We had an arguement 3 weeks ago and he moved out,we were talking via txt messages and getting on most of the time,last night l sent a txt to see how he was and he never got back to me as quick as usual,l've been trying so hard to talk to him but he wouldnt come up to the house in the 3 weeks because l have children(who are not his)l can see that he didn't want them to hear anything nasty but he wouldn't even come up when they were sleeping.Well because he never answered my text l sent another asking if he was out drinking,l got a reply saying he was watching a film,l left it for a couple of hours then tried again and got no reply so my final text to him said l give up goodnight,1 hour later he was nasty, saying do l expect him to just drop everything he is doing just for me(was l expecting to much for him to talk to me instead of watching a film?)today he has decided we are all over and is comming to collect his belongings,l feel ripped appart and need cheered up for my kids sake!
2006-12-02 08:26:00 · 13 answers · asked by Jacqui 2 in Consumer Electronics ➔ Land Phones
We were together for 6 years!!!!!!!
2006-12-02 08:35:14 · update #1
Sweetheart, as a single mom, my best advice is to focus on your children and their happiness and stop worrying about men for awhile. Your children will benefit most from you being totally engaged in raising them. Sounds like this guy shouldn't have been around your children, anyway. It's so hard for kids to have a single mom (as I said, I know from personal experience). It's even more painful for them to get to know and love a man who is not going to be around in the long term. For theirs and your sake, take them out to do something fun (you don't even have to spend money...just take them to the park or to the indoor play place at McDonald's or the mall if it's cold). You and they will enjoy time spent together and your heart will be warmed and cheered.
2006-12-02 08:38:07 · answer #1 · answered by denim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey this guy is nothing to worry about.
At first when i read this i thought, oh he's just out for attention and wants you to chase him around,but when i re-read it, i thought that it sounds a bit weird, that he would get so nasty cause u text him during a movie.
i have twins and I separated from my ex not to long ago and I am now seeing a new guy and we fight like cats and dogs sometimes and he doesn't come up when the kids are around and can hear whats going on, but if there asleep that's a different story.
If he realy wanted to see you he would come then, i no it probably doesn't cheer you up that much but he obviously isn't that great.
I don't no you and i can see that whether Ur right or wrong (in the argument u had) this has hurt u, and i have tried to say something to bring a positive feel to the situation and he cant even do that, so it's best to let him pack his stuff and go it' will only hurt a little while.
In the mean time just remember that those kiddies love and care for you more than he or anyone else ever could so enjoy and play with ur kids watch them laugh and play and that will bring the smile back to ur face.
BEST OF LUCK THINGS WILL GET BETTER
2006-12-04 16:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by dinamic duo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, don't allow yourself to feel like you did something wrong. YOU DIDN'T! I also have 3 children and there are alot of men who think they can handle dating a women with children but they can't. Sounds to me that he did you a huge favor because if the relationship would have kept going it would only have gotten worse. Example from experience he would begin to make you feel guilty for the time you want to share with your children. Keep your head up darling. The right man that will be sent to walk into your destiny is still out there. Just be patient on the Lord. I went through the pain you are 2 years ago. The right one has been sent to me and I'm glad I waited. Something that simple would never have bothered a REAL man. He could have just said I'll get with you tomorrow. KEEP YOUR HEAD UP, and may God bless you in these upcoming days.
2006-12-02 08:55:50 · answer #3 · answered by Jewelettia M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex was similar with the ignorance and non-Acknowledgement of the relationship, However he was violent and we were married.
He wanted me to chase after him to make him feel better, but I got wise
Honey relax with him, if you love him let him chase you.Its a game to them, they just like the chase and a reward at the end,
I'm a single mum too.
Focus on you first, not the kids.
Get you happy.Buy some new clothes.Get your hair cut and don't talk to him.
Then think about the kids, start new adventures with them.
My ex had me dependant on him, I was so low I spent 3 months under a quilt.We lived in the middle of no-where and he left me 2 weeks after a C-Section with 3 kids.Even got the phone cut off so I couldn't do the food shopping.
I turned it around
And i'm now driving and the kids have started karate.
You deserve to have him declaring his undying love, to have him telling you that you are incredible.
If he can't respond to a txt it's his loss.
Don't give him any power.
good luck honey
2006-12-02 09:20:38 · answer #4 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just being a bit of a jerk, he had no right to say that to you and I think he just needs to cool down before you try speak to him again! You don't need him babes!!
Your kids sound like the most important thing to you, and if I were you, I'd just pamper myself, try and forget him and take the kids for a lovely day out and concentrate on them!
In time, you may find someone new that makes you happy.
Good luck to you!
2006-12-02 09:13:13 · answer #5 · answered by don't stop the music ♪ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that, but there's not much you can do. He made the decision to leave and it sounds like it has been on his and was just looking for an excuse, don't blame yourself. Keep on living, be happy, both for the kids and for YOURSELF. It will get better. Who knows you might even find someone else.
And if you need Q&A as much as I do, try the library computers, know you can get to Yahoo! and should be able to get here from there.
2006-12-02 09:25:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a results of fact he comes to a decision he does not choose to have intercourse does no longer make him bipolar. i'm sorry yet bipolar ailment is the place you have severe temper swings with highs and lows like smiling and then the subsequent minute(actually) crying hysterically. It does no longer make him make certain to no longer have intercourse. maybe he's uninterested in it or he basically desperate he's no longer fascinated anymore. Sorry to be the bearer of undesirable information or perhaps he's basically made a determination as a results of fact he desires to be abstinent or comes to a decision to make issues extra specific throughout the time of marriage.
2016-10-17 15:07:32 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you're sad.
But, being with the wrong person is worse than the temporary sadness of ending a relationship.
It's hard to hear that now.
2006-12-02 08:31:46 · answer #8 · answered by fuglefun 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, if he is out drinking maybe he isn't for you or the kids.
sounds like he saved you a headache don't see him anymore and find a better man.
2006-12-05 16:03:25 · answer #9 · answered by mia t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go and move on, there are more guys out there, sounds like he already has...sorry I know this didnt help a bit towards cheering you up.
-Doc-
2006-12-02 08:41:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋