For years I have had Thanksgiving and Christmas now my brother is with someone I can't really stand. Now she wants Christmas at her house with my family and her family and her family is like loosers really bad. They all drink and smoke where we don't. So am I being a bit_ _. by wanting holidays at home like I have always had and being with my family that I love? I have 2 girls and don't want them near things they do. I was brought up to be around the ones you love and no alcohol on those special days. And I feel and this woman my brother is with is stepping on my toes and I really don't like that.She already knows I really don't like her. Only deal with her cuz of my brother. I wouldn't want her as a friend other wise.
2006-12-02 12:19:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is no time for strife. Just tell them politely, "Thank you, but we have always had holiday meals at home. We have our children and this is our tradition. I can understand that you might want to have your own holiday meal at your house. That's perfectly fine. All I ask is that you let us know whether you are coming, so that I know how much food to prepare."
2006-12-02 12:58:22 · answer #1 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on how serious this relationship is getting. Unless your brother is married to this girl or getting married to her then your families should not have to do any holiday together. If they still want to do the holiday have your brother politely pass along some ground rules about no over-consumption of alcohol and no smoking around the kids. As long as the grown-ups are being responsible about their bad habits in front of the children I don' t think you can complain. Maybe get your family together and decide as a united front if you want to do a joint holiday thing. Your family may feel the same way you do and may want to skip it.
2006-12-02 20:30:06 · answer #2 · answered by SL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if they are engaged or married that would be one thing, b/c she would be family, but if not you shouldn't have to change your plans for his gf.
But if you want to be really nice you could make an effort and sit down with her and your brother and let her know that this is a big deal to you and if she wants the responsibility of having one of the holidays she needs to be respectful of your family and their traditions as well. (i.e. like no smoking or drinking by her family.)
2006-12-02 20:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by *~Mom2aJellybean~* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm with Rock....., unless this woman is part of the family- you don't need to subject yrself or yr kids to that environment. You could tell your brother that I and the kids love you, wish you a Merry, but we prefer to spend Christmas in a positive, loving, healthy atmosphere.
2006-12-02 20:44:54 · answer #4 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To keep the peace you and your immediate family should celebrate Christmas in your own home and then invite everybody over for coffee and dessert later in the evening.
If the rest of your family is going to her house there really isn't much you can do about it.
2006-12-02 20:30:27 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your brother that you will not take your children into that kind of environment . No matter what you do , you will still be made out to be the bad guy .
2006-12-02 20:25:53 · answer #6 · answered by rocknrod04 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to spemd X-mux with your're family and that your're sorry if you hurt his feelings but you don't want your girls to be exposed to the alcohol and ciggarets
2006-12-02 20:29:12 · answer #7 · answered by Emily 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋