My dad is gay and hes been going out with Charles since i was six(for 9yrs). I love Charles and i call them both Dad(its not confusing at all)
But on Tuesday i had a half day at school and i caught by real dad in bed w/another guy. My Dad told me it was a 1 time thing and not to tell Dad. But i dont think i can do tht! I love both of them sooo much and i dont wanna hurt neither1. What should i do?
2006-12-02 12:29:00 · 5 answers · asked by Simply Me 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Tell them in a nice way sit down and talk to them...
good for you that u are proud to have gay parents ur a good guy!!
2006-12-02 12:35:31 · answer #1 · answered by srh077 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only say these two things to you:
My brother is a gay man, and just had his civil union to the love of his life! It was a Magical night! If that ever happened to my brother, his heart would be broken. Just because your fathers are gay, does not give either of them the right to hurt the other. I do belive you should talk witth them, and be honest about your feelings. At this point, if they are not going to be together in the future, at least you will know you were always honest with them!
Also, I was once in love with a Married Man. Yes, I knew he was married, it was a bad lonely time in my life. Thank God his wife never found out, and I got out before she did. I loved him so much, but I knew he would never leave her for me. I am glad that I am not with him any longer. I would hate to think what would have happened if his wife found out, or one of his childern. This would have lead them into the situation you are in now.
Best of luck to you and your Fathers! No matter what they will always love you!
2006-12-02 21:13:00 · answer #2 · answered by nygnut2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that is a really hard question to answer and let me tell you I am so glad that I am not standing in your shoes, I try to think that if my folks were still together and I caught one of them with another person...would I tell??? Wow, I have to think that I would say something.... that is not fair for someone you love dearly to ask you to lie to someone else that you love as well. I personally would let your "real" dad know that this is not something that you are willing to keep a secret and that this is his warning to tell Charles before you do. It is bad enough that your dad has betrayed Charles, but how dare he ask you to lie for him???? Sounds to me like your dad is acting a bit selfish to me...he is more concerned with how he feels and what he might have to deal with if the truth gets out...when really he should have your best interest first not to mention Charles'. I wish you the best of luck and whatever you decide is going to have some tough consequences. One of your dad's is going to feel betrayed, your real dad is going to feel betrayed by you if you tell Charles and if you don't tell Charles he will feel betrayed by YOU &YOUR DAD when he finds out ....and believe when someone is cheating the other always finds out. Sometimes it takes days.sometimes months and sometimes years but the other one ALWAYS finds out. I wish you luck!!!
2006-12-02 20:45:05 · answer #3 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i know you may feel as if you need to get involved but the truth is, you shouldnt...i realize how much you love charles but your very 1st loyalty is to your real dad...let him know how you feel and then try to drop it
2006-12-02 23:40:28 · answer #4 · answered by huneygrl1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well depending on certain things i would keep my mouth shut if you dont get involved they wont make you choose a side.
2006-12-02 20:38:28 · answer #5 · answered by Porcel18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋