"because it is such a terrible world" do they really mean that or is it just an excuse, because they don´t want to say the real reason???
2006-12-02 12:39:16 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Some people just don't feel the need to reproduce and raise children. They either don't have that "nurturing" instinct or they cannot have children. They have tried to explain it to others and the most acceptable answer they know is to say it is because of the world as it is today. To say more only leads to more questions.
2006-12-02 12:48:11 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The world is a terrible place. Sometimes though, a person who doesn't want to have children is not accepted by the majority, and it's easier to just say a thing like this is such a terrible world that get into a debate with somebody who will never understand their true reasons. Besides, the person who doesn't want children might feel that it is nobody elses business why they don't want children.
2006-12-02 21:00:16 · answer #2 · answered by Marti M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people want a child so bad, but they can not because of medical reasons. I have RA, and may not be able to have a child. THis really scares me, since I am getting married in April. Thank God my Fiance loves me unconditionally! Iam adopted, and have been given a great life, as did my adopted brother.
I had to watch my brother leave to go to war several years ago. That made me think for just a second, Would I want to bring a child into this world knowing what the world is like today? Then I thought to myself " Only God knows why the world is the way it is, and he only can judge if I should have a child".
2006-12-02 21:04:04 · answer #3 · answered by nygnut2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can easily say it. I don't want to have kids and I never have. No issues from childhood. Two loving stable parents who provided a good home. Neither does my fiance. There are too many other things that we want to do and since I know that my mom couldn't do all the things she wanted to do because she was raising my sister and me I think I have some perspective. What more "real" reason could there be? We are under no obligation to reproduce and I've never felt any pressure from my parents to have kids. I've certainly had plenty of peers who told me that I did want kids but just didn't know it yet! What!??? Just because I can doesn't mean I want to or should. Is that selfish?? No way. I used to work extensively with sexually abuse children, most victims of incest and I've met plenty of children who were not born out of love or a true committment to parenthood. If my fiance and I do accidently become pregnant, we'll be great parents and make the sacrifices but it is not our choice to have children and we take active steps to avoid it.
And really, Amava, is being totally judgemental in saying that people who don't have kids are "stuck on themselves". Sometimes we just know how to use birth control.
2006-12-02 21:13:34 · answer #4 · answered by kvcar2 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People may truly feel they don't want a child in the "terrible world". Others are intelligent enough to realize they would make poor parents for a variety of reasons such as careers, lifestyles, economics, or being self centered. what ever the reason they are wise enough to realize they do not want the responsibility of raising a child.
2006-12-02 20:56:32 · answer #5 · answered by wes41550 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just do not want to bring a child into this world, and see the suffering, pains, lying, and other stuff that is endured.
Some people may have suffered as children, and could not in good faith bring that on another person, especially an genetic offspring.
Some just never have the desire to have children, cannot associate with a child, and hence are just not going to.
I am not speaking from personal experience, I am a parent.
But, I would rather a person make the conscious decision not to have children, rather than the ones that do want to have the child, and neglect, beat, abuse, kill, maim, and scar them for the rest of their life.
2006-12-02 20:49:23 · answer #6 · answered by raydeeo_face 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The first answer you got was great, also maybe this person was abused physically, emotionally, and or mentally as a child, and may feel they themselves may carry on this horrible chain, that they were brought up with.
Also, these people would rather get up and go, do as they please without carrying the concern of affecting someone else's life. Don't question it, but rather respect and admire such a person...
2006-12-02 20:53:06 · answer #7 · answered by antz1230 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would rather see people decide not to have children at all then to have them for the wrong reasons and then abuse them. Just because people are able to reproduce doesn't mean that everyone should. Watch the evening news on any given night and you'll see stories of people that shouldn't be parents harming their children. I commend those people who realize that parenthood is not for them and decide not to have children.
2006-12-02 21:04:24 · answer #8 · answered by latingirl0527 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people don't enjoy being around children, have very little tolerance or patience. If they know they will not be a good parent, they will take it out on the child. I think it is very smart not to have children if you feel that way.
2006-12-02 23:37:42 · answer #9 · answered by madisonian51 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because “breeders” can’t handle the truth. If I said, “I don’t want kids, because I am afraid that kids like yours will teach mine to use drugs", or "because kids suck", then I will be opening myself up to a long conversation, that I don't want to be in.
So I am better off with the “short answer” in order to avoid, a bunch of crap.
2006-12-05 03:39:26 · answer #10 · answered by Marvin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋