I'm heartbroken.?

Question

Hi, im twelve years old, and my mother just died. I want to express my feelings, but I don't want to breakdown. What do I do???

Answer 1

Sometimes breaking down is good. If you have kept your feelings bottled up, then sometimes, the only way is to fall apart. Two years ago, when I was about 12 too, my grandfather died. I know that you were probably much closer to your mother, but I was devastated when he passed. I got into a depression, and my life started spiralling downward. All of that was because I didn't express my feelings, I just let them gather up inside. When I finally told everyone my feelings, It came out like an exploding volcano. I should have talked to my parents right away. If you don't feel comfortable talking directly to the rest of your family, ask your dad if you can see a psychiatrist. A psychiatrist is a trained proffesional who helps people sort out their feelings when they don't know how to comprehend them. It is best to do this, because they will help you be able to actually speak about how you feel when you don't know how to let them out.

Answer 2

I'm so sorry to hear about your mom, I'll keep you in my prayers.
Twelve is very young to have to deal with such a loss, I hope you have some family around you to help you through this.

There's nothing wrong with expressing your grief, please allow yourself to do so. I am much older than you, I have lost both my parents. Each loss was heartbreaking. My father passed away first and I was unable to deal with the loss, we were very close.

A friend suggested I go to a grief seminar that the local hospital offered. I didn't think I needed it but boy was I wrong, it saved me! They taught us that "unresolved" grief causes a lot of mental and physical problems. You need to grieve for your loss.

Maybe you can find out if the hospitals near you offer this support group. Finding other people who are feeling the same and trying to deal with their own losses can be very helpful if you give it a chance.

I wish you all the best, God bless you.

Answer 3

I have a 12 year old - so sorry for your loss. I hope you have strong family support - rely on them. Also, keep a journal - this will help. There are camps that are offered to kids who have lost a parent - have your family assist you with finding one. Do you have a church? If so, rely on that and get as involved as you can. Also, it is not a bad thing to "break down" -- a good cry can actually begin to heal the body. Please know that you will always feel the pain and loss - but the hurt will start to go away as you heal.. Start a scrap book of you and your mom and all the things you did together -- that will help -- also fill it with letters to your mom with your thoughts.
Good luck to you.

Answer 4

Oh! you precious child. I feel so bad for what you're going through. Express your feelings and if you break down and cry, then that's what you need to do. Is your father or grandmother or another caring female relative there to help you? If not, then talk with your school councellor or the school nurse and express yourself and also ask for grief councelling. Do you know any other kids at school or in your neighborhood who's lost their mother who you can talk with. Remember to pray, the Lord will hear you. I hope and pray you'll get the help you need.

Answer 5

you have to greive at some point you cant keep it all inside you.

When her grandmother died my 11 year old daughter got a pen and paper and just wrote down all the things she felt. this mayb a good place to start

Answer 6

im sorry about what happened to your mom but at twelve i lost my little brother and it is nothing near losing a mom but what u can do is talk to a counselor or friends. or you can go to therapy that can help.

-i hope you get better

Answer 7

i say you should write it down. You'll express all you feelings and might ever break down. Put in the end you will feel relieaved. When you done writing everything down, burn it. all your sadness and heartache will burn with it. (Sorry about your loss)