My fiance and I live with my parents in seperate rooms, we are new christians and want to find a place to live together. We are waiting for his divorce to finalize then we are having a small ceremony at our church. My mom feels this is wrong, even though she did it with her husband. p.s. Im 27 and he is 31 we are not children here and we have children from previous marriages.
2006-12-02 07:07:55 · 14 answers · asked by Jim&Mindie S 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You should wait to live together until the divorce is finalized and you two are married.
If you two are both born of God Christians, pray to God together about it and get the Word from God.
God would rather you seek His direction and obey Him.
2006-12-02 07:15:39 · answer #1 · answered by t a m i l 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure what you are looking for exactly but.....
1) you say you are new Christians
2) what your mom did in the past does not grant you the right to do the same.
3) as new Christians how strong do you think you can stay and for how long?
I guess what I am saying is really you are the only ones to know if this is the right thing for you to do. Sure I could quote scripture to you telling you it is wrong.....blah blah blah. But I think you already know that and are looking for a way not to except it. If you will live together, and the goal is not to "be" together until you are married, how long can you be in the same home with no one to answer to without giving into the urges that will surely follow?
If you are both committed and can hold yourselves accountable then hey.....why not. But if you can't then you should steer clear of living together until you are married.
Hope this helps.
2006-12-02 15:52:29 · answer #2 · answered by Mikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Romans 12:2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
First of all, being a "new born again Christian" you need to leave your old sinful lifestyle and life a righteous life of the Lord. This means in plain english... you cannot have any relationship with that man because that is a sin of adultery.
Exodus 20:14 Thou shalt not commit adultery
Proverbs 6:32 But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.
Did you know that the only time God will aprove of divorce is if one of the spouces have committed adultery against the other one?
Deuteronomy 24:1-3 When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favor in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house.
2 And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's wife.
The finding of uncleanness is adultery. The spouce who was victim of their spouce being an adulterous can remarry, but the one who committed the adultery cannot remarry or cause others to also commit adultery as well.
Matthew 5: 31-32 It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement:
32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
Now you both have commited adultery in the eyes of God, because you did not wait for the divorce before you got together as a couple.
Matthew 7:21 Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven.
Just because the rest of this world has become accustomed to out of marriage affairs does not mean that God will bless that union. The way of this sinful world goes against the laws of God, and has done this for far too many years now. Because every one else in this corrupt world is doing this, people forget that God does not approve in it, and your Mother is right for being against this.
This is the word of God.
2006-12-02 15:24:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bible is clear about divorce; God doesn't like it. But, once your fiance's divorce is finalized, pray with him and your parents. Ask God to show you whats right to do, he always knows best. Also, after it is finalized, wait a while. Do you realy love him? You have to ask yourself this and wait. Don't rush into marrage right after a previous one didn't work. The most I can say after that is pray. I'll pray for you too.
2006-12-02 15:19:10 · answer #4 · answered by Rach 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what the question is, but until you two are married, you should not sleep in the same bed, or even have sexual acts between you. If not for the sake of your beliefs, then for common sense. If it is found out that you are living as man and wife (living together, having sex), it could complicate his divorce.
May you know the Lord Jesus, and have peace.
2006-12-02 15:14:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong to live together before Marriage but, I shouldn't say that to people because I moved in with my fiancee (That is my husband now)at the time 2001. Well, to be honest with you God forgives everything you do hear on earth. It's between you and the Lord.
2006-12-02 15:13:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you truly are Christians, then you shouldn't live together before you are married, regardless of what you have done before, regardless of what your mother has done. It's difficult to start from the beginning, as if you've never been married and never lived with anyone. But you should wait.
2006-12-02 15:14:07 · answer #7 · answered by Keri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you asking if living in separate rooms is Biblical? Sure. Fornication is sex outside of marriage and that would be a no no. I am not sure what the question is.
May GOD bless you and your fiance.
2006-12-02 15:14:16 · answer #8 · answered by Bye Bye 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a college freshman and I know nothing about marriage so I'm not going to tell you whether it's wrong or not, but I would encourage you to pray fervently about this and read 1 Corinthians chapter 7.
2006-12-02 15:17:42 · answer #9 · answered by bachlava_9 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why people your age are living with parents, I don't know. But, this I do know, as long as you're living with them....they make the rules.
2006-12-02 15:12:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋