I'm starting my finals week in college, i'm having lots of problems with my parents (I can never seem to please them no matter how hard I try, we fight over EVERYTHING!), my goals seem to be changing now that I'm in a relationship. I thought my career would be the most important thing---but now I'm beginning to want to start a family at a younger age. I love the fact that my mom is still young (she had me and my brother before she was 21) and I would love to be a young mother. Yes, I'm aware its not as easy as it sounds but how do I get my motivation back? My boyfriend is very encouraging telling me to finish school and all that. I just don't know where I'm at in my life right now. How do I deal with all the stress...ugh too many questions lol.
2006-12-02 12:16:00 · 4 answers · asked by celina m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
stop trying to please your parents. sometimes, they look at your life, as the way they wish their life would have went. they say they want what's good for YOU but sometimes they want what they thought was good for THEM. you can't live your life to totally please them. what do you feel you want out of life? i think you should finish college. but, while you are finishing school, think of what your heart is telling you to do. it could be a husband and a family, it could be a career. don't be afraid to do what YOU feel is right. sometimes, yes, we do make mistakes. but, you never know unless you try. when i say try, once you decide on something, you have to stay committed to it and give it the best possible shot you can to make it work. so, don't get confused by your thoughts and feelings, don't get stressed, calm yourself down, talk with your boyfriend, don't rush into things, but between the two of you work out a relationship that will work to have an everlasting relationship. i wish you all the best. good luck!
2006-12-02 12:51:34 · answer #1 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're under alot of stress right now as you said. It sounds like your mind is working overtime. You have worked hard in college I'm sure and you said you thought your career would come first. Well, at least give it a try before you make such a drastic change and start having children so young. Take a year or so to be out on your own and work a while...see what life outside of school is really like, then if you still are in love & ready to start a family, go for it. I just think you should give yourself a chance to experience life a little bit first. I hear so many young moms say that they wish they would have lived a little more first. Remember that a child is a life long 24/7 commitment. And talk about stress...alot of that comes with starting a family, too. You have alot to think about. Where will you live, how will you support the baby and yourselves. Don't jump into anything. I wish you the best.
2006-12-03 10:40:22 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to take some time from your BF and your parents and spend sometime for yourself.....think about how hard it really is going to be to get back into school to finish after you have a family, more than likely you won't. Think about what you can do for your kids if you had a degree, they would be better taken of, and you would be more stable and less stressed because you know that your children would always have what they need.
2006-12-02 20:26:53 · answer #3 · answered by Beautiful disaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mother was 17 when she had me and my twin sister. im currently in the military and deployed. my parents are currently going through the same problems with my sister who is now trying to start her life, work at the hospital and take college for photography and journalism. yes your career is important but your family is the most important thing. they brought you into this world with god's hand. at least show them the love that they want and encourage you to show
2006-12-02 20:28:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋