My bf wants to take a break..?

Question

Me and my bf have been arguing over the past couple of days over stupid things (like how his mom acts towards me) and we almost broke up over the last argument...and then he tells me it may be best for us not to talk to each other for a couple of days...but we only see each other on weekends and talk in between each other's classes..so if we talked any less, it would be all bad...but he says that we will have a chance to miss each other...wtf?
i'm worried that the relationship might change...is it better to not talk to each other or try to work things out?

we have been together for 7 months..its not just a booty call!

Answer 1

As a guy, I can tell you that from the ages of 16-22, most men don't like to talk about their feelings. Instead of talking things out OR taking a brief break, why not do both? If you constantly badger him to talk, you may drive him away. If it were my situation, I would have a conversation about goals for the relationship and then take advantage of the weekend (or even the holiday break) and not talk to him for three or four days. I know it is going to be murder on the nerves, but absence makes the heart grow fonder. Keep yourself busy with your girlfriends and busy projects At the end of that time, see if he isn't going crazy missing you as much as you are missing him.

Answer 2

Went through the same thing about a month and a half ago. Sorry to say we're not together anymore but we're much better as friends. If you have problems and just choose to forget about them and not resolve them they'll continue to be problems. Just don't make the mistake i constantly made. I was always ready to jump back in the relationship thinking i couldn't live without that person when in reality i love him very much but i'm over him already. But good luck to you, if there's a mutual amount of love between the both of you do what YOU think is best. Sometimes its hard to let go but you wanna be happy. I'd rather be sad now than sad and disappointed with my relationship in the future.

Answer 3

If he wants to take a break, then you have to respect his request. Trying to talk him out of it will only make things worse. A lot of times a break will make you miss and appreciate one another (like he said), and things will be better afterwards.

If a couple of days' break ends up changing your relationship for the worse, then it wasn't meant to be. After all, it hasn't been all that great lately, has it? Tell him, "Okay. I think that's a good idea. We've been arguing a lot, and I think we both need a break." And then do it.

Taking a break doesn't mean breaking up! If you try to force a guy to "work things out," it will drive him away. What does "work things out" mean, anyway? Some people think it means trying to make the other person agree with you. That sure doesn't work.

Answer 4

I know it's crappy, but I've found that giving each other a couple days space really can help. Then try to work things out. Don't let his mother affect your relationship, women are always protective of thier sons, and a lot of times it comes off as rudeness, just ignore her and be very polite. Tell him you love him very much and if he thinks thats what you two need, you'll do it for him.


PS...relationships are hard work, anyone that says that it's supposed to be awesome all the time and you never need your own space has never been in a real relationship. men and women are just very different in these circumstances, women want to talk and men want to cool off, this is completely normal and happens to everyone, relax.

Answer 5

Guys seem to need "breaks" to cool off & feel less pressure.
My guy & I haven't talked for 4 days now. This is the longest. In the past, it usually would be a day or two, then he would call & act like nothing happened.
Good Luck!!

Answer 6

Arguing over stupid things really sucks. If you appreciated eachother more, senseless arguing would probably not be such an issue. Maybe you could do a few small, simple, and easy things on a regular basis that show your bf how much he means to you, actions like that are usually returned by similar actions... very good for relationships.

Answer 7

It means hes too chicken to break up with you. It probably is best for you to "take a break". Take a step back and think if you really want to be in this relationship. Take some time to focus on yourself and not your relationship with him. Do some things that make you feel good about yourself. Get in touch with some girl friends and spend some time with them. Spend some time with yourself and actually enjoy it, instead of worrying when he might call. He wants to see other people...or wants to be alone. Either way...Worry about how you feel. Not what hes thinking.

Answer 8

"Hold on loosely" to quote 38 special. Give him his break. In the mean time lightly flirt with other guys. If that doesnt send him running back with his fuse lit hes probably got someone else on his mind. If thats the case move on. I know thats easier said than done but youll be glad you did later and H.S. relationships are usually practice for when your soul mate arrives anyway. "We keep on playin those mind games forever" (John Lennon). Good luck.

Answer 9

Well i would try to work things out i mean what do you have to loose so at least try! And then if you still don't get along well then sorry to tell you but you might need to have a little/big break

Answer 10

I personally think that it's best to talk and work things out instead of taking breaks. Tell him why you'd rather talk things out and if he still wants to take a break, ask him what the rules and stipulations are. You don't want to go through a Ross/Rachel "We were on a break!!" thing.