Ok please no nasty or sarcastic comments please and the best and nicest answer gets 10 points.
Ok I have known this guy for MORE THAN A YEAR and I use to work with him, I really really like him so I managed to find out his number and started to SMS or message him.
He says he likes me and Messages me all the time, day and night, we talk about anything and everything.
We have been Messaging each other for more than a year and I have asked if he wants to go out and do stuff but he keeps making up excuses like he has to work, or depends what he's doing, we have never rang each other or been out toghether.
I don't work at the same place with him anymore but we still continue to SmS each other.
Why dose he do this?, he says he has feelings for me but dosn't want a relationship, then other times he's not sure what he wants.
What is with this guy? Is he really interested?
Is he shy or scared?
Or is he just using me?
Please help he's made me so confused.
2006-12-02 11:44:26 · 18 answers · asked by Tammy848 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I forgot to say that he has never has a girlfriend before or any sexual experience, he's 21 and single.
2006-12-02 11:51:42 · update #1
People can be weird. This is actually common - people get to emailing (don't know what SMS is) but they never actually meet.
Frankly, I wouldn't waste my time. You've already given him plenty of chances, and there are TONs of single guys out there. Ask someone else out. You simply cannot have relationship if all you do is email. You've been holding on to this for a year? What a waste. It's time to move on, meet new guys, go out and have an actual relationship.
2006-12-02 11:54:09 · answer #1 · answered by Tricia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is probably married or in a relationship.
HERE'S A SUPER PARANOID ANSWER (IGNORE IF WAY OFF BASE): Also, why did your employment end at that job, and did you all have a friendship while you worked there? It's possible that your old employer was worried that he could get sued for sexual harassment, and he is just keeping in communication with you (for his protection and the firm's) to see of there is any indication that you plan to sue his current employer over your departure.
IRREGARDLESS: You don't need to chase guys; let them chase you! [You shouldn't have to look up someone's number; he would have given it to you before you left the job if he was that interested, and he had the ability to contact you after you left by getting your number from work.]
Think of all the physical and emotional energy you are putting into chasing a lukewarm guy. Instead, use your energy to be the best YOU you can be, then let the guys go crazy trying to find out YOUR number and go crazy trying to figure out what YOU are thinking for a change. Besides, you should let God Be Your Matchmaker--He's Great At It!
2006-12-02 11:59:18 · answer #2 · answered by MandaPanda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to tell. He could be afraid of serious relationships. He may have a poor self-image. He may be gay. He may "like" you without being "attracted" to you. You may not be the sort of person that he is interested in romancing.
Since he doesn't have a girl friend, and you're making himself available then something smells fishy here. You're going to have to make him feel comfortable and then get him to open up.
Next time you ask him to go out and do stuff and he makes an excuse then follow it up with, "okay, when would be a good time for you?" Or, when you have the chance say something like, "don't you think its odd that we've never been out on a date?" Sometime when you and he are alone then you'll have to encourage him to do the talking. Don't be judgmental, just make him feel like you're interested in his thoughts.
2006-12-02 12:07:43 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is probably confused on what to do there are some men out there who don't want to get into relationships just want to mess with girls "observe there options" as they say so if he's not ready don't rush him just let him come to you when he finds out how great you are and if he never realizes it then don't worry about it there's someone else out there looking for you all you have to do is be in the right place at the right time and you'll know where to go and what time as well alright well Good Luck
2006-12-02 11:51:06 · answer #4 · answered by rae rae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK thing that he could be up to OK.
#1 he just may want you as a friend some one to talk to.
#2 he could have a girl friend and very confuse about how he feel about her and you and dont want to cheat on her that why he doesnt want to go out and do stuff with you?
#3 it could be age diffent between you and him.
#4 he could be married.
#5 he know if he go out with you it could end up in a realionship and may be he not ready for a serious realionship.
#6 or he could just doesnt have enough money to do the thing he want to do with you this happen all of the time.
2006-12-02 11:55:12 · answer #5 · answered by little_bear 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had this problem before. But I have known dis guy for 14 years. I am 18 now. He may want 2 make da first move. Even though he has feelings 4 u may just want 2 stay friends. It depends.
2006-12-02 11:48:31 · answer #6 · answered by msaquarius 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly i think he is just scared of being in a relationship and that you should talk to him about y he is not ready for a relationship and let him no that you are intrested in him i would talk to him about it or i would send him a message letting him no how you feel and that you want a relationship with him.. and see where he stands even if he doesnt want a relationship with you, you will at least no how he feels about the issue.. lots of luck to you...
2006-12-02 11:52:37 · answer #7 · answered by Beth m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he may have another girlfriend and he likes you but has a gf so he cant date you or he my be shy but most likely the first one have you ever asked if he has a gf you should ask him. I do not think he is using you.
Good Luck in you situation
Hope I helped.
2006-12-02 11:49:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anime Freak!!!!! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a guy can only sms you and not call, leave him alone. It doesnt seem like he is interested. Find someone that will call and is willing to do stuff with you.
2006-12-02 11:49:04 · answer #9 · answered by paigeamj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to tell. mabe he's scared of taking your relationship to the nrxt level, he might lose you if you break up. he sounds intersted. is there anythig hard going on in his life? just be friends till he makes the move, it's hard but it's better than having a crap boyfriend. wait, he'll come around. if not, (which i doub't), you can get better than that
hope i helped
2006-12-02 11:49:03 · answer #10 · answered by Dancing with love 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋