I am a sophomore in college and I feel like I'm being pressured by my friends to be up to their level as far as dating and having sex. Honestly, I didnt make out with a guy until just about a year ago and it was a spur of the moment type thing. Just recently, a guy friend of mine straight out called me a prude. I have always been conservative and shy. That is how I am. Most people could not believe that I didnt kiss a guy until my first year of college. I think I have always had an issue with confidence because I always think that a guy could do better and shouldnt be with me. Guys have told me that I am beautiful but I think most of the time that they dont mean it. I would much rather study and do well in college then go out find a guy and have sex all the time as my friends do. I've never been in a real relationship and I feel that its too late. I feel like guys will judge me as soon as they find out my past history as far as being prude. I dont know what to do and I feel so lonely.
2006-12-02 06:21:38 · 6 answers · asked by that one girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there are a lot of "prudes" at any college. there are a few vocal promiscious people. don't compromise yourself or your values for those idiots.
2006-12-02 06:26:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends are not people that pressure you, they respect your wishes and your dreams and they don't ask you to do things you don't want to do. There is nothing wrong with the pace you are moving at. You have to do what you want to do. College can be many things but your using it to your greatest advantage and taking it seriously and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. It doesn't matter what other people think hon, its what you feel in your heart. When you are ready for more it will come knocking on your door. Until that arrives do what you think is best which is study and educate yourself. As you go along in life you will meet many people some will be great friends and some will not don't sweat it, keep your chin up and take care of yourself!!
2006-12-02 14:31:02 · answer #2 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a senior in college now and trust me, I've been there. You're very smart to want to focus on your studies, because that is essentially why you are there. Don't be afraid to go out and have fun, but don't push your limits. The right kind of guy will be impressed by your "innocence", it's cute and adorable, and it's something that you can't ever get back. The wrong kind of guy will, of course, want to have sex with you...but it won't be any different for them than if they had sex with a different girl. Sample the dating scene, but you don't have to look for anything serious right now, and trust me, when you've found the right guy you'll be happy that you waited. I'm engaged now, and I'm glad I didn't bring any regrets with me.
2006-12-02 14:32:15 · answer #3 · answered by Firefly 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to like you have your priorits straight. get your education and the rest will come. Lonely is okay--you do what you feel you need to do--you definitely do not all those complications in college!
2006-12-02 14:25:49 · answer #4 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres nothing wrong with being reserved...but there is everything wrong with feelin unworthy of guys attention...u shd be comfiratable being ureslf, dnt let anyone make u do wht u dnt wanna do for any reason...pls see urself as loveable..believe me u ll find the guy who ll adore u for just being u!
2006-12-02 14:25:38 · answer #5 · answered by mouzz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is that a question or a confession ? be YOURSELF . that is how you handle peer pressure
2006-12-02 14:29:11 · answer #6 · answered by ilasun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋