Heres the story(5weeks)...this girl, we always use to go lunch, out to movies, and even the occasional dinner/going out with friends of ours. Everything was really great...she likes to touch me alot, and we always use to laugh....now all thats gone, the past week has been really hard as i dont know what has happened. Her B/f did break up with her, but we use to go on lunches even before that happened. I didnt make the move cause i really didnt want to move too fast for the girl. Im so annoyed at her this past week...she doesnt respond to my txt's, unless its really urgent, and she seems to have gotten real distant from me...i have yet to ask her why, but she works with me, and i dont want to say anything yet...i really like her, and dont know what to do...One thing i noticed though, is shes really nice and laughing to everyone else...but shes now got a awkward feeling towards me everytime im there, as if she doesnt want to talk to me/ignoring me. and then we think girls arent evil
2006-12-02 11:02:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Couple of details id like to mention, the girl use to take me to lunch before the breakup, not the other way around, and she'd want me to go do things with her...ie after work have a coffee or something... After the breakup, she wanted me to be the one to confort her, which i done of course, and we started going out even more doing lunches, movies, etc.....even introduced me to a couple of her friends.....i dont know what to do now???.....Recently she got really mad at me, and told me to F#ck off, i havent talked to her since, she seems to be frustrated at me only....shes slowly starting to talk again, but i ignore her like nothing else....shes really got me mad this time, i dont know why shes taking it out on me, but i havent talked to her properly since...she asks me if im ok, and if everythings fine...im really serious toned to her now, and havent txtd again, or tried acknowledging her for awhile now...why has things got to this stage anyhow?....
2006-12-02 11:02:57 · update #1
What should i do people?......that F&ck Off remark really hurt me....and i dont know if she knows it or not, as that same day, she started to want to talk normally to me again, and i didnt budge, i just kept convo serious, and have been doing so since (been about 6days now....usually we're always laughing to each other...which isnt happening on my end now...she does try to cheer me up though, which isnt working for me!). Shes pretty much the same as me though, we both talk and laugh normally to others around us, being it girl or boy, but when talking to each other, it becomes really awkward (and i just get my job done so keep convo short and to the point)....and ive noticed this for awhile now. Have i ignored her enough now?should i start speaking to her again normally......i need her to know that i was annoyed with her though, how can i do this in a subtle manner....im really thinking of giving up now!please help
2006-12-02 11:03:06 · update #2
maybe she was using you to get rid of her bf,and once he was gone she didnt need you anymore.i think i would find someone else to hang out with and not a coworker
2006-12-02 11:08:56 · answer #1 · answered by starr67 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I think maybe she likes you, and she's just confused about what she's feeling. She's probably stressed out from the breakup with her boyfriend, and she's maybe uncertain about whether or not she wants to get involved with your or not. She probably enjoyed the lunches when she knew that she didn't have to worry about you guys becoming an item. But now that she's single, the option comes up, which adds complications, especially since you work together. The only way you'll know for sure is to tell her how you feel about her.
Start talking to her normally, and when she starts responding say, "I'm glad we're talking again. I missed talking to you. I kinda got hurt when you told me to @#% off, especially since your opinion of me is important to me." You need to let her know that it hurt you, because it came from her, but that you don't want to lose her friendship over that one incident.
Good luck!
2006-12-02 11:12:19 · answer #2 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like to me that she's taking her break up out on you. In some way or another you may indirectly be the reason that her boyfriend has broken up with her. It depends on the personality of her boyfriend. He may have been the jealous type and you may have been the object of his frustration as well as the reason for his termination of the relationship. As a result even though she initiated a lot of it, she feels guilty for how she carried on with you and instead of maturely telling you, she's being passive aggressive. It seems like that by the end of your question that she either straightened things out with her boyfriend or she's moved on from him and is trying to slowly move back into your life. I think if it's important to you that she should know then I'd say confront her and let her know how you feel. If you decide to remain friends with her then ultimately that's your decision.
2006-12-02 11:16:13 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet_Sassy_Scorpio 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the boyfriend was jealous of the closeness you two shared. He may have told her in so many words. This may have been the underlying cause of the breakup. She might be subconsciously blaming you. Keep being a friend. You sound like a nice guy.
2006-12-02 11:11:18 · answer #4 · answered by LORI H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im going to have to agree with these people, your being passive agressive and its not solving the problem, and is it making you feel better? apparently not.
so you need to come clean, it is obvious that you both have feelings for eachother and now its time for someone (namely you) to be an adult....yes an adult and step up to the plate. tell her how you feel and what bothers you. playing the ignoring game is for kids, nothing gets solved.
if you care enough you will take the leap because whether it works out or not you closed the chapter. by approaching the situation you will find closure.
just do it kid, dont play games, life is too damn short for that crap.
2006-12-02 11:11:15 · answer #5 · answered by nonyerbusiness 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She probably likes you and wants you to ask her out and when you didn't she got hurt and said f*** off cause she was hurt if you can move on from her not nice words and remember how nice she normally is and ask her out
2006-12-02 11:09:49 · answer #6 · answered by charlie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're freaking out over no longer something. in case you have been keen to possibility having him over night, then this is your duty to no longer get caught, no longer him. at last, after relationship a protracted time (uncertain how long you 2 have) you discover ways to ignore petty little issues like that, this is not nicely actually worth the time or the potential to combat over
2016-12-29 19:43:52 · answer #7 · answered by para 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe before you start talking back to her you should txt her and let her know how you felt when she told you to f u c k off. If she respond then great if not f uck her tell her to kiss a.s.s. What did u do for her to tell you to F off?
2006-12-02 11:10:07 · answer #8 · answered by SugNspice_1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's called being "passive-aggressive", dude...sounds like you didn't do anything, it's just her raging hormones. Sounds like she's playing games in trying to get your attention...just brush the "f*ck off" comment off, she didn't mean it...we rarely do. :)
2006-12-02 11:08:05 · answer #9 · answered by coffeefreak 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur doing the right thing no girl should disrespect well i dont really no u so i dont know if u deserved it if u didnt deserve it then dont talk to her again but if u truthfully deserved it and u know it then u should apoligize if u really like her and want to talk to her again
2006-12-02 11:12:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋