I am pregnant again with my second child. My daughter is 1 years old and I haven't told anyone yet. I am almost 5 months and I know that if I told my family that they would be dissapointed. I have the kind of family that you can't turn to in this kind of situation because they will scold and ridicule you. So I don't know who to turn to. Help!!!
2006-12-02 10:00:00 · 16 answers · asked by chloerochelle102887 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I think you should focus on the birth of your baby and enjoy your pregnancy, I dont look down on you (after all you kept it and didnt abort, that is a very unselfish thing to do) Yes you are young to already have 2 kids (sorta) but they grow fast and before you know it rountine will be there and you can get your life back (to some degree). Enjoy your new baby when it comes and enjoy your daughter, if your family is all whiny, let them be, it will pass. You can email me if you want.
2006-12-02 10:04:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I agree with delaney. I will be 21 next week and I have 2 daughters who are 1 1/2 and 2 1/2 (same father). I thought my family would be disapointed but I didn't care. I had other things to worry about that were more important than what people thought of me. Just because you have kids doesn't mean your life is over. I'm in the process of becoming a registered nurse. If you want something you should go for it. You already know what I did. I can't tell you what to do. I'll tell you this though; if I would happen to get pregnant again, we would have the child and raise it. We're already planning on trying for another so what will a few years make a difference?
2006-12-02 10:13:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
At 20 you are an adult, and need to take responsibility for your own actions. What about the father or fathers of these babies They are legally if not morally responsible for supporting these kids too.
Look for an organization or program in your area for pregnant teens. These are usually church based but some are community sponsored. There are government programs as well like WIC and food stamps that will help. The best way to deal with your families disappointment is to stand up and take care of yourself and your kids. They should be proud of you if you show you can solve your own problems without asking for there help. Last of all learn from this and don't let it happen again till your ready. Go to planned parenthood and get and use birth control.
2006-12-02 10:23:29 · answer #3 · answered by j.m.glass 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me, i was had a 1 year old and found out i was pregnant with my 2nd at 20. I cryed and cryed I was so mad. I didnt want another baby. I was on the depo shot at the time and they said you couldnt get pregnant for 1year-18months after stopping it , so I wasnt worried, but I got pregnant with in a month of going off of it.
That's too bad you have a family that would turn on you in an instant. I hope they can just understand, that is not worth losing you over.
Either tell them soon, or dont and let them find out on there own when they see ya
2006-12-02 10:12:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry your family won't support you emotionally or otherwise.
If you attend a church (or want to attend one), I'm sure they have some resources available to you. Babysitting, food, maybe counseling with the pastor, etc. Being involved with something like that could also help you emotionally if you believe in God and everything.
Of course you should expect their father(s) to help. I mean, they were there to make them and should be involved at least with monetary support. I hope you're at least getting that.
You could join a support group or task-sharing group for mothers. They're pretty easy to find online ... some just meet once a week, some share meals so the members don't have to cook as often, etc.
If your area has a YWCA they might also be helpful.
Look in your phone book for a Women's or Children's Resource center. They'll be able to tell you what services, counselors, etc exist in your area.
Good luck!
2006-12-02 10:24:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, well first off. If you have a good job, have an apt and are paying your bills. (i.e. not living with them and having them take care of your 1 year old) Then you have nothing to worry about. But if you are living with them, they are baby sitting while you go out and "party" and they pay your bills and everything, you may want to look at different options.
But like I said, if you are doing well by your self with no help and you know that you can take care of this baby, then take the scolding and the ridicule.
But if you are living with them, then you deserve it.
2006-12-02 11:47:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the right thing and give the child up for adoption. Even though it is hard, the best thing you could do for your child is to give it a chance for a future. You will be 20 with two kids, what kind of life will they really have? Through adoption you can give your child a better life and chance at a future.
2006-12-02 11:13:11 · answer #7 · answered by frenchie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult and they can do nothing about it. Though in all honesty my 1st child my family found out by opening my mail, my 3 other children I told no one about until 6 months way past being able to get an abortion what they always tried to tell me to do. if I had listened to them I would not have my 4 pride's and joy. it will be hard, but the Lord does not give us more than we can handle.
Congratulations!!!!!!!! and enjoy.
2006-12-02 10:46:00 · answer #8 · answered by faith 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 15:11:20 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what sort of help are you looking for? you are an adult. If you are expecting your family to help and you know they won't, then I'm afraid you will have to manage on your own.
I'm sorry you seem disappointed with your choice to get pregnant.
If you choose to have sex, you are choosing the possibility of pregnancy.
If you are looking for support, then please consider some counselling. You will need all of your strength to deal with your little one and this pregnancy if you are alone. Where is the father?
There is always adoption.
2006-12-02 10:06:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋