My husband recently just had a stroke. His left side was effected by it. a lot of things he couldn't do by himself. I mainly did everything for him. Now that he is getting his movement back he is still depending on me to do these things for him (knowing he can do it himself) . He gets mad at me sometimes but lately i been feeling like it pure LAZINESS. I feel like he knows that i will do anything for him so he takes advantage of me. Don't get me wrong i love my husband very much & i cant find myself telling him no. Maybe i feel sorry for him also feel very bad about what happen to him (being the fact that he is only 27)
2006-12-02 12:20:58 · 17 answers · asked by t10t15t66 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He is probably feeling very dependent on you right now. Perhaps he isn't aware that he could be doing more. Perhaps he is aware and he really is milking a good thing. The best advice I can give you is to communicate your feelings to him. Being his caregiver, (and at such a young age), has probably stretched you to the breaking point. If you keep quiet you will risk unbearable resentment. It would be much better to talk to him about it, and involve his doctor so that you both know the expectations are realistic. Stay strong; the worst part is already behind you!
2006-12-04 16:32:21 · answer #1 · answered by Sister Christian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a day trip like Christmas shopping where you'll be gone for an extended period of time. He'll have to some things for himself or just lay there until you get home. If he chooses the later talk to him and find out what's the deal !!! Let the Doctor know and take some of his advice.
2006-12-02 12:25:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one. You could try and wean him off of you by being too busy at the moment to run and jump when he calls. If you are taking too long...doing the dishes, or laundry or whatever, maybe he'll get tired of waiting for you to do it and just do it himself. You could try and talk to him about it...communication is never a bad thing...Just tell him he really needs to try and do it himself, it will help him in the long run, and that is what is important. He needs that exercise so he can get back to normal.
2006-12-02 12:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by Becky F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husband really likes the wife attention and he is gonna milk it. My husband milks it bad when he gets a cold. Talk to him and tell him he needs to help you now that you are having it rough right now. And encourage him to help you. He needs to hun so he can and will get all better faster. I am very sorry to hear about your husband though. Good luck
2006-12-02 12:54:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very delicate situation, it sounds like his self confidence has been hurt. If I were you I would work on building up his self confidence by letting him know that you believe in him, and still see him as the same strong man he was before the stroke. As well as slowly encourage him to become more self-sufficient. He might be afraid to try, in fear of failure.
2006-12-02 12:33:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Post a little chart called his progress chart. Mark off what he is able to do and put big red marks by these to indicate his success. Tell him you want to encourage him to keep up the great work and that you know he is getting stronger every day. Keep that chart updated and if he is slow in an area, tell him you will help him work on it until he gets the red check he deserves.
2006-12-02 12:24:47 · answer #6 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dam 27 is really young.The good news is by him being young he can get better quicker. I beleive that if u keep helping him he will not try to get his function of moving his part that has been affected by this stroke.He needs to keep mobile and that is by u not helping him.I'm really sorry for what has happen to you and your husband but don't feel quility.It's called tough love.Use it and don't feel quility.He'll understand after he is better.Good luck
2006-12-02 12:35:32 · answer #7 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 15:16:37 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might be depressed get him some counselling,for the meantime instead of doing it for him why dont you try to help him do it.help him with set up then have him do the task, only help him if he cant do it.
explain to him that your doing it for him to be independent and not to be mean.tell him that its ok to make mistake or make a mess for trying it, (also dont get mad if he did)
understand also , that with his stroke affecting his right brain, this will make him more emotionally labile, will have mood swings .
with his age he'll surely can recover from this 100%,, with your help and understanding.
2006-12-02 12:28:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encourage him to do for him self what he can and help him from there. Tell him this is what you are doing and why. Put the ball in his court on this. He's probably suffering from depression as well. Wouldn't hurt to mention this to his doctor too.
2006-12-02 12:49:32 · answer #10 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋