in my state, we just has a big snow and ice storm, i drove almost an hour on horrible roads to check on my friend who lives in the country because they wouldnt answer the phone and i was worried. they didnt even seem grateful for it, is it bad to just not want to help them again if they are just using my family?
2006-12-02 07:17:04 · 4 answers · asked by sr.07_who_loves_her_4x4 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
they have been through some things so we did some help for free and then they just told us not to come back one day, didnt say why or anything. and we were making a draining ditch so their house wouldnt get flooded, thats alot of work for three people, and they just expect everything they ask for.
2006-12-02 07:24:36 · update #1
I am sorry. That was a very nice thing you did, to go out of your way under those conditions to check on the safety of your friends. You obviously did that out of the goodness of your heart. I am sorry that they did not seem to appreciate your concern. Sometimes people just don't. As far as it being a sin not to help them again, or anyone who uses you...I think it is more a question of conscience. If it bothers you not to help, then you should probably help so that your conscience is clear. However, if you feel used and unappreciated, then you might develop a resentful attitude, and that would be worse I think. You know how far to let things go before you become resentful. Don't go that far! Don't be a martyr. Too bad more people don't have friends like you who do care enough to go to that much trouble for them!
2006-12-02 07:35:33 · answer #1 · answered by wannaknow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How are they usung you? You didn't say.
edited to add:
I am sorry. I have many relatives who 'help' people, as a way to get their claws into their lives. HAve you seen the episode of Frazier where Frazier helps build a 'Habitat for Humanity'
house?
It is very good that you guys helped them out. That was a very comapssionate thing to do.
But I can't give you an answer.
Sorry to have to ask these things, but: Were you trying to get all up in their business? Were you trying to be manipulative? Did you think that helping them entitled you to being able to tell them what to do with their home, etc.?
If none of the above is the case, then just let it go. People are bizarre sometimes, and the Lord sees everything. You bear his blessing.
Be well.
2006-12-02 15:21:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to tell sometimes if people really need help, or if they are using us. Those are times that we must Reilly on The Holy Spirit to give us discernment. If you realize someone is taking advantage, I would stop waisting resources on them. I don't believe you would be doing something wrong.
2006-12-02 15:26:14 · answer #3 · answered by Minister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...what you did was commendable, but not necessarily helpful as they were in no distress. You risked your wellbieng for naught. They should have been prepared to live in those conditions, without electricity, etc.
You called to see if they were alright, and that is enough
2006-12-02 15:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by mikeiscold 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋