Okay, so me and my boyfriend have been dating since the beginning of Spring this year, and it's starting to get really serious and we are going to meet family members soon, but there are a few things that I just won't do because I'm uncomfortable with it, even in marriage, and I won't change my mind.
Most has to do with sex. He wan't to have oral sex, but I will not, I don't like it, I've had bad experiences. He also wants to have sex a lot, and says that sex is extremly important in a marriage, but to me it is somewhat important, and I feel different about how much sex I'd be comfortable having. I don't want marathoon sex, because then it just starts to be all about sex and nothing more.
I know I sound insecure about these things, but if this is what is totally imporant to him in marriage,and is not to me, then should we even continue things. If I stay, I may feel pressured, if I go, I don't know how it would make me feel.
2006-12-02 10:53:25 · 7 answers · asked by IKnowWhoUAre! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I will be honest with you. I think you have some issues to work out about sex and your own feelings toward it. I have made mistakes in my life and if you can work things out for yourself before you go and make Huge mistakes, you will be better off in the long run. Sex is very important to all guys. I also think that most guys really like the oral thing. So , maybe you are not ready for a relationship , or you can stay with him if He is understanding enough to work through this with you.
2006-12-02 11:06:02 · answer #1 · answered by LoveMyLife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex ,love, and marriage go hand in hand. When the sex is good, the love is even better because you feel a special bond and closeness to your partner. Sounds like you are more of a friend to him than a marriage partner. Think about this or you will obviously head for a divorce.
2006-12-02 11:02:54 · answer #2 · answered by LORI H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't see eye-to-eye on this subject or reach some kind of compromise then there is no sense in continuing the relationship, because it's just going to cause problems in the future.
2006-12-02 11:04:52 · answer #3 · answered by margarita 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are confuseds about this situation you need to sit down and talk to him and tell him everything you just said and if he really loves he will understand I agree with you he sounds like my ex boyfriend.
2006-12-02 11:01:56 · answer #4 · answered by csmndaj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both sound like yu are not ready for marriage, I would wait a while and see if he meets yu half way or yu meet him halfway?yu need to talk more and really see if this is who yu want to stay with for life?
2006-12-02 11:00:58 · answer #5 · answered by richard c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u need to have a heart to heart, explain ur problem to him and ask him to tone it down a bit if he really loved u he would change but u can only change a man so much...good luck
2006-12-02 11:04:38 · answer #6 · answered by x.rawr_its_ivan.x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there it will only get worse. He will just keep on you and then you will fight. not meat to be
2006-12-02 11:00:57 · answer #7 · answered by saltynsassy3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋