saying that he didn't know if it would lead to "rings" and he loved me but he wasn't sure. Heartbreaking, yes. But, after a month of not speaking, we began hanging out again as friends. We were very flirtatious this whole tme, but I thought he was just being nice. Last weekend, we ended up going out and spending basically the whole weekend together- he picked me up, opened doors, took me home to the family- like we were dating again. Then, Wednesday of this week comes and he says "He still isn't sure, ad he doesn't want to put us both through anything until he is".
Question: I love this man more than anything in the world. We are conituning our friendship, but how can I make him see that he's just psyching himself out and that we could be happy together?
2006-12-02 07:48:57 · 11 answers · asked by Noob 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just look at what he is interested in and do it
for example u must know the main reasons that made him break his relation with u
then try to solve it and try to be the best
tell him that u want him again
2006-12-02 07:58:35 · answer #1 · answered by micho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not an easy answer when you don't know important things like age. If you're both 13 the answer is that people shouldn't even be thinking about marriage until they are at least 20.
If you are at least 20, then here's my serious answer. I'm an old fart in my 50's, but being an old fart I've seen how many of my friends and relatives have grown together and gotten married.
By far and away the people who end up happily married just start hanging out. Everyone knows they are together, but he's not laying out $100 each time you see each other. There is no huge intention of getting married in 6 months, but 3-5 years later they are married.
I even had one cousin who told me on the side "why buy the cow if the milk's free?" 3 or 4 years later he's married, and he's been been married to that girl for over 30 years, they are obviously in love with each other 30 years later, and he probably isn't real proud he ever made that statement.
My advice, try to enjoy the relationship and by all means, be a cheap date. If dating puts the guy into the poor house he's going to have to break up because he can't afford it. If you love him, suggest that you just hang out and be cool. Invite him over for a nite of television or something, and remove the word marriage from your vocabulary for the time being.
2006-12-02 08:25:58 · answer #2 · answered by Coach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be a little skeptical. It sounds like at best he has a commitment problem--at worst he may be seeing someone else and can't decide what to do. What in the world is breaking up with someone, telling you that he loves you but isn't sure? Sure of what? His love? The relationship?
Staying friends after a relationship can be very tricky. There's always the memory of the relationship there. Where do you draw the line between being friends or beign lovers?
I've seen too many people try to do the "let's be friends" bit. It doesn't seem to work.
2006-12-02 07:54:34 · answer #3 · answered by Bookworm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to relationships like this breaking up and than getting back together. You have to ask yourself what you want. If your answer is no I just like him as a friend than you can keep being friends with him. If you like him than you have to tell him and ask him. Things won't go anywhere if you are keeping secrets and not telling him what you want. Secrets will bother you, thats why you let it out and get it over with!
2006-12-02 07:52:24 · answer #4 · answered by sherry_pucca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 10 months then breaking up , a month later you date and he still isn't sure.
He is not into you that much .
He has had plenty of time to know yes or no..
Next time you have the chance, be honest and open. tell
him you need to know his exact feelings for you.
Tell him you are tired of his I Don't Know games..
2006-12-02 07:55:28 · answer #5 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well speak your mind to him. don't let the days go by and let him dwell with that sense of insecurity of whether it will work out or if he wants to already get married. be truthful and tell him that you both will be in this together and both of you will take care of you Al's' relationship and will make it better each day, week, month, and even for the years to come.
2006-12-02 07:54:42 · answer #6 · answered by TiGgEr_LoVeR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not "being sure" IS still making a decision.
Take this opportunity to make new friends and cultivate other activities. He is NOT going to marry you, and no
amount of time will change that fact.
When it's time to marry, BOTH people know it automatically.
2006-12-02 07:54:33 · answer #7 · answered by domesticgoddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. this is very interetsing. i think maybe he's scared of commitment but really loves u. try not to push him and if its meant to be it will happen. if u 2 really love each other i'm sure in the end you'll be together. good luck
2006-12-02 07:52:47 · answer #8 · answered by DA-LL /Male/ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel cuz Ive been in love 5 freakin times and its rough..but you waited too long when he isnt taking it any further...when they cant say they love you then they dont...so move on to a new person...IM SO SORRY.cHECK horoscope sect for compatability stuff
2006-12-02 07:54:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this guy wants to be with you and everything. But wants to take slow with you.
2006-12-02 07:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋