My best friend had asked me this question a few minuets ago. I told her that it really doesn't matter what other people think about who you're dating. (Like people criticizing you about who you are dating and such) Though she gave me the reply "It sounds easy to ignore it but it's not"
So ... I thought of myself in her position. It would be kind of embarrasing at first, but does it really matter about the opinion of others? If a person were to tell you "Ew, your dating him?" Or things like that. If it doesn't, how do I tell my friend that she should just ignore rude comments? (Because she is going to get asked out by someone she really likes soon) Does critizing on who your dating even last long in high school?
2006-12-02 11:31:07 · 23 answers · asked by Kimmi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If the person whom someone is dating is treating that person with respect and that person likes that person for who they are, they are above those who criticize others. They are far more mature than others. Who cares. They are truly missing out on what truly counts in the relationship. Honesty, communication, and trust are the biggest factors to have in any relationship. If they are not there, then there isn't much to grow on. If you let someone Else's negative comments get in the way, then you either weren't really into the person, or you let peer pressure get the best of you and you will regret it later. Think of the feelings you that will be hurt and the regrets you will have made.
2006-12-02 11:37:08 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think our culture is SOOOO incredibly preoccupied by looks and status that people don't even TRY to make relationships work. Is your friend a supermodel? Is her date super-gorgeous? Should they break up because that supermodel/superstud MIGHT be just around the corner?
It's fricken ridiculous. If she likes him and he likes her than the rest of the world be damned. He is giving a part of his heart and soul to her. Should she stamp on it simply because some rude uncooth b*tch made a moronic comment? Is that what kind of world we want to live in?
The ONLY reason to really listen to someone is if the boy is treating her badly and she doesn't recognize it. If it's a hurtful or damaging relationship then she needs to listen to her friends who are trying to help.
But if she listens to the rude comments and dumps him, then in the end it's best, because he deserves far better than a loser like your friend.
2006-12-02 19:44:05 · answer #2 · answered by Tricia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, i have the same problem. This girl im going out with is really pretty, but people think bad about her and say we're a bad couple. I try to ignore it too.. but its hard. They think shes ugly and all.. it breaks my heart soo much. I agree, easy to say but hard to do it. i just say " Well you know what, she (he in your case) makes me happy and i love to be with him" that kinda of stuff. They back off. Think of it this way, they're not ganna be around you for ever. You could be with this person for the rest of your life. I think if you really like that person, stick with them and who cares what the people say..If the person whom someone is dating is treating that person with respect and that person likes that person for who they are, they are above those who criticize others. They are far more mature than others. Who cares. They are truly missing out on what truly counts in the relationship. Honesty, communication, and trust are the biggest factors to have in any relationship. If they are not there, then there isn't much to grow on. If you let someone Else's negative comments get in the way, then you either weren't really into the person, or you let peer pressure get the best of you and you will regret it later. Think of the feelings you that will be hurt and the regrets you will have made.
nope, i dont even care wat my best friends think of the girl i like. Different ppl have different tastes, so make ur own choices, it's the person u like not they
2006-12-02 19:37:22 · answer #3 · answered by SCSA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think High School is the key subject here. Kids are cruel, they creat their own perception based on TV and Hollywood what is cool and what isn't. I'm telling you it doesn't matter what they think. High School is a phase in your life that fades very quickly after you graduate. Don't worry about what other people think. That high school sweet heart could be the love of your life. Is she gonna let other kids patronize her? What do they have that is so much better? Probably nothing. Cuz that High School star quarter back will probably grow up to be a bald drunk, and this guy she likes my be the biggest stud. Tell her to go for it!
2006-12-02 19:36:01 · answer #4 · answered by kgsult 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I really think its who you like to be with. People are going to make remarks or be stupid because of immature reasons.
If your the type, that worry about what people say, it will always bother you for a long time.
If you think you have someone that will make you happy, why should it matter when people make such dumb remarks ? Its their problem...
Ask them what is the problem is with who you' re dating ? If you think its a stupid remark, ignore it. They are just stupid. If they know something , please do tell and listen what they have to say.....
If they can't or won't do anything for you they should mind to their own business.
2006-12-02 19:40:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its been some time since I was in High School, but I can tell you those are nice memories that will stay with you forever.
Now, it has been my experience that those "ewww" relationships turn out to be the most meaningful.
When people get used to the fact that 2 ewies are dating, they quickly develop a respect for the couple and possibly reeavaluate their own relationship status.
Tell your freind to go with her heart and she will be fine
2006-12-02 19:38:38 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
everyone at some point has to decide on a hard question. peer preasure or happy in the heart. it depends on where youre at for each person. im 37 but still young in the mind. i stop careing about peer preasure long ago, so i dont know if this advice will help. she should go for it!
2006-12-02 19:44:27 · answer #7 · answered by thoughtfuljon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it deals with how well a person can accept the critisim and how many people are giving it ya know. im dating someone 14 years older than me and have gotten some whats ect out of people but i also have some people telling me they think we're cute together and it doesnt bug them. as long as the critisims arent bad ie cheating history, hear a few bad things from people or confermation of things from a few ppl, then its all good. if you hear that stuff, you might want to look at the relationship... but you cant help who you love
2006-12-02 19:37:20 · answer #8 · answered by llllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yep yep!! wat other people say really does matter cuz it keeps you aware. The truth is you always have to think possitive. For example, Ur name is Taisha and u go with LLoyd, ur friend comes and tells u dat she knows Lloyd better, and dat he is really bad. Then you have to think possitive, ask her why she said so, she'll definitely give you a reason, ask her why she told you, she'll definitely say it's cuz she cares bout u. Wat ever reasons she gives you, tell her it's not a good enough reason and see her reactions. Girl you know what she definitely like ur boy and want him for her self. If a boy tells u ur boy is bad and u should break up wit him, it's the other way around. he likes u and wants to go with you.
2006-12-02 19:41:41 · answer #9 · answered by Ladyhils 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it with a grain of salt. If it doesn't work out with the person you're dating, you only have your friends to fall back on, so don't cut them off. Friends can also have some insights, and show you things that you may not see.
2006-12-02 19:34:30 · answer #10 · answered by Nick C 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋