I have talked to so many victims and they all say that they would die to meet a nice guy but scared about the intimacy issue.....is this true or is this woman lying and hiding something?
2006-12-02 11:10:24 · 16 answers · asked by . . 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't use "always" when you mean one person.
Jerk.
2006-12-02 11:12:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
The woman is telling the truth. Victims of abuse are afraid of imtimacy because it dredges up terrible memories that the person wants to forget and never remember again. Lying is not something most do although it is always possible. Do not assume everyone does because it is not true. Have empathy for someone who has been abused. I am one who has been abused and the intimacy thing is something that bothers me all the time. However, I don't lie about it.
2006-12-02 19:15:03 · answer #2 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Before I answer your question, I have a question.. have you ever been sexual abused? If not how can you judge someone elses pain? You never meet me and I am a sexual abuse person. I was molested by my father. I am the exact opposite of these ladies. I have a huge intimancy problem and that is,in the past I would except sex from anyone that paid me attention. This was because I needed to feel loved and excepted. I have gotten therpy but alot of people do not and think they can handle it them shelves. Iam 33 years old and I still do not do will in relationships. Once I fell I have been rejected, even if I am still with that person, I will go and seek out men to have sex with, ome times I would meet one guy one day and the next week I would meet the other. This was just to fell the void of being rejected. Your commitment was rude and offensive to me. We do lie but some of us do lie to cover our pain, our existence. That is a pain, that no one on this planet should feel! I lie to myself when I realize I am back in one of my cycles. I stop the behavior now before it gets out of control. Sometimes its hard to tell but I know my triggers now. I have gotten therpy and I now except
that I have an emotional problem and I now there are others out there that have not come to terms with it as I have. Its sad but I deal with what I have done and God is the only one who gets to judge me in the end. Intimacy is hard when you have been a victim, go to a victums meeting and sit through one and I bet that after one meeting you will come out crying, if not your just a cold and unfeeling Son of a b_ _ _ _ h!
2006-12-02 19:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by alwaysleftheartbroken 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am a sexual abuse vicitm and i'd love to meet a nice guy. but intimacy will always be an issue for me and many other people in the same situation.
In some cases yes women are lying when they say things like that.
remember you can never forget what has happened, you can forgive, but not forget.
2006-12-04 12:27:54 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Bekka ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If someone lies remember the lie might not be for the expected reason. People will sometimes fake things to seem normal than when confronted appear to contradict themselves.
Whenever you take a normal function of life and mentally or physically cripple someone of it. Every time that issue occurs they will not have a normal reaction to it.
Always keep the possibilities open and be cautious but, be understanding and patient. The truth will eventually come.
2006-12-02 19:49:44 · answer #5 · answered by obscure 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sexual abuse victims do not lie. Especially about being afraid to be intimate. How would you feel if you were forced to commit sexual acts that you didn't want to because you didn't know how to fight back, or because someone threatened you if you didn't? Instead of judging people maybe you should put yourself in their shoes once in awhile.
2006-12-02 19:15:21 · answer #6 · answered by Joanne B 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
They are carrying around some very heavy guilt although the guilt is not theirs. They feel as though they are damaged goods and are afraid if they get too close to someone or if they let someone in that person will see this and/or hurt them and they don't know if they can handle anymore pain.
2006-12-02 20:33:42 · answer #7 · answered by blastabuelliac 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sexual abuse victims often not only lose their innocense, but their sense of security as well, and it makes them feel safer in their own world where they know no matter what they trust themselves, be patient with them and hope they know thta you mean it and that your there to help
2006-12-02 19:13:29 · answer #8 · answered by harmonieclark 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You insensitive bastard...They probably lie because their feeling ashamed about what happened & not ready to "give-up-the-goods" especially if the "goods" were taken from them involuntarily.
2006-12-02 19:23:55 · answer #9 · answered by motherkc 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
spoken like a true abuser.
2006-12-02 19:54:01 · answer #10 · answered by Thunderman9 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
because they cant stop being a victim
2006-12-02 19:12:17 · answer #11 · answered by nonyerbusiness 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋