I am really depressed and have been thinking of committing suicude...??

Question

Hi, iam 18 and a college freshman and ive been thinking of commiting suicide. I dont think ill do it love my friends and family too much. I finally told my mom how ive been feeling minus the suicide part and she was saying if you tell a pyshcologist you want to commit suicide they can hold you in a hospital against your will? Is that true? because then i wont tell my psychologist how i feel

Thanks for all the good advice and support guys, you seriously have no idea how much i appreciate it. I am crying as i read many of your suggestions.

Answer 1

Hi sweety - I know how you feel I have been there before. You really need to talk to a professional, thats the only way your gonna be able to get better. The first step is always the hardest, but once you take it, doors will open up and lights will turn on inside you. You can tell a shrink that you have been feeling like that, but make sure you tell her that you don't think you will. They won't hold you unless you have actually tried the act itself (at least from my experience). Just hang in there, sweety. Once you take that first move to talk to someone, you will be surprised at how much better you feel getting all this off your chest...Good luck!

Answer 2

Of course it's not true. If you have been feeling suicidal, the best thing you can do is tell people and get the help. Don't think for a minute that the men in white coats will immediately come and take you away!

Whatever your reasons for feeling this way, you are clearly strong enough to fight it, and to recognize that you love other people and that you in turn are loved back. This is a vital thing which tells me you wont actually do it, so I'm not going to go down the road that countless others will probably do here ("don't do it" etc). I don't think you really want to deep down. You are just in a place where you feel there is no escape. You feel trapped and alone and helpless. Am I right?

You aren't alone in feeling like that. I have been there before, many times. I have had bouts of depression which have led to me being on antidepressants for over a year, which really helped me (they may not be right for you). Counselling may also be helpful to you. You must tell someone, even if it isn't your mother. There are plenty of helplines (I only know UK ones) which are there when you feel at your worst. I know how you feel, and you are not crazy, and you are not alone.

Call someone now.

Answer 3

If you are thinking of committing suicide it is best to tell your doctor how you are feeling. If then he feels you are a threat to yourself it may be possible he can have you committed against your will but it is for the best in order to get proper treatment. They will only hold you for a few days and they will help you with your problems. If you are on medication it may need adjustments and they will do that for you while you are there. If you're not on medication then they may put you on some to help with your anxiety. The best thing for you, though, is family and friend support. Hopefully you have that from your family and friends. If not there's group therapy out there where you can go and talk freely about how you feel with others just like you that are feeling the same things. You won't feel like an outsider.

Answer 4

Thoughts of suicide are common. I'd want to know where you are in your thinking... for instance, have you determined how you'd do it, where, etc etc? The deeper you are into that thought process, the higher the red flags go up.

The real issue here is your depression. Depression can happen for one or both of two reasons:

1. You life sucks. I was very depressed when my wife and mother in law found out they had cancer IN THE SAME WEEK. Such depression is painful, but when those issues are resolved then it goes away.

2. Your brain's chemicals are outta whack. This depression is a lot like having a gall bladder that gives you attacks -- you can kinda control it, but ultimately it's a physical problem.

Sadly, reason #1 can lead to #2 if it lasts long enough.

Here is what I'd tell you if you were my friend:

1. Go to the doctor. Get a physical, and a recommendation for further treatment. I'm betting that they put you on antidepressants.

2. Go to the gym. Get in touch with your anger (really, honest, your anger is there!) and use that while exercising. Get angry and pump some iron, etc. You'll be sore, but you'll be able to sleep at nite. The brain makes powerful anti-depressant chemicals called "endorphines" when you exercise.

Finally... feel free to email or IM me.

Answer 5

Hey Sweetie, I know that things may seem bad but if you have friends and family to love it could be a whole lot worse. Friends and family are put here to listen. I am sure there are other ways to express your feeling outside of suicide. That is not the solution. It is true if you say you want to commit suicide that a psychologist has an obligation to protect you and alert help. Why are you so depressed? Do you take any vitamins? try a multi-vitamin and B12 pills. you can go into any vitamin shoppe and ask they will be able to help you. Sometimes depression is a chemical imbalance, you may just need to exercise. before you reach the end of your rope try to tie some knots to make things easier. Don't think that you are all alone alot of people feel the same way. It takes alot to admit that out loud. You are very Brave. Stick around we need more people like you around !!

Answer 6

Yes, it is true. A person can be committed at the whim of a pyschiatrist or psychologist if they decide you are a danger to yourself. And believe me, you don't want to go there! What you should do is read a book called 'A New Slant on Life' by L. Ron Hubbard. I gave that to someone who had actually attempted suicide once and it turned things around for her. The first line in the book is "Is it possible to be happy?" Can't hurt to read a book!
I haven't seen any other answers you received yet, and I hope no one tells you to go to a pyschiatrist or such, because it's only you who are your own good council. And I'm sure others will give you much encouragement about how life may seem depressing now, but you as you say, you have loved ones and I'm sure other great things in your life that you have to live for. Read that book, and you will do just fine!!
Also a free ebook at the below site which is just a nice moral code to live by.
Good luck to you.

Answer 7

Thinking about suicide is called suicidal ideation, and is really common among people suffering from depression. It's not enough to have someone committed to a hospital against their will. If you told your psychologist that you were planning to commit suicide on a particular day and time, in a particular way, then she MIGHT recommend you be hospitalized. But just telling her that you've been thinking about suicide, or even that you want to commit suicide isn't reason to be hospitalized.

If you tell your therapist you're thinking of suicide, she'll probably ask you questions about it and try to get you to talk more about it. She might ask you to do something like sign a contract that you won't hurt yourself (I've personally never understood this one, but therapists seem to like it), call her before you do it, or that kind of thing. But she won't have you hospitalized against your will. Even if she wanted to, she can't just lock you up at her disgression without the hospital also agreeing to it, and they certainly aren't prepared to lock up everyone with any suicidal ideation. Even if they thought it was a good idea (which it's not), they simply wouldn't have the resources.

The main reasons people are hospitalized involuntarily for depression-related issues are either that they are a minor and their parents have them committed, or they attempt suicide and are put on a 24, 48, or 72 hour psych hold (depending on the laws in their state) after being brought to the hospital for treatment for the physical effects of the suicide attempt.

My mom has patients threaten suicide all the time (including once that invovled her patient with a history of attempting suicide screaming from a broken elevator at the police that she was going to kill herself...), and she doesn't EVER have them locked up.

Answer 8

Hi you,
I don't know where you're living but i can tell that here in France it's true : if you tell your psychiatrist that you feel like commiting suicide,
you can be hold in hospital, somewhat against your will. I know it by experience. Is that a reason not to tell your psychologist ? maybe..
and maybe not , one solution is to go and tell a psycho about your history, a psycho you've never been too. He'll have no right to force you to go to hospital. Now speaking about my personal experience with depression and suicide ; your best psychiatrist is time according to me , time allow you to have some retreat for what's happening to you , to understand better how all happens, all that **** coming on you, mind is cloudly , no escape seem possible, no light can enter ... It's temporary believe me even if it's always too long. You can trust people who wants to help you, but if you want an advise, it's to go for a psychologist; for the simple reason that it's some people who learned how to be neutral , telling him or her your history will be like putting it in front of you, seeing it outside your cloudly mind. Going to a psychiatrist is like going in a place where you'll be able to see without any excessive feelings what you live, you have to understand where it come from , what's from you and what's from the outside, to better yourself. From personal experience i won't recommend you hospital, but who knows ..? there's no shame to go there. Personnaly i've already gone to psychiatrict hospital for 2 months , i just couldn't bear being outside.. Why not , it's a matter of time and introspecting. But one important part is that you shouldn't feel emprisoned despite your will and feel like a victim.. I insist on the fact that you have to speak about your history, not to the first person who come but to someone who'll be neutral and who have a sharp point of view.
At least , if you too afraid to speak to someone WRITE , write a lot , write as much as you can without thinking that you write ****, whatever you'll write it'll be important. I used to write a lot before and while being in hospital, first effect is to empty a bit your mind and feel you lighter, second effect is when you'll read yourself again later, you'll have a point , the photography of your state of mind at a "t" point to understand yourself.

Silence should always be a will and not be beared.

[e-mail], maybe we can talk, your choice.

Answer 9

in the most extreme case they can ........... but most of the time they will give you meds that will help you cope with your feeling and your every day to day life .......the sad truth is committing suicide wont hurt you as much as it will your family and friends ,,, they love you ,,,,,you might think your at your lowest right now but you have to remember there is people that has it worst then you ,,, and you have so much to lIve for ,,,,,, I hope this helps because ive been there and now i have a great life and a wonderful family that I'm glad i stuck it out for ,,,,,,,,,, good luck

Answer 10

Ive thought about suicide a lot but have never attempted it as I know that however awful i feel right now, my friends and family will feel worse if I ever would go through with it.

I told my therapist and they havent piut me in hospital. so i would say that you should talk to yours. also maybe its an idea if your mum goes to speak to this person also so shell know how to react when youre feeling down.

Good Luck i hope you pull thorugh