My 36 yr old daugher is a mother of a 9 yr old daughter. She will not bath regularly she refuses to take care of her personal needs. She is very pretty but she goes around town with her daughter looking like a needy person. I refuse to go with her when she looks like this. We fuss over this all the time. I did not raise her like this.As a child she bathed twice a day, always emmaculately. I know she has a depression problem but not so bad she can't bath. I have been told she does this just to anger me. All the family is disgusted with this behavior. I know this is embarrassing to her daughter. She does not have to work so she has plenty of time to take showers.It really makes me sad. Please tell me where she can meet a nice guy to make her take an interest in her appearance. I try to tell her she will be old before long and her nature beauty will be gone. She thinks I am a prune when I advise her to wear make up, dress up, who knows whom she may meet while she is out. MEN TELL HER!!
2006-12-02 06:34:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have read some of your other questions, and it sounds like you have a "problem" with all of your kids.
2006-12-03 03:40:39 · answer #1 · answered by Lacey 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The more you pressure her the more she won't. Maybe having a nice talk with her instead would help. How do you know her depression isn't that bad????? Depression does alot of different things to people. I got hurt on my job and it has 10 months since I have actually worked--I worked 60-70 hours per week and now I don't and yes, I am very depressed and have had the same problem. A person has to force themselves to do things--like eat, you can't sleep--you feel like you just exist and no one cares and there is nothing you feel you can do to help it. Be there for her--maybe she needs you as mother--not a nag.
2006-12-02 06:40:24 · answer #2 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow - you sound like a very uncaring mother. Y are you so concerned with what other people think - your daughter needs help she is depressed. She doesn't need a mother at the age of 36 years old telling her how to fix herself or to find her a man what she needs is someone to lean on and maybe someone that would take the time to do some research about depression and try and find her a decent therapist. O and its not all about you!! I highly doubt she is depressed just to anger you, ever stop to think you may be adding to her depression while your harping on how she looks!!! Stop being so self centered and get your daughter some help!!
2006-12-02 06:41:08 · answer #3 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
instead of always reminding her of it. (she knows what she is doing) Find something exciting for you and her to do together. She has got in a Lazy rut and she just simply don't care. Your her Mom you know what she likes........Take her out for a day that she will never forget. Have fun.....She has forgot how much fun life can be. She doesn't have any ambition to even want to get dressed up. Why is she not working? An idle mind is a Devils playground. Help her find a reason to get up in the morning. It sounds to me like she a severe case of depression. Don't take her depression mildly.........She needs your Loving help. I once knew someone like that. Is all she had was junky clothes to wear and she didn't work and one day her Mom came into town and took her shopping for a whole new wardrobe. She turned her life around, she dressed up every day and felt better about herself. She got a job and now she is soooo Prissy......and beautiful. Good Luck Mom!
2006-12-02 07:08:46 · answer #4 · answered by horsecrazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depression is a serious health issue! It is not something that people can just SNAP out of. It sounds like your daughter may benefit from speaking with a health care professional. It might also help your family to do some research into depression so you are able to understand exactly what depression is and how it might manifest itself. People who are depressed often lose interest in things like this. Depression is not something that is done to upset other members of the family...
2006-12-02 07:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest asking whats wrong in her life rather than yelling at her for her appearance. You need to find out what caused this change. Maybe her medication for depression no longer is working. She might need a higher dose or something else.
Also suggest she have a spa day and you watch her daughter so she can relax and remember what it feels like to be pampered and be pretty
2006-12-02 06:42:56 · answer #6 · answered by Laura s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound's like she is in need of mental health. if she isn't carefull all it takes as a call to child protection and she runs the risk of loosing her child to the foster and state care system . drop the hint to her that she should clean up for her daughters sake . maybe play the revirse phycology and that might work . make her think you don't care what she looks like . cause she is her own woman. with my kids i always told them i don't care who you are with or what you do as long as you are happy . its not easy comvincing them of it . but once they get the idea it might give her something to think about. she might just need a friend to talk to . sometimes that is all that is needed to help/. not someone judging her or telling her what to do or why . but just someone to listen without judgement. depression can be a crude state of life . . i knew a lady that was bi-polor. she got on meds and now shes a totaly differnt person . as long as shes on meds . she could met a nice man in church . at a store . at the mall. lots of places .
god bless and good luck
2006-12-02 07:13:20 · answer #7 · answered by single-rose@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is depressed and should seek professional help. You can tell her you love her and are concerned about this but don't criticize her. Try empathy and love as well as encouraging her to get help.
2006-12-02 06:37:24 · answer #8 · answered by doryanne949 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kids having sex at young age they drop out of school get their taken away or they had sex with their parents but if a an guy older than you he get arrested for child molestation PR sex with a Miner he get 20 years behind bars and you get your child in adoption service
2016-03-13 01:44:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should go to counseling, or a psychologist. Everything happens for a reason.
2006-12-02 06:37:31 · answer #10 · answered by leazngurl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋