Ok im 14 and i got an almost 3 month old son i had him september 11th. and i have a best friend named dylan which i named him after i met dylan 3 or 4 months before i got pregnant when i told him i was pregnant he accepted it because it was mostly not my fault because the father of my son is not the best person in the world he is currently in jail for stagetory rape. but dylan almost killed him when he found out what the guy did to me so yea were close like family and i really like him and he gets along well with me and enjoys being around my son and acts as if hes a father figure and takes care of me at school and comes over alot to hang out Do you all think i should like be with him as if we were dating? because i like him alot and he likes me back and is perfect for me according to alot of people and my parents even approve of him well one does the other is also in prison. but what do you all think? anything will help?
2006-12-02 11:35:15 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
but just to make sure you can tell The father of the baby is in prision for getting me pregnant he was Not my Boyfriend he just did that thing to me
2006-12-02 11:51:24 · update #1
i think that the way things are with the two of you right now is working out well. so why complicate the whole thing. take things slow,who knows if he sticks around for a long time then i would think about being in a relationship. but not right now.your main concern right now should be the baby.
2006-12-02 11:39:38 · answer #1 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point in your life, you do not need to be worrying about having a boyfriend. You need to go through the growing, learning, and maturing process before having another boyfriend. This takes time. It's not done over night. What you're doing is giving in to instant gratification and that's never good. Your baby's daddy is in jail for statutory rape which means sex was consenual. He's where he belongs, thank goodness, but you also need to take a serious look at how you help to contribute to your present situation. If you and Dylan are such close friends, why weren't you with him instead of the baby's daddy. Getting a boyfriend now is not the answer. Having another boyfriend could mean having another baby in a year or two. How does Dylan parents feel about all that he's mixed up in concerning you (nearly killing your baby's daddy). They may be telling him to stay away from you. You need to start concentrating on your school work and start making plans for your post high-school education, take some parenting classes, join a group for teenage parents where you can learn about helping yourself more, do more than your share helping around the house, learn about cooking and preparing nutrious meals, learn good housekeeping skills, and give your attention to your baby. You need to concentrate on being a real mother and raising your baby instead of looking for a father figure for it. Your life will never be the same. Taking things slowly in steps will help and start by learning to be the best mother you can. Premarital sex will always bring problems. I know this is old fashion in today's world, but wait until marriage and you can make all the love you want. You'll be elated that you did.
2006-12-03 13:21:15 · answer #2 · answered by merry59 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since you asked, I think you are too young to have a romantic relationship, just because you have a baby doesn't mean you have to have a relationship. you need to stay in school and probably take some parenting classes... of course I don't know that much about you but you cant possibly have that many 'life experiences' which is what we need to raise children and have relationships with men. sorry to tell you this but you are a child with a child and sad thing is sounds like you haven't any parents yourself, so you will just have to do the best you can do.. If you were in my life I would try to help you , I hope you have some sensible and responsible adults in your life also I think you should look to God and the bible, for guidance, good luck babe.
2006-12-02 19:47:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Statutory rape. He's in jail. This isn't a forced rape, but consensual sex, just instead of being a pedophile scumbag, he's just a stupid horny boy friend. And he's in jail because he and YOU, couldn't wait. So now you think he's not worthy. Tell me, if they would have put YOU in juvenile hall and he stepped out on you, would you feel the same way? Don't get me wrong, he is where he should be. In jail. I hope he stays there for a very, very long time. I just don't like the fact that at one time he's worthy, and due to a stupid mistake made by BOTH of you, he is now never going to be a present father. Sucks!
2006-12-02 20:01:03 · answer #4 · answered by delux_version 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get with him if he
s a nice guy but make sure that you take care of your babay and love him more then anything because you may not have wanted him but he's probabaly the most beautiful thing you've ever seen. But go head and teel dylan that you like him and see what he does he may be a good helping hand for you but make sure that you choose your boyfriend wisely cause you could end up with mr wrong just because he acted nice for the furst year when you where getting to know him.
2006-12-02 19:40:48 · answer #5 · answered by Charissa H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If u 2 really like each other and really think it could work then go for it. but honestly u got a whole lot of others thing 2 be concerned about like your child and school so don't stress over it. i know that sounds like something a parent would say but its so true. don't ruin a friendship rushing into a relationship. if he's really your friend he'll b around long enough for u 2 to take your time.
2006-12-02 19:40:41 · answer #6 · answered by La Belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, you are 14? I think at this point, you should have the most support from your parents who know you best and know more about taking care of babies. If you were my child, I would be concerned about you and the guys you are with (no offense) but lay off the guys for a while and concentrate more on raising this baby.
2006-12-02 19:38:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend didn't do it alone! You ALLOWED it! don't fool yourself, because WE ARE NOT FOOLED! You shouldn't be dating anyone. You need to be going to school, getting an education, and helping out with the baby. No dating, no guys! That's what got you into this mess to begin with! Stop fooling yourself. Where's that little voice inside of you telling what you should and shouldn't do? DID IT LEAVE YOU< CAN YOU GET IT BACK?
2006-12-02 20:07:22 · answer #8 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yeah i think ur guys are dating b/c if he becoming the father figure of ur child than i would think u too are ment to b...this is an actual beautiful story. wow how hav u been doing since the rape? i mean thank god dylan has been around u'd be all alone. god bless u!
2006-12-02 19:39:18 · answer #9 · answered by Polandsprings 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're 14. You shouldn't be dating anyone. Haven't you had enough heartache in the last year or so? Concentrate on finishing school and making a life for you and your child.
2006-12-02 19:43:04 · answer #10 · answered by CW 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋