i have been goin out wit this guy jordan for about a week now and he really likes me and i like him 2. but then theres this guy jake who i really like and i have known longer than jordan and now all of a sudden jake likes me and i cheated on my boyfrend with jake and i dont know wat 2 do cuz i like them both alot and i dont want 2 hurt either of them. and jake knows that i got a boyfrend but my boyfriend does NOT know bout jake... some 1 plz help me.
2006-12-02 06:39:32 · 16 answers · asked by Jessica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Very interesting question. I can tell that your heart is torn between both of these people that you obviously have strong feelings for. I have tried to be in a relationship with two people at once in the past (I had a fiance living up north and had a relationship with someone else in the south where i went to college). I found, however, that after a while (after the initial infatuation phase) with the new individual it will become clear which person you desire the most. Whoever starts giving you the "tummy tickles" (be it the ex or the new person) is the one you need to go after. In my opinion it is perfectly cool to love both of them at the same time (believe me there are FAR worse crimes than tossing out a little extra love) until it becomes apparent which one captures your heart. If you play the "game" the way society (and your current love) expects you to by breaking up with one person before going after another you very well might find yourself a lonely and unhappy old man. I've become emotionally callous to so called "cheating" a long time ago and have a clear understanding now that you need to basically go by the rule that "everything is fair in love and war" and find your true love. If I had not acted as stated above, I would not be happily married with a new baby (a miracle in my eyes) now. I hope you trust I am a good person because I speak from my heart. It is time for you my friend to listen to your heart right now. Do whatever you need to do to give both people a chance at capturing your heart. It is a noble cause and worth any guilt you may encounter during the process. Your heart and your soul will thank you for the sacrifice. True happiness awaits, but like all good things it comes with a price. Pay it in full and the guiding light of love will lead your heart to it's rightful owner.
2006-12-03 01:29:56 · answer #1 · answered by Bumbo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating no matter what the reasoning is, is always wrong !
by doing that you show that you have no respect for either man - not the I'mpression you want to pull off im sure!! when you want to be with someone you have to make that commitment and if you don't know if you do or not maybe neither one is really that special then. i don't want to come off being mean or anything, i did it back when i was a teen but after 5 or 6 years of having it done back and the one time that i did it, you just realize that it doesn't mean you care about both that much - it means you don't care about either one enough - I'm sure it would be hard for you if roles were reverse with either of these men. so you should show them both the respect we all want and deserve and figure out what you want - even if it means telling them both to take a hike and wait for that REALLY special someone. i know its not an easy decision to make but it shows alot of character to be able to over come our primal needs. i wish you the best of luck in your decision!!! <3 and i hope i could help!!
:)
2006-12-02 15:36:24 · answer #2 · answered by imdisturbed_217 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would stay with jordan because everytime i have a boyfriend some other guys come along that seem better then if i leave my boyfriend it never works out with the other guy. i think because it is wrong to cheat it makes you feel like you like jake more when it could just be the adrenaline from cheating. just try to work it out with your boyfriend and if you still want jake then you should break up with him. cheating hurts.
2006-12-02 14:46:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really have a problem here. But it's simple if Jack knows about Jordan tell him that you like him a lot and that you still want to go out with him but you can't leave you're boyfriend yet and if he agrees you'll play a game you will be in a part of a day with one and in the rest whit the other if not then choose the one that makes you fell better and makes you laugh.
2006-12-02 14:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by Roxanitza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jakes a crud ball who anin't worth ****! hE KNOWS YOU HAVE A boyfriend. Whoever you choose will determine what type of person u are. u already made a mistake of sleeping with Jake. don't be labeled a HOE!
2006-12-02 14:45:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
cant have them both unless you can juggle .. this is heading for trouble big time so be careful and the other guy if he is will to share you than he dont think that highly of you and never will
2006-12-02 14:43:30 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to tell your boyfriend about jake... i mean he'll be devastated but at least you were honest and you told him... depending on the outcome youll figure out what to do...
2006-12-02 14:42:10 · answer #7 · answered by Jackie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been going out with him for a week, he hardly qualifies as your boyfriend. You weren't cheatinng, you were shopping.
2006-12-02 14:48:06 · answer #8 · answered by Jason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 weeks is too early for a commitment anyways.
2006-12-02 14:42:48 · answer #9 · answered by chicken farmer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?? If you like 2 of them, it means you don't like either of them!
2006-12-02 14:42:45 · answer #10 · answered by Webballs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋