i have been with my boyfriend for 5 years we have leaved together for 4 years and we are expecting out first child soon. When i first moved in, he introduced me to a girl friend (bestfriend), i later suspected this girl was interested in him... we had dinner together. i even went shoppin with her..geez i did alot with her....but anytime i bring her up, we end up in this big argument leading to almost to breakup.
After we moved to a different state early last year...i found a way of logging into his chat messenger and almost everyday i chat with this girl(she thinking its him)...a few minutes ago she just talked about how much she missed love making with him and if he ever felt bad he cheated on me.....???
Guys what do i do? do i tell her she is talking to me but not him or deal straight with my boyfriend...i even feel like gettin rid of the baby.......and move on.
2006-12-02 07:32:00 · 14 answers · asked by tearyeyezz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow hold on there teary eyes, First of all you get rid of the moron never ever give somebody a second chance to hurt you, if you stay that's what you will be doing he did these things right in front of you with nooooo respect to your feelings what in gods name do you think he'll do when you have the baby, you'll be home while he is shacking up, he is no good, and by holding on to him you will end up losing yourself respect, if you have somewhere to go go there now it will be painful but you will get over it four years he has takin you for a fool, look how stupid you look now, I'm not insulting you but you have to rise above this you and your child is whats important, your well being and your child's health,don't waste any more breath on anyone of them tell the ***** that he is all hers when you get on line with her again, as far as not having the baby that is a tough decision that you will have to think long and hard over an only you can make that decision, would you like to have the baby, do not, not have because the moron did you wrong, if you decide to have, he will have the right to see it, but you can make it hard for him, make sure he pays his support money, and you know what, you will really piss of that other girl when he want to come see the child, she'll be worried that he's taking up with you could be your best revenge. But i know you hurt teary eye but the pain will go away you gave all of you to him and loved him for four plus years he is the moron not you remember you are special and should expect to be treated as such, the greatest gift a women can give a man is herself and a child and you have given that and he has spit on you it's time to leave, I wish you the best teary eyes but it will all work out in the end.
2006-12-02 08:19:06 · answer #1 · answered by happyeverafter48 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DROP him so fast he wont even know what hit him!!! Actually, I would confront him about it. The best way to go about this is first, re-iterate that your having his baby for god sakes! That you love him and would be heart broken if anything should happen to the both of you. The best way to catch him in a lie is by asking him if he has anything he should tell you;anything at all. If he says "NO" then...you know what to do. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Good luck honey. Remember you have the power here, use it wisely and be brave. You can survive on your own, you don't need him. Hope this will help a bit.
2006-12-02 15:42:39 · answer #2 · answered by ziomy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to go. Whether or not you decide to keep the baby. I think you need to go straight to him and let him know what you did. Tell him you did it because you were suspicious of him and his so called "friend". Either way, he'll get mad and upset that you did it, but let him know you had good reason. Next, get that home wreckin w*ore on the phone and let her know shes been talkin to you the entire time. Tell you boyfriend if he wants to stay with you, that he needs to end his relationship with this home wrecker and to tell her immediately. If he wants to be with her, then kick him out now. Dont wait for the holidays to go by. Do it now. Hopefully you have some way fiancially to take care of yourself, or call family. Especially if you choose to keep the baby. Then get child support from him. Whatever you choose, do it now!
2006-12-02 15:46:24 · answer #3 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this but the baby does have nothing to do with what you'll do. SO forget that have the baby if you don't want it put him or her for adoption. And to say anything to him is like telling him you have violated his privacy. But tell that woman if you ever see her again you will ripe her terry curls out of her nappy head and feed them to her. and Get rid of him because if he has cheated beofre and is getting away with it he will keep doing it.
2006-12-02 15:46:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow girl..I'm sorry trust me I know how much it hurts I've been through it all. Ask him about it, if he's any type of a man he'll tell you the truth. But maybe it happened b4 u guys were together?
2006-12-02 15:39:32 · answer #5 · answered by Taz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"kick him on his A S S H O L E" what the hell are you 5??
listen you found out he cheated on you so you dump him and move on as for the baby i really wouldnt know what to say about that. sorry
2006-12-02 15:37:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU snooped where you didn't belong. As the old saying goes..."Be careful what you look for, you will find it". YOU decided to catch him in a bit of deception by being deceitful yourself. That poor baby is the product of two dishonest people.
2006-12-02 15:57:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont abort the child....it isnt his fault. AFTER FOUR FREAKIN years you should have been married but he isnt respecting you!! Girls after 3 months if he hasnt said he loves you dont waste anymore time on him and Im not kidding...Can you afford a place to go or go back with your parents. ....im sorry He is raking you over the coals...you are better off without him...dont bother pretending with this girl...just tell him youre through...
2006-12-02 15:39:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tearyeyez
WOW!!!
I lknow im just in my (early)teens but i think u should do both, tel the ex and then tel the bf!!! i dont know about the baby though just save that for later!!!!!!
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2006-12-02 15:42:43 · answer #9 · answered by Princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
deal straight with your cheating boyfriend!!! you need to lay things out between the two of you and tell him you know about his infidelity!!!
your pregnant!! its emotional.. you dont need to be around this!!
go pack your bags and go home to your family!! talk to them..afterall you can trust them to help you out!!! you shouldnt deal with this alone!! xxxxx
2006-12-02 15:38:58 · answer #10 · answered by cinderella 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋