Ok im 14 yrs old and i have a 3 month old son i named him after my best friend dylan and dylan had been like my best friend for almost 3 yrs now and when i first got pregnant he accepted it and still was there for me now that ive had my son me and dylan have been closer and i really like him and i wonder if i admitted it to him now its a little wierd but i still hang out with him and hes still my best friend i go over his house and stuff still and i sit in his lap and talk to him and we even sleep in the same bed togethor but think i should do anything with him and im like tottally in love with him have been for years.
the babies father is out of the question he was a bad person and he is in jail currently for stagetory rape etc.
2006-12-02 07:11:50 · 20 answers · asked by samantha_lawson23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
IF YOU THINK THAT IT WILL MESS UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR FRIEND THEN YOU MIGHT NEED TO HAVE A SIT DOWN TALK WITH HIM AND FIND OUT HOW HE FEEL ABOUT BECAUSE YOU NEED TO FIND OUT HOW DO FEEL ABOUT, REMEMBERING THAT YOU DON'T WANT TO DO NOR SAY ANYTHING TO MESS UP WHAT YOU ALL HAVE GOING ON NOW, SO FIND OUT MORE ABOUT HIS FEELING FOR BEFORE YOU GO THROWING OUT YOUR FEELINGS AND BIG UPS TO HIM FOR PLAYING A FATHER A ROLE FOR YOUR LITTLE ONE BECAUSE ANYBODY CAN BE A DADDY BUT IT TAKE A REAL MAN TO BE A FATHER, AND KEEP YOUR HEAD UP DON'T LET NOTHING AND NO ONE BRING CAUSE YOU GOT A BABY AT YOUNG AGE BECAUSE WE ALL MAKE MISTAKE SOME OF US LEARN FROM THEM AND SOME OF DON'T BUT LOVE YOURSELF AS WELL YOUR KID AND DON'T LET THAT STOP FROM GOING ON IN LIFE LET THAT BE STRIVE USE HIM FOR YOU DOING SOMETHING POSITIVE IN YOUR LIFE AS A MATTER OF FACT LET THAT BE YOUR ONLY MAIN THING IN YOUR LIFE YOU DON'T NEED A MAN TO BE A GOOD MOTHER NOR TO HAVE SOMEBODY YOU GOT A MAN RIGHT THERE WITH YOU NOW THAT SLEEP WITH YOU AND DEPEND ON YOU SO I THINK THAT'S ENOUGH AND IF YOU SOMEONE TO TALK TO E-MAIL ME AT MZ.SMITH2B@YAHOO.COM BYE
2006-12-02 08:30:08 · answer #1 · answered by FREDIA S 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You've got a baby to take care of and that should be the most important thing right now, not a guy. It sounds like this friend of yours has been there for you for awhile. If he does like you, then he will wait. You either have a friend for life, or a boyfriend for awhile. Your still young. It doesnt mean you'll never date this guy, but just wait awhile. Take care of your lil one. Have Dylan over to help if he wants. Being friends first with someone is usually better than going straight to dating them.
2006-12-02 07:57:11 · answer #2 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ok, well, I recently turned 16 so, just reading this I was like WTF!?
But I guess that's not exactly the best thing to say. So here is my advice. While the past was bad, there is nothing you can do about it know. The LAST thing you should be worried about is a date. You have a son that needs your care.
As for this boy, it is great that he is your friend, but I suggest not rushing into any realtion ship now, take care of your son so he doesn't have to deal with anything you do!
2006-12-02 07:19:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
you need not be thinking about dylan your friend.. you need to learn form your mistake and yes!!! having a ababy at the age of 14 is a mistake so please dont sleep with your friend.. you are much too young to be involved with any one at this point.. unfortunatelly you have a son and he should be the focus now..not dylan your friend.... you are doing things backwards....how about focusing on education also so that little dylan can have a better life than you have...birth control girl if yo must have sex so that big dylans life is not messed up like yours so early...
2006-12-02 07:20:12 · answer #4 · answered by mmm..whynot 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Quit sleeping in the same bed with a man. Did you not learn anything? How many illegitimate kids are you going to bring into this world? Get a clue!
2006-12-02 08:33:48 · answer #5 · answered by sheeny 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
ur friend dylan sounds really nice. but you need to make sure both of you are on the same page. what might seem like something more than just a friendship to you might not be what he's looking for. just make sure your being fair to him too. you don't want to force your baby onto him.
2006-12-02 08:08:42 · answer #6 · answered by nina 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Girl! You crazy!? You have a BABY...you shouldn't be thinking about you next 'someone'. You have a human being to take care of now. Your son needs you, be the mom you now have to be. All good things come in time. You cant be selfish at a time like this.
2006-12-02 07:19:59 · answer #7 · answered by ziomy 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
its great that youhave such a good friend. you are so young to have the responsibility of a baby. are your parents supportive? are you trying to finish school? its so important for you to get your education so you can support yourself and grow to have a good life for you and the baby. its ok to admit havings feelings for your friend but don't rush into any major changes. you both need time to enjoy being your age and experiencing normal lives. If you do change your relationship to include sex....please use rubbers and birth control. you don't need more complications now. good luck
2006-12-02 07:22:43 · answer #8 · answered by katlady 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This might be hard concept for you to grasp but you have a baby that needs you to take care of it and you shouldn't be worrying about your next date!! If Dylan is truly your friend, he would completely understand you being a mother to your child.
2006-12-02 07:14:44 · answer #9 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
You have had to grow up fast. Slow down. Raise your son and give yourself time to grow along with him. There will be plenty of time to date and if Dylan is the one to love you'll know for he will always be there for you both.
2006-12-02 07:18:31 · answer #10 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋