my boyfriend does drugs?

Question

my boyfriend of 2 years..is going thru a very difficult time..doesn't really have a job, everything is going bad..before our relationship him n his brother n a bunch of people would always party and they would do meth occasionally..my bf stopped and he was clean for the longest time..when we got together he was clean n he even quit weed..then things got really bad..he lost his job and his mom kicked them out so her NEW bf can come construct the house..his parents are divorced..his brother is in a band..so there is a lot of partying..and lately he started drinking heavily n i nag him so much and i keep asking why is he doing it..and it gets him angry and then he goes and does drugs..we talked about it and he wants me to compromise and he never promises me that he wont do it..because if its around him he doesn't know if he'll do it or not..and he never lies about it..and he tells me he doesn't want to do it but doesnt want to promise anything..he wants me to go with the flow and not nag

so basically..he wants me to go with the flow and not nag so much cause it drives him to do **** more..and if he does anything he doesnt want me to make him feel bad..but i dont know what to do..i feel so helpless..but deep inside i know him and i know he really doesnt want to do it..but ughhh im so confused

Answer 1

I had a man like this once and he wound up killing himself. I would sugest trying to fiind him a job in a subtle way. The most important thing is not to push him. Don;t make him feel trapped and try not to pint out all the bad stuff he does. Jon got so depressed cause he felt he wasn't going any where and couldn't do any thing. Just let him know how much you love him and that your worried about him and if he loves you and sees how much this hurts he'll try to work it out. Never leave mad, and make sure the last thing you tell him before you leave to go somewhere isn't something you can't take back. Best wishes. T

Answer 2

Oh dear, oh dear , the heart goes one way but the brain goes another .
He is never going to amount to a hill of beans and your concern and nagging is not making him stop . In fact, he will use THAT as an excuse to do more. It feels so good to him and you just are not able to replace those darn crutches with anything . You are a nice young person, get away from that loser . Get to work, find another outlet to fill your idle hours and be firm. He will pull you down for sure . There is no 'compromise' for goodness sake. Either you are a frig-gen dope addict or you are clean. There is no compromise . That is like a little bit pregnant or a little bit dead . What an operator he is inventing excuses .
Your whole life lies ahead of you. Don't start out wrong and make it miserable .
Good luck to you .

Answer 3

Well one day when you and him are in a good mood you should sit him down and have a talk.

Tell him how you feel.
I'm sure it's hard for you to see him going through this tough stage in his life. You must be strong for him if you want him to quit. He needs to realize that he has someone very special that cares about him. He doesn't need the drugs to make him feel better. All he needs is you. Remind him that you are always there for him and you would do anything to help him, but you cant just go with the flow and watch him make the biggest mistake of his life. He's hurting himself and what he doesn't realize is that he is hurting you too.

I hope everything works out! And i hope i helped you with your problem just a little bit.

Answer 4

Leave him now.. He is not considering what this is doing to you and he will never amount to anything if he doesn't get off the drugs. Who would hire him? If you leave him and tell him it's over without question unless he gets off the drugs then he will have to choose, either way you will be better off. You are opening yourself up for years of misery and pain if you stay with him. You will be considered an accomplice if they ever catch him with drugs, and you will go to jail no matter if your doing them or not. He is a lost cause unless he can bring himself up out of this gutter he is living in. Try to get him into AA or another type group. I feel very bad for you and wish you all the best.

Answer 5

Well first off if you really love him then you will continue to stick by his side no matter what.We all have our bad moments in our lives but just don't go giving up on him all together.If it becomes dangerous for you to remain in the relationship then please get out soon as possible.He should go into drug rehab soon as possible.There also could be something under lying his reason for doing this.Try talking to him about it and finding that out.I recommend also explaining to him calmly how it makes you feel and your fears about his drug problems.This isn't the kind of relationship you wish to have I take it from your question so instead of just not doing anything about it get something done about it.And do it today do not put it off.If he really loves you he will consider your feelings and respect you for sharing yours with him and get himself some help.But if he has no job how he can even afford to buy the drugs remains to be said.You go with what your heart tells you that's all you can do.( also i strongly recommend him staying away from other people who do drugs for they will only tempt him even more and bring him down as well)

Answer 6

I know that's hard. And you probably don't want to hear the same speech. "Find somebody else. Leave him alone". But you love him and you don't bail on the people that you love. But ask yourself this question. If he really loved you, would he compromise w/you and not hang around the people that do that stuff? They are the negative influences in his life. You are the positive. I hope it works out for the both of you.
Be careful.

Answer 7

Hello Person. I have learned from experience it is best to help your boyfriend stop before he does some major damage. I mean I know you must really love your boyfriend and you don't want to lose him right? Well give him something else to focus on besides drugs. Show him that there are things better in this world then drugs. And help him focus on one of those things. I hope I helped. Bye

Answer 8

as long as drugs dont do him... it sounds like he's going through some ****.. try just spending a lot of time together.. keep him busy with other stuff.. like going out, watchin movies, playing sports.. whatever.. get him involve into activities.. i've been through the same **** and its better if its actually just you two.. u might smoke here and there but as long as you dont go overboard u know.. and plus just being you and him you have more of a watch over.. make sure he doesnt do anything stupid

Answer 9

sound to me that he has the same prob my best mate had before he cleaned up...he was doing really well clean from injecting heroin for two months then he went back into it and couldn't stop....he kept promising that this was his last time and so on but never did stop...Crystal meths is one of the hardiest drugs to kick its almost impossible but there are people that do manage it...sadly out of 100 people that take up the drug only around 5% every manage to kick it.....this is one of the drugs killing America today..and most other places it available...the only true solution is to either do one of two things or get yourself out and move on before he tries to get you hooked on it to...
1. get him to go cold turkey sell up shop and move away from his old friends and clean him up but this is very difficult and causes many problems..or
2. eventually tone it down over time so that he only uses a very small amount....
that is all i can suggest to you

Answer 10

So go with the flow,right out the door with everything else he's loss.