If your child does come out of the closet after spending their lives listening to you preach intolerance and hatred against gays, that it's an abomination, born of satan, a mental illness, wrong--if they are truly 100% homosexual they can no more repent and change their ways any more than you can just give up being heterosexual for lent, so how can you say you wouldn't disown them? In your heart you already have and your child would already know this--you cannot reconcile your extreme love and extreme hatred, and your child would be better off without you
2006-12-02 08:01:45 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Rounds of therapy for everyone!
I would think the parent at least should spend some time in counseling to show his or her child that he or she is at least trying to come to terms with what is not welcome news.
The gay child should be supportive of the attempt and try to understand that a lifetime of being a bigot cannot be changed overnight, but the parent can be forgiven for their attitude if they are genuinely trying to become an accepting and loving parent.
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2006-12-02 08:06:11 · answer #1 · answered by Chickyn in a Handbasket 6 · 4⤊ 4⤋
I agree, the whole love the sinner hate the sin thing really doesn't work in practice, especially when it is your own child. How can someone disown their own child, I do not know, but if, as you point out, it is already, in a sense, done then I think the kid would be much better off.
I have known many people in that position. Hated and reviled by their parents and who have tried EVERYTHING to NOT be gay just to please them because of the hate that has been preached to them their whole lives. The kind of guilt and shame that comes from this can be difficult if not impossible to overcome and sometimes it is better to be totally out of that situation than to continually try to get the love and approval that can never come.
it is sad but true and one f the few cases in which i fell that a child is totally right to disown their parents and try, however difficult it may be, to move on.
2006-12-02 16:08:07 · answer #2 · answered by D B 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
It's hate and intolerance to believe something to be a sin?
I would love my child no matter what they did, even if I didn't agree with them. And yes, I am a Christian.
Wow, some people just don't like to hear that THE BIBLE SAYS HOMOSEXUALITY IS A SIN!!! I DID NOT make the rules, I'm not just saying this because I can!
I hate no one, and especially NOT homosexuals! Ask my FRIENDS and FAMILY MEMBERS who are homosexuals!
I think I'm more open-minded about something that I KNOW to be a sin, that many are about Christians.
So I guess I can't say anything is a sin. Okay, everyone, do whatever you want, NOTHING is a sin. You can lie, steal, commit adultery, and murder people all you want because it's judgemental and hateful for me to say something is a sin, or that it's wrong. While we're at it, I guess it's ALSO okay for people to molest children, because saying it's wrong and sinful would make me a bigot.
I'm SO sorry. I'll stop doing that. No such thing as sin, not even according to the Bible.
Excuse me for having my beliefs. I'll stop. Heaven FORBID I offend anyone thinking that some things are just wrong. Excuse me for thinking that the Bible tells me that I should avoid sin myself, and that no one is perfect, and that I should love everyone.
I guess I should just hate everybody instead, since it's not a sin to hate someone.
2006-12-02 16:05:20 · answer #3 · answered by The_Cricket: Thinking Pink! 7 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Then it would be time to sit down with you child and tell him that although you don't necessarily like the lifestyle, you love the child... same thing you would do about anything else the child did "wrong".
Your child isn't better off without you... no child ever is. It just sounds like there needs to be a lot of honest, open communication mixed with a healthy dose of understanding and acceptance on both sides.
2006-12-02 16:06:41 · answer #4 · answered by Brooke 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
OKAY! ONCE AND FOR ALL People are not born GAY, It is their own choice.
God condemns homosexuality and condemns even those who take pleasure in these and other sinful acts. Romans 1 :22-32
He gave us all free will to choose between sin and righteousness.
Please read Romans 1:22-32. Show it to your child that thinks they have no choice of being gay or not. Teach them the truth from the cradle, do not teach hate, God loves all but he demands obedience to him. We as parents cannot condone sin either but that does not mean we do not still love our children, we must be patient and hope they realize their sin and turn away from it before it is too late.
God will not allow sin in heaven, he cast out the angels that sinned into hell with Satan.
God will forgive any sin except blasphemy.
A gay person can seek forgiveness and obtain it from God when he turns from the error of his/her ways.
2006-12-02 16:22:42 · answer #5 · answered by Penny Mae 7 · 2⤊ 4⤋
do not assume you know my heart or my motives for love. Do not cripple any person by saying change is impossible. Your are assuming based on limited information and your self imposed view
2006-12-02 16:10:27 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can not say (and be right) that everyone one of us would hate our child and disown them because they are gay.
We are all different, and react to things different.
2006-12-02 16:04:32 · answer #7 · answered by SunShineShoes 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Why do people us "WHAT IF" questions to 'mudy the water?' WE, and yes myself included are Sinners!
Those such as myself, are Born Again, know what Real Forgivness IS! They understand the Grace of God. Ephesians 2:8-9-10.
TO Answer your question, YOU need to know what GOD says in His Word.
(1Corinthians 6:9-10-11) Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,
(1Co 6:10) Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.
(1Co 6:11) And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God.
Thanks, RR, http://home.att.net/~roger459
2006-12-02 16:07:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 3⤋
It's never to late for an apology.
2006-12-02 16:10:53 · answer #9 · answered by mznylove 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
parents are supposed to love their children no matter what if u can't love ur child no matter what then i think u should let them go. they r better off with out ur negative influence in their lives.
2006-12-02 16:06:40 · answer #10 · answered by ~*These Blue Eyes Tell No Lies*~ 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋