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okay this is what happen: i have to move somewhere a couple hours away my bf and i are in our early teens when i told him he said he really did want to lose me and i said he doesnt have to bc i dont want to break up, and he said that long distance relationships were really hard to work out, and it would be hard so he didnt want to do it, then he told me "dont think that i dont love you" i was said and he said he was sorry and he shouldnt have said that. we havent talked about it since and it is a sore spot for us so we havent brought it up i am heart broken i will die if we move.
-what should i do
-does he love me?
-why doesnt he want a relationship after i move?
-what is he thinking?

Answer 1

First off...you will feel like you are going to die, but you won't. Sometimes when we hurt we learn the most about ourselves. I think he loves you, and I think his love is very mature. Long distance relationships don't work and I am sure he is hurting just as bad as you are. Don't look at it as he doesn't love you or that he doesn't care like you do, but instead, look at it as he is being strong for the both of you. I am sure you can still remain friends and even see each other from time to time. But a relationship long distance isn't even realistic. If you two are meant to be together, your paths will cross again.

Answer 2

Sounds to me like your boyfriend has a very realistic view of the world. Even for grown adults, it is really hard to maintain a long distance relationship.
Yes, he does love you..he's just hurt right now and knows how difficult it will be to stay together...considering your ages.
I am sure he would love to have a relationship with you..but is aware of the challenges.
He is probably thinking that it is better to end the relationship now than to try and pretend that it is not going to be hard.
You two most likely don't have cars and are going to be far enough away that neither of your parents are going to want to drive so far so that the two of you can hang out.
Piece of advice...move on and be happy that the two of you had this relationship. If the two you are really meant to be together...it will happen. It sounds a little callous but sometimes it's better to face the truth than it is to lie to yourself. You guys could try and keep it going but the chances are good that it will end. Someone will feel lonely, insecure..lost without the other. All of this can cause long distance to be unbearable. You are really young still, enjoy your life...there will be others.

Answer 3

I would say become or go back to being best-friends and if you both love eachother enough and it was meant to be you will have that intimate relationship back. Try to see him whenever you can. Long distance relationships are really hard and rarely work out when they involve two young people. He probably doesnt want the issues that a long distance relationship can cause. Jealousy, finding someone who lives by you or him and wanting to be with them and breaking up over the phone. Better to just become friends now and If its true love nobody will be able to compare especially if you can fit it in to see eachother as often as possible

Answer 4

Honestly if you are in your early teens, I wouldn't suggest staying together. I know it's hard to see all the ways your life is going to change in the next few years, but it will. I would stay friends with him, talk on the phone sometimes, even get together if you are in town. If it's meant to be, than a few years from now when you have some more freedom and your own transportation, than you will want to try it again. Until then, go out and see what else is out there. I don't doubt that you love each other, but I think he sees how hard it's going to be. Just go with it. You will both be happier.

Answer 5

Well moving is a part of life.My first bf moved away the second day we started dating.
Yes he does love you.
I wouldnt want the same relationship either, its way to hard to keep and how do you know hes not double crossing you?
I know he loves you but just doesnt want the hassle of having a long distance relationship.

Answer 6

Honey 2 hours away to a teenage boy is too much in his mind ,you are both not mature enough to have a long distance relationship work unfortunately as soon as you are gone he will look for a replacement for you that is what young boys do .You have to accept that if your famiy is moving you will get over it too and find someone else .What he is thinking is irrelevant he is just too young sorry but you have to learn and understand this now .

Answer 7

Long distance relationship are very hard and you are still very young, maybe give it some time, see how thing go. You might meet up again and fall love and get married down the track

Answer 8

He is being mature. Relationships are rarely long lasting at your age. Once you make new friends and you are the new girl in school and all the guys notice, you'll be so busy it will be easier to move on without him.

You both have a lot of life to experience. Maybe someday you'll meet again and you will both know what you want because you've experienced so much apart.

Answer 9

you should be glad he was honest with you. he is right, long distance relationships are hard. i am trying to deal with one right now. you do need to talk about it though. u cant just ignore it bc sooner or later you will have to decide whether or not you want to stick it out or just be friends. friends are great too. and remeber you can always talk and be good friends without all the pressure of having him as a bf.

Answer 10

If you both really loved eachother enough, you'd both find a way to work out your relationship. I know it's hard. I have to leave my best friend. I have the hugest crush on him...and I know I love him. And we are both waiting until we are sixteen so we know we both love eachother. Just to make sure. So just wait. You have a long time. Have fun being a kid!