do you know anyone who decided to not have children???

Question

what were the reasons and do they regret this decision???

Answer 1

Me. Don't regret it.There are plenty of children alive in the world who need homes, I don't need my own biological child.

Answer 2

Yes, myself.The reasons are very complex, much too complex than I can possibly describe here, but it had a lot to do with the fact that I value my independence, and really never felt the urge to have children strongly enough that it would be worth giving up my independence. I don't like children very much.
Another reason is that this planet is overpopulated to the point where the resources will run out and the environment is collapsing. Overpopulation devalues everything on this planet.
Despite all the people who told me that I will change my mind, and "it's different when they are your own", and wait until the biological clock starts ticking, I never felt that I wanted any children. I am 43 now.No regrets whatsoever.

Answer 3

I am 43 and both my fiance and I have decided we don't want children, and don't have any from previous relationships.

I have no regrets whatsoever. I am lucky that my parents have never pressured me about grandchildren, though. I've just never been that interested. If we got pregnant, I'm sure we'd be great at it but why get pregnant on purpose if it's not something I really want. I'm not a career obsessed person either. We just prefer to spend our free time running, traveling, cooking, and being with each other. We're both very responsible and care for 3 dogs but we know our limits. Don't feel like there is something wrong with you if you decide not to have kids. I've worked with kids extensively and their parents and believe me nothing is worse for a kid that having a parent who is not committed to it 100%.

Answer 4

My cousin decided not to have children and she is happy with her decision. She has a great career and a wonderful relationship, but she always knew that she didn't want to have children. She is 30 and happy without children.

I think that having children is a huge decision and some people are just happier without children. I think it is great that you are actually stopping to ask. Too many people rush into the decision without thinking.

Answer 5

One of my co-workers. She and her husband had a discussion after they were married for a while, and it was like, "we can have children" or "we can use the money we would have used of rearing children to travel". Travel won - and they take great vacations 2-3 times a year. I travel vicariously by looking at the pictures she take." - I opted for the child thing - my last vaction was about 12 years ago - but that's OK. There aren't that many places I would really want to go - an Alaskan cruise is about it.

Answer 6

not really. I known people that have gotten married and said that they would wait a few years to have children and then when they wanted to have children they couldn't. She wouldn't get pregnant or something else and then they regreted not having children before. It's really a blessing. There isn't greater love than that one.

Answer 7

I persoanlly do not know anyone who has decided against having kids, but truthfully, if people do not want them, they shouldn't have them because it is a lifetime commitment, it takes sacrafice and patience, and some people just aren't able to be parents, or do not want the responsibility or whatever, and that is just fine. To many children come into the world and are abused, neglected, mistreated, unwanted....its good for people who do not want them to not have them. No child needs to come into the world unwanted.

Answer 8

haha i made the decision to not have children because i didn't like them...now i have 2 ( the first one was unexpected, yes i did use protection so apparently it was meant to be) and wouldn't give them up for the world!!!

My aunt decided to not have any kids but i think that decision had to do with her being the oldest and practically raising all 5 of her little brothers and sisters..sad....

Answer 9

Yes 2 of my aunts. Always said that they really didnt think they wanted children , but now they want a baby. They could still have children, but one of them waited a while and then married someone who now tells her he doesnt want any, and she asked if they could adopt and he says no, he wont love that child. So basically she will probably not ever have children unless she leaves him and gets busy looking for someone else soon. My other aunt just married a loser who doesnt want to work and couldnt afford to take care fo themselves let alone a baby. Both of my aunts have expressed the want to have a baby, but they both also know it probably wont happen and it makes them a little sad.

Answer 10

Me. Because I would not enjoy being a parent or find it rewarding. Kids stress me out and it's just not my style. I'd rather focus on me and my career instead of being a lousy parent and bringing someone into the world who would justifiably resent this. Have never ever regretted it.

A lot of people I know who had kids made obvious mistakes because they are lousy parents.

Answer 11

I know a few people who decided never to have kids. I give them all the respect they deserve for making that descion. One was becaus she knew in her life style she would not be able to care properly for a child..another becasue fraknly..she does not like kids..the other was married and both enjoyed thier time togethr emensly.
It is not greedy to not want a child..it is not wrong..this is something extremly important one has to do..raise a child properly..if you know this is not for you..thumbs up to you that you are wise enough to know this..and even better you do not have a child just becasue it is expected of some.