ive been dating this girl for a few months and i really really really started liking her... she told me the other day that years ago she slept with two guys at the same time.. im seriously messed up about this. we talked about it today and she said she really wishes she could take it back. im wondering what you guys think i should do?
2006-12-02 10:21:42 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The fact that she told you says a lot about her and her feelings for you. Forgetting about will be hard to do but why should this change how you feel about her. She is still the same person she was before she told you. And I'm sure there are things that she may not like about your past. Would you want her to change the way she felt about you if there were?
2006-12-02 10:33:41 · answer #1 · answered by PHAT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her, talk to her, and try if you can to put yourself in her shoes. If you really love her these things just won't matter
I think that she told you also to see if you would or could accept her for who she is now. Warts and all.
I have punished myself a whole lot more then anyone else ever could. I feel sometimes like I have two life times worth of experiences and not all good. If a guy is serious and I am getting serious about him I usually talk to them.
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2006-12-02 19:21:46 · answer #2 · answered by e_piphany214 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love her enough to forgive her? You will have to try to get to know her some more to decipher if she is the type of girl who would do something like this again. My brother, think of yourself as being lucky for her to tell you that because there are alot of guys out there who are married or dating former prostitutes and are clueless about it.
I don't think you should drop her yet.......nobody is perfect. If you decide to let her go, let it be more than this.........
2006-12-02 18:41:01 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please get past this..........I like the fact that she was that open and honest with you that means you have gotten in a place with her that she felt close enough to you to share something she is not so proud of and now you have taken that away from her by not being able to handle it. Please tell her you are sorry and that she can always come to you and share her whole being with you.
Tell her it did bother you but that you are thankful she told you.
2006-12-02 18:39:50 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are freaked about this moral wise then I would ask her how she feels about what she did and if she would do it agian. If it is something she regrets then I would look at it as past and let is go. We all have done things in the past that we regret. Having to suffer for them forever is not necessary.
2006-12-02 18:27:54 · answer #5 · answered by lisat2yr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow dat is hard...ive thought about what i would do if dat eva happened....and honestly i think i would kinda hurt ya know i mean im not even so sure why eitha its just dat i guess when you really like someone or whateva you want to be there first and be wit them forever and all dat stuff....and to know dat they did dat is kinda like a disappointment.....but she actually told you dats pretty brave well.....i would jst keep doin wat your doin and make sure you two always talk about whats on your mind because she may have done all dat wit those two other guys but what they dont have of her dat you may have is.....da fact dat shes honest wit you and really really likes you, and probably truly loves you...and you know what love isnt all about sex....there way more to it than dat:)
2006-12-02 18:34:02 · answer #6 · answered by lilnaychulita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't live for yesterday, live for today. many people make mistakes and wish they could take them back. She was honest forgive her . It happend before you, move on together stronger for the honesty and trust you both have.
2006-12-02 18:26:38 · answer #7 · answered by faith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the past go and work on the future
2006-12-02 18:25:41 · answer #8 · answered by iyxix 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be uptight. Sounds like she's sexually adventurous. Have your own adventures with her, and don't worry about what she was doing before you started dating her - it's got nothing to do with you.
2006-12-02 18:25:33 · answer #9 · answered by Answerer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man she would rly hav to care for u by telling u dis
shed be more upset about it den u most likeley...
u 2 should talk it over
2006-12-02 18:27:16 · answer #10 · answered by snak_oner 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋