Is my mom over reacting?

Question

Im 18, and I am moving into the city(manhattan), in 2 weeks alone, im going to be working and going to school, but my mom is having a fit, thinking im going to get killed or end up homeless(I have a room waiting for me there),maybe im being stubborn but I dont see why she is making such a big deal

Answer 1

she learn to deal with i

Answer 2

I live in New York and have been all my life. I am 43 and have never been mugged or anything for that matter. However, New York can swallow you up if you are from a small town. But there is so much to do and see. NY has been given such a bad rap, with all the media and TV shows depicting all the crime. But if you have read lately, it has the lowest crime rate then ten other cities.
But then again, mom's worry. I am a mom and I worry too for my son. She is not overreacting, she is just being mom and she loves you. As long as you don't get involved in anything criminal and you go out with friends and come home with friends and live a sensible hard working life, you will be fine. Of course since it is a big city, go to areas where there are a lot of people and enjoy all the city has to offer. It's like living anywhere else, you should always be aware of your surroundings.
Maybe you should bring your mom with you, just to see where you are moving and show her some sights. I am sure it will ease her mind but only a little bit. Remember, you are her baby...although all grown up, she still see's you as her little one.
So I say, no...she is not over reacting...she just loves you and wants you happy and safe.
Enjoy!

Answer 3

Honey, your mother loves you and the thought of you going into a busy place like the city alone is scary for her. You hear of all these horrible things that happen to single girls/women and when your own baby leaves the nest, it is frightening.
The way things are this day and age, there are a lot of things that can happen. This is definitely NOT Beaver Cleaver days anymore. I'm sure you understand that.
Listen to your mother's feelings and let her know that you respect her concerns and you are happy that she loves you so much. If this is something you are definitely set on, and you are going to be financially set (like having a job waiting for you if you don't already have one), in a calm tone, ask her to respect your wishes too. You are 18. You are now an adult, a new one, but you are an adult.
Also, if something goes wrong out there, please don't ever be too afraid to go back to Mom and tell her it didn't work out for you. She won't say I told you so...she'll just be glad that you are safe.
You're not being stubborn...you are growing up and it's natural to want to set out on your own.
Congratulations, and the best of luck to you.
NOW... give your Mom a big hug!
Happy Holidays!

Answer 4

She is only reacting that way out of love. The hardest part about being a parent is letting your children fly on their own. Are you an only child? If so, it's even harder. I was an only child. I have four of my own, and I have come to the conclusion that the hard part is not getting up at two in the morning fixing bottles and rocking collicky babies, it's letting them go when the time comes. She loves you honey, and for that, you are very blessed. There are alot of parents out there who are so absorbed in their own lives that they pay no attention to their children. Your mom is special though, because obviously she cares. Manhattan is a world away from most places. There is danger everywhere, but I think you are savvy enough to take care of yourself. In time, Mom will come to realize that too. You are very young to be "going to the Big City" on your own. You may not realize it, but as far as being "grown up", you haven't hit that mark yet. Good luck to you, and give Mom an extra hug tonight. She deserves it. And she should be proud that she has raised such an independent young lady as you.

Answer 5

On one hand, she is over reacting- a common reaction to one's flesh and blood moving out. But on the other hand, her concerns are legit and honest- big cities such as Manhattan, New York, San Francsico, St. Louis, Las Vegas and Sacramento are dangerous (more so at night!). One month before I moved from SF, early last year, there was an assasination attempt. A lady was killed by a sniper who was trying to kill her bf.

Answer 6

Mom is having a hard time letting go and she worries about you. I know because my 18 year old is moving to a new city in about a month. I am excited for her, and yet fearful for me. I know I will miss her terribly. It means we have to let go, and that is not an easy thing to do after all the years we've spent protecting you. Something my daughter recently told me really struck a chord. She was going away for a few days and I asked if she packed something..She said Mom, I know what I need to pack because you taught me how.....Give Mom a break. Talk to her, let her know that you will be taking years of her wisdom with you and you know she will only be a phone call away if you need her - then give her a great big hug! Best of luck to you..

Answer 7

Your mom is just being a mom. She is just worried about her baby moving away all alone. She will be fine once you are gone for a while, just make sure you call her or e mail her a lot and let her know you are O.K. Tell her to come to visit you so she can see where you are staying and see what your surroundings are like.

Answer 8

Moms are like that, dont think that way. Trust me your really lucky to have such a careing mother. You will move there anyways and you can show her you will do just fine.

Answer 9

I think she is just scared that you will be away from her and that you will end up messing up but i would let her know that you respect her thought but you are old enough to make your own mistakes and if all else fails you can always go back to her place but i think you will do really good on your own if you have a job waiting for you and a place u will be fine.. just dont blow all ur money on things make sure you have rent money.. to save up to get ur own place..

Answer 10

My mother did the same thing to me and my sister. Yes she is over reacting. She is afraid to let go. She is fearful for you. No mother wants their baby to not need them and leave the safety of home. You are not being stubborn you are growing up and it is hard for mom to accept. In the long run she will be very proud of the strong independent woman she raised. My mother was very proud of us and our independence and she finally admitted she would have it no other way.

Tell her you love her and that she raised you to be cautious of your surroundings, tell her she raised your right.

Answer 11

Mom needs to back off and allow you to be the person she obviously raised you to be. A mature young lady with goals which require you to leave home for the education and work experience needed to reach those goals. It is difficult for parents to realise their work is done and it is time for the child to go out into the world on their own.