still bathe together. Without saying too much and embarassing him, the 13 year old is late bloomer and honestly is physically about 9 or 10... he is still only about 4 and half feet tall. He's not slow or anything and he is a good student in school. My husband did have any changes occur until he was 15.
I'll supervise them occassionally and none of them really have any modesty issues or never really brought them up. They like to play and really have a blast when i turn the jets on.
When should I put an end to this?
2006-12-02 13:10:38 · 26 answers · asked by Mary M 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I think it's perfectly fine for your two youngest to bathe together, but the 13 yr. old should be showering alone by now. Late bloomer or not, he's a teenager and shouldn't be bathing with his two small brothers.
2006-12-02 13:14:45 · answer #1 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Is this a regular bathtub or a hot tube. This is totally my opinion but don't think a 13 year old should be bathing with a four year old. 8 year old should really be bathing alone also. I think at 8 and the 13 year old should have a little modesty. My kids stopped bathing together when the oldest was five or six.
2006-12-02 21:23:44 · answer #2 · answered by cheoli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My children are a girl ten months and a boy three. I give them baths at the same time to save on water and so i can make sure that both of them get clean. Once my daughter is able to be in the tub alone ill give them baths seperately. Since you have all boys im sure its not a problem for the 8 and four year old, but I think your 13 year old should learn to shower by himself.
2006-12-02 21:18:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its fine to have younger kids bath together, but i think once a child hits the 8 - 10 range, they should start to bathe or shower alone. Having children bathe together is fun but becomes awkward as kids grow older. To still have fun together with the jets, on a weekend get everyone in the tub with bathing suits.
2006-12-02 21:56:38 · answer #4 · answered by T M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
"If its not broken don't fix it". You answered all the questions that one would have. You are the Mother and you know more about what the situation is than anyone else would. If there was anything bad going on your instinct would kick in and tell you. We need to let kids be kids. I hate it when people see something ugly where there is nothing there. Innocence is a beautiful thing and you as there mother are the best judge of what is going on.
Don't let other people make you feel like there is a problem where one does not exist. Stick to your guns.
Good luck and blessings
Lady T~
2006-12-02 21:29:12 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Trinity 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is great that you have raised you boys to be so comfortable in thier own sink around each other. Your sons will let you know when they are ready to bath on thier own. I know when I lived with my cousins it wasn't all that unsual for all the boys to bath together and all the girls bath together. The older kids help the youger ones out and it give them a chance to play in the water together. Each of the childern still retained the right to bath alone as well which they could invoke at anytime. Let your older son know that he has the option to bath on his own, but don't be suprised if one day he wants to bath on his own and the next with his brothers.
2006-12-02 22:11:15 · answer #6 · answered by last_red_dragon 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
End it when you think its necessary. I mean they are all boys, its not like they are bathing with a girl. I dont think its completely right, personally, but it does cut down on separate showers and water.
13 yr might need to start showering alone though, i mean he is old enough.
I think its all up to you and your kids. We are outsiders and all we can really do is judge the situation and tell you its wrong, but you are the one that knows your family and if it works for you then thats great. Do you think this needs to end and are just looking for justification?
2006-12-02 21:17:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now I would think, it's ok for the younger ones to bathe together but not the 13 year old.
2006-12-02 21:16:07 · answer #8 · answered by Katie Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kids bathing the same gender is perfectly fine. The 13 year old might want to start taking is own shower . You should let the kids decided when they want to start taking their own showers. If you put pressure on them to seprate then that might cause problems so ,the best bet is to let them decide when they want to seperate and do things by themselves.
2006-12-02 21:19:27 · answer #9 · answered by Bridget 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a good idea to separate them now. At least the 13 year old. Regardless of his development, he's now a young man and should have more privacy.
Don't have him feel like it's a punishment, make him feel good about it. He's growing up, should have privacy, etc.
When you're 8 year old is 10, I'd say to move him on and out, as well.
I'm sure they have fun and it's fine, but it's probably time to move on.
2006-12-02 21:15:34 · answer #10 · answered by Shars 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋