can you spoil your baby too much?

Question

my 5 month old son cries all the time, and is not happy unless he is being held(especially by me, mommas boy). any ideas, and do you think i can spoil him too much

Answer 1

YOU CANT SPOIL A BABY

Answer 2

I don't think that you can spoil a 5 month old. As a small baby, he needs all the love and holding that you can manage! He isn't manipulating you at this point, he's just expressing his feelings.

At a certain point he'll find he can separate from you more easily, or there will come a time when you can let him cry and he'll come to be OK being away from you.

It's been a long time since I had kids that age. Perhaps you should search on some parenting websites, etc., or read parenting books for more insight about this and when "developmentally" it's OK to let him just cry.

Answer 3

Oh yea...I remember the time when mine has done that..And as a young mother I know there are things that has to be done..and you cant do it ..holding a baby all the time...Now that my kids are grown up now ...and just have a 14 yr.old at home now...my advise would be....when your baby cry..check and see if it needs changed or if its hungry..not sick or any thing wrong..if its just fussing hold it next to you 3 min..love it and talk with it ..make the baby smile..your baby just wants to know you are still there..after the 3 min......try putting the baby in his bouncer seat or car seat and face him as close as you can ..so the baby can see ya..while you a folding towels or what ever you may be doing..talk with the baby..sometimes hearing your voice ..will help.....this will only work for a short period of time..but keep repeating ..the baby need touch and loving voice from you...your all he has and he or she wants you close.......but to answer your question..no i don't think you can spoil a 5 month old..But i do know Mommy's need need free time too..and this might give it to you ..little by little..hope this helps

Answer 4

Here's the deal. Holding your baby all the time (at that age) is good because one day, he's going to feel secure, and loved, and although he won't want you to hold him anymore, that will only be because he know's you love him.

I made that same mistake with my oldest son. I didn't hold him as much because people told me I was going to spoil him. But now, he's 8 years old, and will do anything for a hug. It's almost like he needs my husband and I to prove that we love him. It kills me to see this, because I know I could have fullfilled his need for affection by having given it to him as much as I could when he was a baby. My middle son, I still hadn't learned from my mistake (they are only 1 year apart and I was only 20) When I had my youngest son (he's now 5) I had already realized the mistake I had made the first two times. When my youngest son came along, I knew that I should hold him as much as I could. My youngest son needs no affection to this day. If anything he wishes we wouldn't give him as much. His self esteem is high, he plays well independently, and with others. He's a good little guy altogether. The best thing is to start with your first son. You can't spoil a child by giving him too much affection. Now giving him whatever he wants when he demands it, is a whole other story.

Answer 5

No you cant. I held my 3rd son allll the time and he was a big time mommas boy and still is. But I like that. He is very loving and a sweetheart. I dont feel you can spoil a baby at all. They need that kind of attention.

Answer 6

As the mother of 5 grown children and 11 grandchildren - I can tell you from experience that you CANNOT spoil a baby! A baby cries for a reason - that is his/her way to communicate that they need something. Many times what they need is the closeness and the love from their mother and/or dad.

Hold your baby close, hold your baby often - soon - before you know what has happened - your baby will be full grown. Never let yourself feel that you didn't hold your baby enough.

Your baby is crying because he needs something - if all he needs is your closeness and love - well, let me tell ya, you are one lucky lady.

Hold that baby!

Answer 7

i dont think you can spoil a baby by holding them too much. babies need to be held and cuddled and reassured that you are there for them as much as they want. i know it can be hard to get things done with a baby in your arms all day, but there will come a day when he is independent and no longer wants you to hold and cuddle him and you will miss it, so enjoy it now while it lasts.

Answer 8

yes it is posible to spoil your baby he is only five months but they know what they are doing belive me he knows if he cries you come he knows its more comfy to be held so he cries till he gets his way, bless. If you like it that way then there is nothing wrong with it if its a bit much it wouldnt do him any harm if you didnt pick him up he would cry but he would stop sooner or later and he would start to not expect you to come running every time he calls

Answer 9

Absolutely not....as long as the child knows right from wrong...you cannot spoil a young child too much

Answer 10

he´s still very young, but they say that babies can start to manipulate between 6 and 12 months...so yes, I´d be careful not to hold him every time he cries a little...give him to someone else as a start and don´t give in when he cries, especially when it is your husband or other close familymembers who want to hold him...

Answer 11

I personally don't think you can spoil a baby. Have you talked to his pediatrician?? He may be colicky or his formula may not be agreeing with his belly. Try holding him on your lap over your knees, on his belly and rubbing and patting his back; my son loved that.