would you be mad?

Question

TODAY MY B/F IS SUPPOST TO WORK 10HOURS JUST AS HE ALWAYS DOES EVERY SATURDAY, WELL TODAY I FOUND HIS CHECK STUBS AND HE HASNT WORKED 10 IN MONTHS! AND I SAW HE GOT A X-MAS BONUS AND DIDNT SAY A WORD! WEVE BEEN LIVING TOGETHER THIS TIME OVER A YEAR. HES SO INTO MONEY AND IS ALWAYS RIDING ME ABOUT HELPING HIM PAY THE BILLS..I JUST LOST MY JOB AND IVE BEEN DOING WHATEVER I CAN TO PAY FOR EVERYTHING EXCEPT BIG BILLS. (KEEP IN MIND HE MAKES 3X$ I MADE!) AND AFTER EACH SHIFT HE SAYS HE HAS TO GO FOR A RIDE TO TAKE THE EDGE OFF BEFORE HE COMES HOME.........I DONT HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THAT AT ALL, ID RATHER HIM BE AT WORK THAN HOME ANYWAY . BUT TO STRAIGHT UP LIE ABOUT WORK AND BEING GONE ALL THAT TIME, AND NOT TAKE ANY PHONE CALLS WHILE HE IS SUPPOST TO BE THERE, AND GET PISSIE WHEN HE DOES CALL BE BACK TENDS TO MAKE ME THINK THAT HE DOESNT LIKE ME AS MUCH AS I DONT LIKE HIM!
so would u b mad he lied? and would you stay in and paint his bathroom? HELP PMS!!!!!!!?

I WANT EVERY ONE TO NO IM NOT PAINTING ILL JUST PRETEND I DONT KNOW AND OPEN UP THE BOMB ALL AT ONCE...

Answer 1

I want to give you a big hug...then a big slap. Girl listen closely. Let's talk about the obvious, he has to have a chick on the side he is using you to take care of the financial problems. He probably does love you but your giving him the okay to use you. You need to break yourself from this position. Go out on your seperate way, do some good for yourself. Treat yourself like the queen you are, exclude yourself from him long enough for when your ready to go back to him and tell him want needs to go down. Let him know about the problem and if you really love him your both going to have to fix the situation. If he doesn't want that then just leave him. Your worth more than that. Take Care!

Answer 2

I would be quite ticked off...In a relationship it is usually 50/50 and the fact that he says he has been going to work and he hasnt been to work in 10 months where's he going? That might mean he is cheating if he has been doing this for 10 months and where is he getting the money to pay the bill?!? Things just don't add up. I would speak up and say something if you two live together than it would obviously come across you one day that he hasnt been working and for the fact that he lied to you to your face would tick me off. I can not stand a lier a cheater or a theft. So, the decision is always up to you. Your the one that has to make it. Make the right one.

Answer 3

THERE IS NO RELATIONSHIP IF THERE ARE LIES INVOLVED! Get out of it! Find someone who will be honest to you. A relationship is a fifty/fifty thing, but also a compromise... It is clearly understandable that if both parties work to "split" things accordingly.. If he makes more money than you, than he should make a compromise to where neither one of you is being pressured or feeling inadequate in a relationship! If he's lying and not telling you the truth about his finances, WHAT ELSE DOE HE LIE ABOUT? Confrontation, and arguments are just merely a BAND AID... He will be honest for a little bit, and then go back to his old ways the minute he has the chance to. Not to mention, there will be always that nagging feeling in the back of your mind, and in your gut to if ''HE'S TELLING YOU THE TRUTH THIS TIME"... Why makr yourself miserable? Why drag your relationship any further? Get out!

Answer 4

He's totally a ****head and as far as it is to my concern you should check out what he was doing not at work. It's not your fault that you can't pay your biills at the moment. I think that he is also trying to rub it in your face that he has enough money to pay bills at the moment and you don't. That's completely immature behavior. If he really did care he would tell you not to worry about it and help you look for a job. As to my conclusion I think that he also is a material guy.

Answer 5

You should really get rid of him. Your boyfriend doesn't really love you he is just using you for money. If he is doing this to you I'm pretty sure you have to get rid of him. It's not fair to you, but he is making profit. Another thing, maybe he is cheating on you and is spending some of the money on another girl. This is not fair, yo have to sit down and have a little chat with him, or things will never get out of hand. And yes I would be mad, so bad I'd dump him.

Answer 6

Not to be mean but it sounds to me like he is hiding something from you.And when he comes home today you should confront him and ask why he has been keeping things from you.When you are in a relationship with someone and you live together there is no reason to keep things from each other.And if you don't like him maybe its best if you find somewhere else to live maybe with a friend or something they can be the best thing for us girls sometimes.

Answer 7

I'd be really mad if I found out my b/f wasn't working those hours and he held back money from me I'd think he's cheating if he lied about being at work and the money he is making he is spending time and money on someone else or is on drugs.

Answer 8

I wouldn't waste my time being mad. Anger is a secondary emotion that comes either from pain or fear. I think your anger is coming from both. You are hurt he is lying and afraid of what it might mean. ...So, don't be angry....pack!! Make him history. He's not a b/f he's a liar and a control freak. Run...You won't be running away. You'll be running toward a new life. It will be better for you.

Answer 9

Hon it sounds like he has a little somethin else on the side. If it were me i would be both mad and suspicious.I wouildn't stay home and paint the bathroom that's for sure.

Answer 10

First of all I wouldn't be living with the guy to begin with. Secondly I wouldn't be snooping which is what you probably were doing when you found his check stubs. As for his "lieing", you're the one who is living there so obviously you are gullible enough to believe what he says...who would you be mad at himself or yourself?