I've never been loved from some one else, i mean i used to love some gys but they never shared thier love with me, now i'm completly in love with some special guy, realy he is a perfect and wonderful person, i tried to tell him but i couldn't maybe because i'm afraid of his reaction about that , i always send him messages and e-mails , he answers me but he never send an e-mail befor i do, i bought him a perfume and cravat last summer he was so happy and surprised at the same time.....i don't know i always care about him and showing him that i realy care but he acts normal with me,but once he invited me to have an ice-cream together we spent a good time together ,does that mean somthing?please i need your help and your opinion about that...should i tell him or just let him alone and try to forget him or.....realy i feel so bad about my self , i wish that i can be loved from some one i realy love and admire.
2006-12-02 07:51:16 · 13 answers · asked by Stella 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let the guy be, if he cares he'll let you know. Love is like a bus, on the hour and the 1/2. When you find true love you both will know it then. Until then just have fun an d don't worry about it. It will happen for you when it's time.
2006-12-02 08:00:32 · answer #1 · answered by Les Gramps 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not feel bad about yourself. Don't you know that what you are going through is unreciprocated love? Sometimes young people are just not ready for a heavy relationship. He probably is enjoying his friendship with you and could be alarmed by your feelings. You need to realize that you cannot control his feelings by being so giving and nice. Pleasing people is the sunny side of control. Just sit back and let him come to you. You will be most attractive if you seem to have a vibrant and busy schedule of your own. I would reserve my self respect and take a wait and see approach instead of unloading your heavy feelings. You think you feel bad now, think how you will feel by showing how needy you are. Your time will come, believe it. Just never push your expectations on a guy and expect anything positive in return. I have experienced where you are and so have all my friends. But strangely enough, in the flash of one day, we all met "the one" and our lives were changed forever. This will happen to you. Just make your life exciting in other ways. Be a friend to many people just like he does. You WILL BE FINE. Now, quit beating yourself up for nothing! Go live the life you deserve! Stop the the e-mails to see if you peak his curiosity. You will notice that you will immediately feel better, because you retained the right to make a choice were HE is concerned. Trust me on this! Preserve your power for yourself. OK?
2006-12-02 16:14:01 · answer #2 · answered by PZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stella - gosh - your question could make me cry. You are so sweet. You have nothing to feel bad about as by your writing we can all see you are good, honest, cute, and so nice to everyone.
Ask this guy if he wants to go for an ice cream again and he will know that you liked going with him the last time. Then while eating ice cream suggest that you should also do something else together sometime like a movie or out to eat or to a school or club dance. Give him suggestions so he knows you are willing to go out with him and will do things with him. Maybe he is as shy as you. Good luck as we are all here and wanting you to have fun.
2006-12-02 15:57:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have to kiss a few frogs to be able to spot a prince.
Why feel bad about yourself if someone doesn't share your feelings?
Go to Christian Carter's www.catchhimandkeephim.com and read about the most common mistakes women make with men, love, and dating. Women actually sabatoge their chances of findind a meaningful relationship by not understanding the way men think.
2006-12-02 15:57:50 · answer #4 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first BIG Problem here I see,,, Your Always looking for that special love,, You will Never find it until you stop looking so hard, If you want something So bad you can taste it,, usually for me anyway, it goes to the crapper before it goes good, just relax dont be in such a hurry to be in "love", be yourself, you have the rest of your life ahead of you to find him or her,,
2006-12-02 16:34:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stella , u need to let him know how you feel so either way you can get closure from this. Feeling love for someone is an awesome feeling but true love can only be achieved when the person you love treats you the same way you are treating him. He must feel that u are as special to him as he is to you.
2006-12-02 15:56:10 · answer #6 · answered by virgin 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well if you scared you he might say something you don't want to here. Just enjoy the days as they go with him. Not unless you want to talk to him and tell him how you feel about him. HE might just tell you teh same thing. But just go slow at first then when you get him alone tell him and see what happens.
2006-12-02 16:16:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi...I completely understand how you are feeling because something like that is happening to me right now. However, I even know who the guy likes, and she likes him back! But, I also know that one day I'll get over him... Anyway, I think that you should folllow your heart, but don't feel bad about yourself. If he doesn't like you, HE is the one missing it, not you. Personally, I think you should tell him, but tell him like if he was your friend, and just tell him you just wanna get to know him. If he is the nice guy you think he is, he will accept you and, who knows, once you get to know each other, you might start dating! I hope my advice helped....God bless you!
2006-12-02 15:59:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeh Like DA-LL/Male/ said "if your afraid to you'll never get anywhere." well thats what life is about taking chances and making actions gotta live with or or without it..so choose find out that he actually did like you and move on, or know that he shares feels for you.
2006-12-02 15:56:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think u should tell him. If he doesnt love you then that is that. And if he does then it was all for the better. Ask before you drive yourself crazy.
2006-12-02 15:57:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋