I like this guy so much. Problem: he’s my ex boyfriend. He likes me too but right now all we are doing is just messing around….physically. and I want our relationship to not be all based completly on physical attraction. I don’t know how to word it to him. I have no idea how I could even start. Because we aren’t going out. There is no real relationship. But I just want to be more than that and I don’t know if its healthy for me to be waiting around for him to just ask me out. I’m just shy and I’m willing to wait and I know that’s not right….advice please
2006-12-02 08:16:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you're shy? You are boning him yet waiting for him to ask you out? Why would he do that? He's getting what he wants out of the deal.
2006-12-02 08:18:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you are all that shy if you are being physical with this guy. He is in a perfect position right now, so stop letting him have the upper hand and speak up. He gets to fool around with his ex-girlfriend and he doesn't even have to commit..evidently he's "been there, done that" with you already. So tell him how you feel now, you are only setting yourself up to be let down. If you can tell strangers the issue...surely you can find the courage to tell him. Don't let the fear of rejection stand in your way. If he decides to end any contact with you, then you are better off and it's time for you to move on. Good luck!
2006-12-02 16:26:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I see it, you are just a booty call, a cheap piece of *** as far as he is concerned. You must first of all realize that you, as a human being and creation of God, have intrinsic value. You are precious simply because you are human. I also see that your self-esteem is low. It is probably because your family life is not that good and that you have practically no friends.
I suggest that your first step should be raising you awareness of your worth as a person. You do this by taking care of #1 (you). Begin with a life plan such as an education, physical fitness, and, eventually, a profession. You should also befriend only successful people, specially women, who can serve as guides and role models for you. They will prove to be valuable assets in every facet of your life. Your role in society defines how you see yourself and how you value yourself. Hasn't anyone told you that your butty is a priviledged site? You are not to allow some two-bit looser in there just so that he may "feel good" for a moment while in his heart he doesn't really care for you.
You MUST LIVE LIFE INTENTIONALLY, making everyday count. Iddle time invites trouble. You only have so many years of youth to get it together. Old maids tend to be lonely and gray. CHOOSE to win. You can do it because you are worth it. Stand up and take a stand instead of laying down and giving it up to bozzo.
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2006-12-02 16:28:12 · answer #3 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't wait a second longer if I were you! Have you tried asking him out? How about mentioning there's a movie you really want to see--does he want to come?
I really think you need to address why you feel you can't talk to him. He's your EX, so obviously you've been in a kind of relationship where you must have communicated before. I don't understand what the hesitation to talk to him is about.
2006-12-02 16:21:36 · answer #4 · answered by Tracy S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bring up a topic or activity you used to like to do together. then you can at least talk. messing around with an ex boyfriend seems like you still have quite a relationship just not doing non-private things together.
2006-12-02 16:19:20 · answer #5 · answered by tiafromtijuana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to talk to him and ask him does he think it's possible there can be a relationship again between you, and tell him you want to try for a real relationship with him again and go from there, good luck
2006-12-02 16:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by Hollywood Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with him and ask him if this if want he really wants, too. He probaly seeks a real relationship, also. And if you want to go out with him again, why not? You can ask HIM out if you want to.
2006-12-02 16:21:15 · answer #7 · answered by inkyblack11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um yeah, he just wants to bone. He doesn't want a relationship, because if he did he would say so. He's using you, don't sleep with him anymore. I think you'd be lowering yourself if you did.
2006-12-02 16:18:54 · answer #8 · answered by Brandnewshoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you're "messing around", it probably wont go any further than that.
2006-12-02 16:19:28 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u've pretty much established urself as his friend w/benefits. i don't think he'll ever ask u out. cuz ur already givng him what he wants.
2006-12-02 16:24:17 · answer #10 · answered by 2dogs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋