what do u do when u and ur guy and u have been in a fight in 3 days and havent talked since then and (we don't live togather and we are not high school students i am 19 and he is 30). i got mad for the stupidest reason and he kept on gonig on fightting.
we havent' talked since then and he hasn't been calling me at all what should we do to get back together.
i think we both know it was the dumest reason to fight 4.
so help how do we get back together.
2006-12-02 09:06:21 · 16 answers · asked by Hally berry 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wait, he'll call soon enough.
2006-12-02 09:33:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him another day and if you haven't gotten a call. Call him or e-mail him telling him exactly what you said in your question description. You sound sincerely sorry for whatever happened between you. Given your age, I don't know how much experience you have with relationships, especially with older men. But sometimes you have to be the mature one and apologize first. Especially if you wounded his ego in some way. Egos can be a tricky thing.
It also sounds like the age difference may be part of the argument. You at 19 are probably in a different place in your life on many levels than he is at 30. It could be maturity issues that are straining the relationship. Then again, I know some 19 year olds that act 30, and some 30 year olds that act like 19. It just depends on who you are. But it sounds like you really care about this guy. So your relationship could work out.
According to your question, you seem to feel like the argument was your fault over something stupid. Not knowing what the fight was over is difficult. Be sincere when you finally do talk to him and tell him how much you care. That you don't want to lose him. Just be honest and you should be fine.
2006-12-02 17:30:58 · answer #2 · answered by rheame 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute. When you said you watch sex videos and your parents don't know, you said you're 18. Now you're suddenly 19. Then you already asked a question about this guy (only you didn't mention that he's 30) and you said someone in his family recently died and that you had the fight.
If any of this is the truth, leave him alone. It would, however, be appropriate to mail him a card expressing your condolences (and that's all you should express). If and when he's ready he'll let you know. Although you sound extremely immature in all your questions and I can't imagine what a 30-yr-old man would want with you other than the obvious, he may have use for you yet. Or he may have woken up and realized he's not interested in kids.
2006-12-02 20:19:47 · answer #3 · answered by TweetyBird 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My gosh, so you are not perfect. Let him either get over it or forget HIM. Everyone makes mistakes, my gosh imagine being married to such an unforgiving person. He is punishing you for a normal thing people do. Do not marry such a judgmental person. He will always hold things over your head. This is dysfunction at its best. If he does not call consider it a good thing. He should call and offer an apology for overreacting and that is when you say you are sorry also. That is HEALTHY. OK? He has a lot more experience with relationships than you do. You deserve to learn just like the old guy did. BE STRONG.
2006-12-02 17:13:16 · answer #4 · answered by PZ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SO if you know where you can find him, go ask him to lunch or dinner and both of you'll sit down and talk about what happened. Maybe it was his fault, your fault who cares. Just sit down and talk about it and just maybe you will get back together. Most men just wait till the girl calls him when there's a fight . SO don't worry go see him nvite him and talk. Get all your business straighten out. Before it gets to be too late.
2006-12-02 17:17:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate arguing with my Guy... We do though...
For me... I can't stand for either one of us to be mad at each other. Men tend to have bigger egos and will be cold to protect themselves. Call him! Tell him how you feel, the worse that could happen is what is currently happening. So, either way, you don't have much of a loss.
I can't stay mad at my Man, sometimes I even want to... but then I look into his eyes, or feel my heart begin to chill, and no matter what we were arguing about, I have to tell him that I love him, and how sorry I am... and how much I need him in my life. If you feel the same - Just tell him, if he really loves you, you would have him at "Hello"
2006-12-02 17:14:07 · answer #6 · answered by Ellexiz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if you're 19 and he's 30, that's already a bit of a problem. I know you've probably been told something like this, but to date older men, way older men at that, tends to be a problem in itself. Guys that are older could expect more from women and could also expect the women to bow down to them and all that foolishness. If you're nineteen, you have your life ahead of you, so unless you're sure you want to spend it with him, move on.
2006-12-02 17:11:10 · answer #7 · answered by Coco 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, since you both agree that what you were fighting over was dumb, then you can step up and be the first to apologize. That's a start.
2006-12-02 17:10:52 · answer #8 · answered by TRULEY MADLY DEEPLEY 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say I think he moved on. if a man hasn't called you in 3 days or whatever over a stupid fight. expecially at his age. then i would guess its good bye. there are other guys closer to your age that would probably be better for you.
2006-12-02 17:12:11 · answer #9 · answered by misty blue 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Write him an email let him read it and digest and then he will come back to you he is probably just blowing off steam that's all
2006-12-02 17:09:12 · answer #10 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Eleven years difference? Why are you dating somebody so much older than you? See somebody closer to your own age.
2006-12-02 17:12:08 · answer #11 · answered by M.Kirk 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋