I met a girl online, actually, right here, on yahoo answers. We bonded instantly. Admittedly, she told me she was staying with a boyfriend in the begining. As we found out how well we "clicked" together she back-tracked and made her present engagement seem trivial, like she was only with this other guy for her independence from her parents. She gave me all the signs that she would leave this other guy for me. As the relationship extended to months, in length, we became very close and shared intimate things with one another over the phone. On one of these conversations, I decided to do a "reality check". I asked her, did she see us working out. Then, she dropped a bombshell, " I don't know, its complicated". So, I asked," Am I suppose to wait for you to make up your mind and how am I suppose to feel about you now?" And guess what her response was, " I don't know its complicated". She still calls me everyday and expects me to be there for her, like a boyfriend,yet she "doesnt know"
2006-12-02 08:01:23 · 22 answers · asked by icyhott4urmind 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell her to get lost, she is using you when shes bored of her boyfriend!! you deserve better than that, she has to go!!
2006-12-02 08:05:25 · answer #1 · answered by sabina 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Or she might be 300lbs and have a wart the size of a pickle on the end of her nose and she might just think that you won't find her attractive. Relationships over the phone or over the Internet are very risky. I assume you have never met her in person from the way you worded your question. If that is the case then this relationship is nothing but a fantasy. Forget her and find a girl that you can have a real relationship with. You know, one you can share intimate things with in person instead of over the phone.
2006-12-02 16:19:03 · answer #2 · answered by godeep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't answer her calls, emails, NOTHING, just completely ignore her for a while (anywhere from 2 weeks to a month). If she stops calling you by then, she was just using you whenever her boyfriend didn't satisfy her. If she keeps calling you, answer her and tell her exactly why you've been ignoring her. If she says she still "doesn't know", be like, well guess what then, I made the decision for you.
Don't get played like that. Have more respect for yourself.
2006-12-02 16:09:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can either give her an ultimatum or just walk away. She dosen't know what she wants right now and this is just messing with your head. If you met one girl here then you will meet another. You sound lovely, most men would have told her to get lost if they knew she was living with another guy even if it was just for independence. Good luck!
2006-12-02 16:08:26 · answer #4 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is using you are a back up at the very least. she is also using you to fill in the gaps where her fiance is falling down. she doesn't get along with her parents and wants to leave asap. she is probably not a stable person. if you wish to help her through her problems, then by all means talk with her. she appreciates your attention. if you want a commitment from you, don't wait. its complicated is a non-answer. she doesn't know or won't say. my test is to say, "tell me in two sentences." they will usually answer this way. good luck.
2006-12-02 16:07:00 · answer #5 · answered by tiafromtijuana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, honey, and I'm sorry. Cyberspace is a good place to make up a reality and it sounds like that is exactly what she did to escape hers. Click delete and stop taking her calls. Find a woman in real time - she's waiting for a great guy.
2006-12-02 16:07:10 · answer #6 · answered by swarr2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess that "reality check" didn't work. You have an ONLINE relationship, never met in person have fallen for someone and you really expect her to feel the same for you? Obviously she DOES know that she's not as gullible as YOU are.
2006-12-02 16:25:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you're ready, but shes not sure, all you can do is either wait, or tell her to leave you alone. the female mind is wired differently than mens' minds. we say we are ready, but by the sounds of her it sounds like shes not sure who she wants to be with. just make yourself available to her if you want to keep going. if not, tell her to not call and all.
simply put, sit tight, wait for what happens. if you two were meant to be together, then so be it. if not, you can still be friends. you'll just be suffering for a year or two, depending on who you are and how serious you are on relationships.
2006-12-02 16:08:27 · answer #8 · answered by acampion2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is completcaited for gurls espically online.do u knoe how many sickos r out there not saying ur one but maybe u remind her of someone or how would u guys see eachother and to tell u the truth online realtionships dont last long srry
2006-12-02 16:20:24 · answer #9 · answered by vgurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would forget her and find someone else. there are others and maybe the next one would be the right one for you. if she can't tell you the reason. with out saying its complicated. well she prolonging you. so if i were you i say good-bye and good luck and whens she ready then contact me if im available.
2006-12-02 16:08:33 · answer #10 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she doesn't want to leave her boyfriend because then she would have to go back home or she still wants to be with him or there is something holding her back. If I was you I would break it off and try to move on.
2006-12-02 16:06:12 · answer #11 · answered by Just Some Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋